| Author |
Message |
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Daughter's Wedding |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 06 Jun 2009, 2:54 am
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 2,189
|
| I agree with DW_a_mom. I had the exact opposite experience. My mom was very into planning the perfect reception for her friends. (my husband was my only friend at the time). I could have cared less and would have been just as happy eloping. It ended up being very nice. She was happy, her friends had... |
|
 |
Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Are Social Stories and good for AS? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 02 Jun 2009, 6:43 pm
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 2,471
|
| the stories you just mentioned are not social stories. Social Stories are written specifically for the child, often with visual supports, and are designed to give a child a logical method for dealing with social situations as well as everyday tasks. Old Yeller is a fictional story. Most people on t... |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 02 Jun 2009, 6:09 pm
|
|
Replies: 48
Views: 5,231
|
| If we assume that experience (not identical experience but similar) needs to be present for empathy (or at least empathetic displays) to be effective, then it follows that we are taking less relevant input when compiling that experience. I know you're not necessarily convinced that experience is re... |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 6:31 pm
|
|
Replies: 48
Views: 5,231
|
| I don't have a link, but, basically, theory of mind means the ability to have a theory about what is going on in someone else's mind. That is, realizing that others have a mind separate from my own, and what is in their mind is different than what's in my mind, and being able to have ideas about wh... |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 4:42 pm
|
|
Replies: 48
Views: 5,231
|
| Switching back to my opening topic, I disagree strongly with the popular but harmful misperception that aspies and other aspies lack empathy. My prediction is that this notion will be once and forever dispelled very soon. We may struggle with it, but we do not lack it. Indeed, we may have too much ... |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 29 May 2009, 6:47 am
|
|
Replies: 48
Views: 5,231
|
| i never thought of the differences between empathy and sympathy and so i find this discussion very interesting. I've always felt that aspies have emotions, including empathy, but we lack the language to communicate them in an NT way. However, i'm not so sure the OP's question was about the how tos o... |
|
|
Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Why are there more males than females on this site? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 29 May 2009, 12:55 am
|
|
Replies: 20
Views: 2,938
|
| Yeah, it's not just autie/aspie girls and women that are ignored by the medical community. Concerns specific to us are not always taken seriously. And professionals wanting to focus their research on issues particular to women and girls are often marginalized in their field. How much incentive is th... |
|
|
Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Preschooler and fatigue with walking -what to do? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 28 May 2009, 8:06 pm
|
|
Replies: 9
Views: 1,273
|
| wow. festivals, fairs, and malls--even empty ones--are way way way over-stimulating for me and i'm an adult. i go to them but always plan to rest the next day. Otherwise i would say plan ahead. If a nap is going to get in the way of something you are doing, don't go out to a festival or mall the pre... |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 28 May 2009, 6:13 pm
|
|
Replies: 48
Views: 5,231
|
| A definition that kind of made sense to me is this: Sympathy is having feelings for a person, key word FOR. Empathy is having feelings with a person, key word WITH. Sympathy does not require experience, while empathy usually does, that is to say that to sympathize with someone you need never to hav... |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 28 May 2009, 5:38 pm
|
|
Replies: 48
Views: 5,231
|
| you have also just described the reverse of me and my husband. Stressful situations trigger an emotional response from him. He gets loud and animated while i try to work out a rational solution. This makes him more loud and animated. I get over-stimilated. I get caught between wanting to race for th... |
|
|
Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you deal with a young child's meltdowns? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 27 May 2009, 6:32 pm
|
|
Replies: 13
Views: 1,571
|
| Ah, I was thinking of sensory meltdowns. But, with my son, that is really what it always comes down to: the sensory overload or stress. The last time he did what you describe we were on vacation and, well, while the situation itself was as you describe, I figured he was under a certain level of str... |
|
|
Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Gravitas |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 27 May 2009, 11:38 am
|
|
Replies: 6
Views: 1,000
|
my goodness, that game gives me the shivers just thinking about it!  
the thing is, i'm not sure they *do* know. However, calling them on it never seems to be a good idea. |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Intentional Communities (Communes) |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 27 May 2009, 4:03 am
|
|
Replies: 30
Views: 5,630
|
| (www dot ic dot org) has a good list of forming and already existing groups. I think there must be a lot of misinformation about Intentional Communities. Most nowadays are non-income sharing. And the majority of eco-villages are mind-blowingly expensive. I find it easier to be in community because I... |
|
|
Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Gravitas |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 27 May 2009, 3:13 am
|
|
Replies: 6
Views: 1,000
|
| I found I can give a good impression for a few minutes, but then have to laugh. Does anyone else struggle with the required theater of management and leadership ? :lol: yes. and good way to describe it. i always find it amusing how people buy into this type of thing. Perhaps gravitas is not the wor... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Are you more self conscious around certain people? |
| Aili |
|
Posted: 25 May 2009, 6:05 pm
|
|
Replies: 13
Views: 5,830
|
| So are you more self conscious around certain people? And what specifics about them do you feel allows this to happen? I don't have social phobia. However i have noticed that beyond the generalized groups, there are times when a certain individual will make me extremely nervous. They can cause me t... |
|
|
| Sort by: |
