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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hiii ^^; |
| Shadow50 |
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Posted: 02 Sep 2011, 4:05 am
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Replies: 9
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Hi Siennea, welcome aboard.
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How can I have such a high IQ and yet be so slow??? |
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Posted: 02 Sep 2011, 4:03 am
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Replies: 36
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| I'm the same. I think many of us are. High IQ is often balanced by low Social Q. I don't see it as a problem for me ... more a problem for others. I think adopting an automatic instant response is required. Something like "Let me think about that for a moment". Saying nothing is seen by others as ru... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Requirement to state i have Autisim? |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2011, 9:44 am
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Replies: 9
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| I just tell employers that I have a very low tolerance for politics and hidden agendas and I tend to be more straightforward than I probably should be. I'm also very family-focused and tend to focus on getting my work done and getting home to them at night. (which gives me an out for any work-relat... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Scared |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2011, 9:34 am
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Replies: 3
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Not good to judge yourself.
People are often their own harshest critic.
When I'm in your position, I just turn up and do my best. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So how can I tell if a girl is an aspie? |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2011, 9:23 am
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Replies: 12
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| Wølfmaster here, How can I tell if a girl is an aspie? If I date one she would not have to ask questions about certain things related to AS. I am so freaking lonely nowadays. Aspies are different from each other. Some you will pick easily, others not. Some of us can pretend normal pretty good, but ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Prostitutes |
| Shadow50 |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2009, 8:00 am
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Replies: 76
Views: 12,126
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| Most women I know ... have the attitude that sex is something they allow men to do to them rather than a mutually enjoyable experience. Then why were they born with clitorises? Because they were designed to enjoy sexual pleasure as well as males. Yet most of them have chosen to override perfectly n... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating Agencies and Escorts |
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Posted: 18 Apr 2009, 12:38 am
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Replies: 6
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| Anyone had experience with the Aspie Affection website ... isn't that a dating/introduction agency for aspies? I haven't checked it out yet. I wouldn't recommend it. There aren't very many profiles at all. Hmmm, then maybe we need to put some effort into it to make it work. I would have thought, gi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating Agencies and Escorts |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2009, 9:50 am
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Replies: 6
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Anyone had experience with the Aspie Affection website ... isn't that a dating/introduction agency for aspies?
I haven't checked it out yet. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help! NT needs help learning how to love an Aspie |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2009, 9:30 am
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Replies: 32
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| So don't give me any "Mmmmwwwwwwaaaaahahahahaha, Pffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff" sh** because I fight to uphold my reality every damn day, I don't hide. It's hard and there is A LOT of pain, but it's better than being alone. Hey, nothing personal intended, it was just my immediate reaction to 18... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How Often For Sex |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2009, 8:00 am
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Replies: 26
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| Went to a men's health night a while ago. The professionals said that for physical, mental and emotional health, men needed sex on average twice a week. I would be interested to know if anyone knows of a professional opinion for women. When I was first married, it was 2 or 3 times a day. After one y... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Nacked Partys |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2009, 7:53 am
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Replies: 28
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| Would have frightened the livng daylights out of me when I was younger. I could do it now, but don't have the opportunity. If you are having one, send me an invite. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Asperger Man tries to be a leader. |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2009, 7:50 am
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Replies: 5
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| The military has some perfect aspects for the autistic, alongside plenty of horrors. Being given direct unambiguous orders, following a strictly structured routine, perfect work for the obsessive. Meanwhile, the standardization through moulding people towards military efficiency emphasizes our posi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help! NT needs help learning how to love an Aspie |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2009, 7:37 am
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Replies: 32
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| but I didn't know these signals until later when I was about 18-19, I guess you call it late bloomer? Mmmmwwwwwwaaaaahahahahaha, Pffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff, what would you call it when you don't get the hang of this till 55 ????????? Neanderthal perhaps? Australopithecine even? And I still w... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Am I alone? |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2009, 5:25 am
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Replies: 15
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| Looks like you are definitely not alone. I was the same when at school or college. My aspie nephew and neice are close to your age and are the same. Only difference with me is we didn't have computers, so I used to read hardcopy encyclopedias, technical manuals and comics. Later in life I got involv... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help! NT needs help learning how to love an Aspie |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2009, 5:14 am
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Replies: 32
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Katatonic wrote: Its commendable that you're actually trying to understand him. Most people expect us to succumb to their NT ways and "snap out of it".
I'd say the most important thing to an Aspie relationship with an NT? Patience.
Agree, but my most important thing would be acceptance. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Really important I need some help with this!?!?! |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2009, 5:10 am
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Replies: 7
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| Sometimes it is easier in the long run to just ride out things that will be over fairly quickly rather than stressing about them. I sometimes have people propose really stupid and inefficient things at my workplace. Depending on who the other person/people are, I sometimes just go with the flow rath... |
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