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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Personal relationships, gendered expectations |
| Apep |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2009, 10:22 am
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Replies: 1
Views: 702
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| I thought about titling this post "Trouble with Women", but that sounds more appropriate for the Love & Dating forum... The other day, a former coworker mentioned his interest in someone with whom we had worked at our prior employer. He went on to describe favorably certain of her physical attri... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I hate going to the barber! |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2009, 8:40 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 4,865
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| Find a place and a barber with whom you're comfortable. I was with one barber for five years, following him several places. Then I cut my own hair for the next five years. Now I'm with my uncle's barber, who has cut his hair for almost 30 years and knows most of the people in my family. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Favorite way to travel? |
| Apep |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2009, 8:38 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 2,041
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| Plane, preferably first class. Then by foot or by chauffeured car or SUV. That's just what I prefer. The real world is slightly different. |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Please Explain All The OS Talk ! ! |
| Apep |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2009, 1:43 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,526
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| Many years ago, dinosaurs and other fantastic beasts roamed the earth. It was an age undreamed of: the endless September had begun, people would job-hop every few months with no ill effects, and everyone partied like it was 1999 because it was, in fact, 1999. Though I had used computers since the la... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: emo-ness to the over 9000th power... (need help with girl) |
| Apep |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2009, 12:01 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 2,104
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| Life is too short not to try. It's not easy, but ask her out, just don't insist on only your desired version of the relationship. I was talking with an old friend recently who had done that years ago with a mutual friend. He was an idiot. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What the heck is "dating"? |
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Posted: 29 May 2009, 12:11 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 5,551
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| In a comment thread elsewhere, I read that having five or fewer sexual partners is the new virginity. Sounds about right. Go to divorce360.com and play with their divorce calculator. Generally, the younger and less educated you are when you get married, the more likely you are to get divorced. I wen... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Everyone goes thru it" |
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Posted: 29 May 2009, 2:53 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,400
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| Outside of two incidents, one in kindergarten and another in 4th grade, I was never bullied. And the later incident involved a situation where a boy attacked me because he thought (incorrectly) that I pushed him on a staircase when he had merely stumbled. That I was bigger and smarter than most of t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does a Man really have to go out and by $150 Jeans etc? |
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Posted: 29 May 2009, 12:54 am
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Replies: 37
Views: 7,307
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| First stop should be here. AskMen.com is the first place I stop when I want advice. They also cater to different price ranges. Second stop should be here. Ask Andy About Clothes has very good advice and forums. You should be able to get by with Levi's 501s. But they won't look as good as the trendie... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Time for Divorce #2 |
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Posted: 28 May 2009, 12:32 am
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Replies: 21
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| I have been here before. My husband came to me claiming that because of my Asperger's, we should get divorced. He denied having anyone lined up, but his computer says otherwise. I found evidence tonight. I am really afraid. I don't know if I can make it on my own, I don't earn much and I have our 1... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Am I irrational or insane? |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 12:44 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,013
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| Ana, you want validation that Stan will not deliver. I've been on the other side of that relationship. It's not that you hate him, it's that you desperately need him to provide validation, right? If he can't do it, find someone else who can. Tell him this. If he can't understand it in those terms, d... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: lots of thought |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 12:27 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 935
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| I'd try a psychologist first. Your PCP should be able to offer a referral. When I mentioned it to my PCP, she didn't take it favorably. Needless to say, I've made many adjustments over the years. I won't pursue a formal DX because it would be pointless. I get by well enough. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I tell if a woman is checking me out? |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 12:24 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 23,650
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| You can't tell when a woman is checking you out. They generally have better peripheral vision than men, so they can do the "checking out" glance without us telling. Now if a woman is staring at you, look back. Smile, though not too much. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: confusing phenomenon |
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Posted: 21 May 2009, 2:34 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,295
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| Many years there was a Seinfeld episode that presented this issue. Propose a menage a trois. I'm not sure how that will improve things, but it could be interesting. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: On saying 'I love you' |
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Posted: 19 May 2009, 3:10 am
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Replies: 13
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| You don't want to say "I love you" too soon. Even if you do, even if you feel it, saying it too early can come off as too needy or pathetic. Working it in can be good, but don't be too oblique. The old stand-by "I think I'm falling in love with you" can work better than asking them how they would fe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living with a girlfriend. |
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Posted: 18 May 2009, 1:25 am
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Replies: 1
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| IANAL, but if unless there is something unusual about the ownership arrangement, your mother and you both have equal rights to the property. Worst case scenarios, you get an attorney ad litem and force a partition sale. If you're worried she might do something like call the cops on your girl, consul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The theme of the movie 'Liar Liar' x every person on earth. |
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Posted: 17 May 2009, 2:44 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 3,807
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| It would be overwhelming. People don't say they're fine because they're lying so much as they lack the time or energy to properly answer the question. Sometimes that is because their communication with the other person is content-free, but nonetheless required by politeness. |
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