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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can Online Dating Sites Work for An Aspie? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2010, 4:45 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 5,718
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| A few points here: Online dating is like playing poker -- unless you're James Bond with a magical supply of limitless chips to play at Casino Royale, the odds are stacked against you from the start, especially on free sites. This is because the dynamics of online dating are essentially like a bar or... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Intellectual compatibility = utimate AS hurdle in dating? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2010, 3:49 pm
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Replies: 134
Views: 16,319
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| I can speak from personal experience that it's profoundly awful to date someone beneath you intellect-wise. I'm trying to avoid sounding like an arrogant jerk here, but this has been a major problem for me all my dating life. As a backgrounder, I have an IQ marked at 140. I'm a Mensa candidate. I w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Intellectual compatibility = utimate AS hurdle in dating? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2010, 8:32 pm
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Replies: 134
Views: 16,319
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| I can speak from personal experience that it's profoundly awful to date someone beneath you intellect-wise. I'm trying to avoid sounding like an arrogant jerk here, but this has been a major problem for me all my dating life. As a backgrounder, I have an IQ marked at 140. I'm a Mensa candidate. I wa... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does she like me? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2010, 3:34 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 2,306
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| Hey gang, Just looking for some advice on women-related issues. Normally I'm good at reading a situation but I'd like some input from a few people. There's this woman I met at a conference a few weeks ago. There was some definite attraction to her on my part; she's lovely, dynamic and engaging. We p... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: When did you loose your virginity? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 18 May 2010, 6:42 pm
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Replies: 118
Views: 13,328
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| I lost mine at 14 -- a fact I lament more often than not. I wish I had waited longer. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Workplace Bullying? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 17 May 2010, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 4,078
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Hey gang,
Thanks for the great advice. Much appreciated. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is being "clingy" seen as bad? |
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Posted: 13 May 2010, 1:43 pm
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Replies: 56
Views: 23,784
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| Clingy is easily one of the more benign dysfunctional behaviours in a relationship, but it's certainly the most annoying. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What ethnicity are you the most attracted to? |
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Posted: 13 May 2010, 1:38 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 5,486
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| I've dated women who were everything from Caucasian to Jamaican to Aboriginal to Chinese to Muslim. I'd say the two things they all had in common: they were all intellectually engaging, attractive females and all thought I was pretty cute. :) I have no preference at all -- I'm drawn to feminine and ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Workplace Bullying? |
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Posted: 13 May 2010, 1:32 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 4,078
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| Hey gang, Hope everyone's well here -- it's been a little while since I've been on here. I'm just wondering if I could discuss a personal situation and see if I'm either being just paranoid or if there's something to my feelings. First off, I am Asperger's -- I have informed my boss (who is simply t... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Am i the only fat aspie? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2009, 12:04 am
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Replies: 91
Views: 15,966
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| I've been overweight for much of my life myself. I've never been fat, but I've been privy to the food-as-comfort phenomenon a lot of people have on here. I was bullied and very lonely as a child, so I would snack and eat to numb the pain. I know how hard it can be. I am still a big guy in frame and ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Rising Rates of Depression: What To Do About It? |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2009, 11:46 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,082
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| It's a pretty well-known circumstance on here that depression is a significant problem for people with Asperger's and autism. We feel depression not just for biochemical reasons, but because we feel a sense of personal rejection from the rest of the social world or NT society. But depression is grow... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Who has taken anti-depressants? |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2009, 12:41 am
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Replies: 43
Views: 5,750
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| Let's see: I've been on Effexor twice -- once in 2007 when I was feeling suicidal and was beginning to write up personal wills and information on when I died, where to find everything, and I'm on it again today for depression but more for generalized anxiety disorder. My dose will likely be going up... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Authors that speak to you as an Aspie |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2009, 11:55 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 3,864
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| Hey gang, We as Aspies have a tremendously varied taste when it comes to a lot of things in culture. Our reading habits, however, are of particular interest. Just curious what people's favourite authors are on here. For me, I have a very wide and eclectic taste: Michael Ondaatje, Thomas Warton, Robe... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Positive People, Ideas and Thoughts on Losing Weight |
| NauticalCa |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2009, 11:49 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,537
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| Hey gang, I've been on a serious weight loss kick over the last little while. This year has been a profound year of changes and self-discovery for me, and part of that is losing weight and seeing excessive pounds and overeating for what it is. I really want us to talk positively and be supportive ab... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does it get easier to get girls in college? |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2009, 12:09 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 23,927
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| Honest answer? Yes and No. On the No side, the thing you have to remember is that no miraculous transformation of people's mindset and values change once you enter a university or college. People are still people. And unfortunately, a lot of them are directly coming from high school, which means the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being Affectionate as an Aspie |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2009, 3:15 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 6,523
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| As Aspies, we're enigmas in a lot of ways. And in all honesty, one of the most confusing aspects of being AS has to do with our very polarized approach to showing affection towards our partners. On one hand, some of us don't like to be touched in certain ways. We don't always see logical reasons why... |
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