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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Post a Picture of the Real You. |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2026, 2:06 pm
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Fishyfisherton wrote:   My most recent pics of me, taken on Friday and Saturday respectively.
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Forum: The Haven Topic: What's happened to my local town centre? |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2026, 2:58 pm
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Replies: 13
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| I'm from Stoke and it's basically England's answer to Detroit. It's so sad tbh I remember the city centre being a bustling hub when I was a teenager. High streets are a dying concept. I feel the exact same about my home town Sutton Coldfield (in North Birmingham), back in the 90s is seemed to be bu... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I see how much my life is screwed up |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2026, 2:58 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I feel exactly the same. I have above average intelligence but my severe anxiety, inability to handle noisy, hectic environments and lack of executive function mean I've never managed to hold down a full-time job for more than 3 months. I've been through countless social workers, employment support ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Stag do / hen do looks like recipe for disaster |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2026, 6:44 pm
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| I'm honestly glad that I've never been popular enough to be invited on a stag do, the majority of them seem like a nightmare. Thirty or so years ago it was usual to just go to a pub with your mates for a few drinks, now it's fashionable to have a whole programme of activities like go karting, going ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Does anybody else struggle with nostalgia? |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2026, 3:55 pm
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Replies: 30
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| As A.E Housman put it in the poem "A Shropshire Lad XL": That is the land of lost content, I see it shining plain, The happy highways where I went And cannot come again. One of my favourites, as it describes the bittersweet longing for people and places you once knew but you cannot revisit... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Underwear preferences |
| Tom94 |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2025, 7:41 am
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Replies: 18
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| I guess I'm curious as to what kind of underwear people wear, personally I have pretty much only worn briefs (bikini type) for my whole life, when I was about 14 my parents bought me some boxers but I just didn't feel comfortable in them at all, due to the lack of support and the "bunching"... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: Autistic woman removed from cinema for laughing too loudly |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2018, 12:39 pm
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Replies: 12
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| She was also shouting at others to 'shut up' after being asked to be quiet, I really can't have much sympathy for her. This woman is old enough to know how to moderate her behaviour in public or at least seek therapy to help her with her issues, but it seems like she has been brought up to feel that... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: "Let's just be friends" |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2012, 1:35 pm
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| Sorry to hear your relationship ended that way, Mike. I think the best thing to do in these situations is just to do your best to move on, really, and try not to dwell on it too much, however hard that may be. It's what I'm doing my best to do at the moment, anyway. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: "Let's just be friends" |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2012, 8:35 am
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| I swear to God, if I hear this bloody sentence one more time I think I'm going to go insane. All of my female friendships seem to end in this way. And no, I don't want to be your friend, I can't possibly be your friend after what I've just said to you, after I've just admitted my feelings for you, i... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why can't I be NORMAL? |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2012, 1:59 pm
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Replies: 4
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| It's not your fault that you are this way. I know how hollow this sounds to someone suffering from depression (I've been on anti-depressants for the past 4 months, and intermittently have days like this) but.... just try to be nicer to yourself. You are the way you are, and it's really not your faul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mother Strangles Austistic Son |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2011, 10:05 am
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Replies: 108
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| Her mental stability is suspect. But letting her go free? Exactly! There are lots of people who don't go to jail after comitting murder because they are mentally ill. However, I have never heard a case where such a person was "re-introduced into the community" (as the judge put it). In all of the o... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does anyone meet up in Birmingham U.K anymore? |
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Posted: 07 May 2011, 8:48 am
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Replies: 35
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| I managed to become registered on AspieVillage eventually, and had a look around...reading a few threads, I did get the impression that the Birmingham meetups hadn't been attended very well recently. However, from reading this thread it seems like a few people would be interested in a get-together o... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does anyone meet up in Birmingham U.K anymore? |
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Posted: 03 May 2011, 11:09 am
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Replies: 35
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Hi, Birmingham aspie reporting in (that makes at least three of us  ) , thanks for the info Alycat, I've been wondering about meetups in the Birmingham area for a while now, I'll be sure to check Aspievillage out.
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Forum: Games and Video Games Topic: Hilarious Glitches |
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Posted: 12 May 2009, 2:08 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Fallout 3 has some good ones...to be honest, its unusual to play that game without seeing things like characters floating in mid-air, enemies randomly falling out of the sky, NPCs calmly speaking to you after you've just tried to bludgeon them to death, the whole game is glitch-tastic. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Shy and avoidant even online. |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2009, 4:53 pm
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Replies: 28
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| Hehe, well maybe its logical to prefer one on one conversations with IRL friends to strangers on the internet. But, I don't know, sometimes I feel it's a lot more liberating to talk to anonymous online strangers, behind the safe mask of anonymity the internet provides; I feel I can say things online... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: anyone here on Second Life ? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2009, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Meh, I tried Second life for a while; the impression I got was that it was an intriguing concept that suffered from being laggy, unintuitive and flooded with trolls and weird fetishists, I don't think I'd go back, to be honest. |
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