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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Freaking ambivalence (new update) |
| suebear |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2009, 1:22 am
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Replies: 8
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| Sorry, man. My advice: relax, let go of the bitterness. Nothing good will come of hanging onto this negativity and resentment. And btw, I take offense to you referring to women as "the whole wretched lot of them" and implying that just because a girl isn't interested makes her somehow a bad person. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is anyone here from the Chicagoland area looking for a BF? |
| suebear |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2008, 2:21 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,757
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| You should write each other, an older woman could be a lot of fun. Er..I don't want to be an "older woman"...makes me sound like a milf or cougar. Plus, even though 5 or so years might not seem like a big age gap, there's a significant amount of life experience/transition/development that occurs in... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is anyone here from the Chicagoland area looking for a BF? |
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Posted: 14 Dec 2008, 3:19 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,757
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I am, but if you're indeed 20 that's a bit too young for me.  Good luck though!
Anyone in the Chicago area who is in the middle to late 20s looking for a GF? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: handling arguments/emotive discussion |
| suebear |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2008, 9:04 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,247
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kahlua wrote: He does complain that I don't express my emotions and I don't ever tell him how much I care. I guess its to avoid being hurt.
Is this a common sentiment among other aspies, I wonder? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusion about mixed signals |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2008, 10:47 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 6,055
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| I don't get it. We've been getting so close emotionally over the past few weeks. We spend hours having awesome conversations, which are funny and flirty and occasionally bordering on sexual (in a gentle flirty way, not creepy or anything) so I was so sure I had the green light that he felt the same ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusion about mixed signals |
| suebear |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2008, 7:54 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 6,055
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| OK, so I told him and it got through to him what I meant exactly and my heart is now torn to pieces. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusion about mixed signals |
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Posted: 06 Oct 2008, 10:30 pm
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Replies: 34
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| An (albeit frustrating) update for anyone who cares: I told the aspie guy I like how I felt. One night we got on the topic of relationships and he admitted not ever having been in one before. I told him about my past relationships and he told me about his past rejections. I told him straight up that... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Neurotypical Women respond to this only please! |
| suebear |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2008, 10:42 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 8,229
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ToadOfSteel wrote: Why aren't there more NT women like you, and if there are, why aren't they swarming to meet me? 
Mmm, I dunno  I think I'm just your average INTJ girl. I would say "garden variety INTJ" but given the statistics of INTJs in the population, that's possibly a contradiction. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Neurotypical Women respond to this only please! |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2008, 9:30 am
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Replies: 18
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| This puzzles me, what do you neurotypical women who date slightly autistic guys see in us autistic guys? I mean, let's be honest, we are no casanovas or charming gentleman. What I am asking is this- Did you seek out autistic guys for relationships, or was it by merely by chance that some of the guy... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusion about mixed signals |
| suebear |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2008, 2:52 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 6,055
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| If I'm working or focusing, or even just immersed in my head taking some time for repose, I can be a world-class jackass when interrupted, according to those around me... I'm curious ...what's going on in your head at the moment others around you think you're a world-class jackass? I assume you're ... |
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Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: Least Favorite Characters on Freaks and Geeks |
| suebear |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2008, 10:45 am
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Replies: 1
Views: 1,884
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| Kim Kelly, only because I knew girls like her in junior high (slu*ty, unstable, attention-seeking) and they made my life hell. She laughs at Lindsay's misfortunes and has bailed on her so many times and comes off generally untrustworthy and manipulative. While I like Sam, I can see your points about... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusion about mixed signals |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2008, 10:20 am
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Replies: 34
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| OK, I have another question. I noticed a pattern in my interaction with my aspie guy. He tends to act indifferent and seemingly cold to me when I'm the one who initiates contact with him (IM, phone). However, when he's the one who initiates contact with me, that's when he's super friendly and sweet.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: hurt |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2008, 9:11 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,889
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| Hey lotus, I'm reading an interesting book right now about loneliness which I thought of after reading your post. One of the things it talks about is how loneliness impairs a person's ability to self-regulate their feelings and how it impairs one's executive control. in other words loneliness can ne... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusion about mixed signals |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2008, 9:12 pm
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Replies: 34
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| Thanks for your insights and advice, everyone who replied. I'm going to tell him this weekend when I see him. Will let you know how it goes... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Heartbroken |
| suebear |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2008, 9:11 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,161
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| I feel so alone... I had someone special who seemed to like me and we talked over email for several months. She was very sweet, sensitive, and understanding and I enjoyed our interaction so much that it didn't matter if she lived overseas or not. For the first time in my life I seemed to have found... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusion about mixed signals |
| suebear |
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Posted: 21 Sep 2008, 9:50 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 6,055
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| Dont throw yourself at him to quickly or in one move, take it in baby steps. Do many aspie guys tend to get turned off by something like that? Perhaps I've been making him feel smothered, for instance I've been going out of my way to contact him (usually IM or email...it's not like I'm phoning him ... |
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