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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: My dude moves forward, I just get scared... |
| OhkaBaka |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2018, 5:56 pm
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Replies: 5
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| My d00d graduated from elementary today and is headed off to middle school in the fall. I watched him today, I was proud and terrified. He was unusually difficult to read, tuned out through the ceremony (just as I would have been, only more intensely)... He is so damned smart, and sweet, and all the... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hoping to have finally landed on the right planet. |
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Posted: 22 May 2018, 5:18 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 382
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| My advice is read more and talk to professionals. Depression and BPD are tricky but also scary... There are a lot of things, even some specific to ASD that can appear to be depression that really aren't, but you can't screw around with a depression diagnosis just because you don't like it. Do the re... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: What type of work do you do? |
| OhkaBaka |
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Posted: 22 May 2018, 4:44 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 302
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| I'm a full stack developer/engineer for one of the big dogs. It is one of those things were I have worked for 10 different companies in the last 20 years, working my way to this point. Finding a place where I could continue to grow/earn as a producer without being required to shift into management (... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: What type of work do you do? |
| OhkaBaka |
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Posted: 22 May 2018, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 6
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JakeASD wrote: I work in a crappy part-time retail position. But I don’t have Asperger’s syndrome - I’ve been diagnosed with autism and ADHD.
From one combo meal to another: "WOO HOO!" and "Dude I am so sorry." |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: What's your favorite Autistic trait? |
| OhkaBaka |
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Posted: 22 May 2018, 4:35 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 1,003
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| My favorite trait of my son's is his literal/figurative cognition. He is fully aware that figurative speech is a thing and has no problem communicating with it (most of the time), but he hears everything literally first, then procs what it figuratively meant an instant later... but his wit is SO FAS... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: What's your favorite Autistic trait? |
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Posted: 22 May 2018, 4:33 pm
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Replies: 35
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| My favorite trait is getting lost in my inner world. I was trying to figure out my favorite (I for one mostly love being autistic, despite the challenges), and hadn't thought of this one. I'm a storyteller, and my special interests are almost always my stories... which makes them SO MUCH FUN to tel... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: What does your Avatar mean? |
| OhkaBaka |
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Posted: 22 May 2018, 4:20 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I've been using a dummy avatar until I saw this post and finally got around to uploading my standard avatar. Its all about my love for Japan, aircraft, haiku and perspective. I have been in love with aircraft since I was a toddler. I'm particularly fond of aircraft around the second world war, when ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are most Aspies INTPs or INTJs? |
| OhkaBaka |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2018, 4:13 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 665
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| I'm INTP, pretty firmly... my wife is an INTJ... our son is one or the other... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Burger King v McDonald's |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2018, 3:55 pm
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Replies: 16
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| BK... always... I was one of the weirdos who actually liked their weird fake fries back in the day... but the current ones are just...shrug... inferior to McDs... which in every other way horrifies me. But yeah... their prices are a little nutty... I could pay 7 for a whopper or 8 for an actual burg... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Do you ever get survivor's guilt from reading posts here? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 2:40 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I get the feeling. Mildly. "Guilt" might be a strong word for it. I think of it the same as white/male privilege... I can't DO anything about it, it is a thing that exists... I can be AWARE of it, and use my relative "success" to help out those who don't have the same advantages.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Much Does Your Autism Effect You? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2018, 2:33 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I feel like the inevitable (and arguably most autistic) response is... "How do you even quantify that?" For me, it fundamentally affects the way I think and act. In every scenario... ...at the same time, I pass 75% of the time as NT (85-90% of the time when I was younger and tried harder).... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Post something that made you happy today. |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2018, 5:30 pm
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Replies: 32,997
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: tequila? |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2018, 5:24 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Chambord Margaritas at ZTejas in Phoenix is about the limit of my willing tequila consumption. It is one of those things where crap tequila is awful and "good" tequila is expensive and I don't really want to pay for the difference. But that is the way of spirits I think... I have a very sp... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Feeling left out even in the adult aspie world |
| OhkaBaka |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2018, 2:14 pm
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Replies: 45
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Marknis wrote: People say to be yourself but they also say not to be anxious or shy and that confuses me.
I've long held that is the worst piece of advice ever given. Maybe just to people on the spectrum. Not that the advice is WRONG... strictly speaking... but confusing and misleading. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Feeling left out even in the adult aspie world |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2018, 2:11 pm
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Replies: 45
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| Maybe the issue isn't 'detractors' at all, merely people who disagree with you on some issues. Two people can disagree without being enemies, therefore it's possible that your 'detractors' haven't posted because they've seen nothing disagreeable. I do indeed have detractors. I just can't say their ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why would my family say these bad things about marriage? |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2018, 6:35 pm
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Replies: 77
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| * "Right now, you have to obey your parents. When you grow up, you will have to obey your wife." * "When your wife yells at you, you will be quiet and listen to her! She does it because she cares about you." * "You will meet a woman someday, and she'll care about you very m... |
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