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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Resulting problems from late diagnosed Aspergers |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2011, 3:06 am
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Replies: 47
Views: 18,011
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| I was Dx AS at 56 yoa. It brought relief and plausable explanations for all previous relationship experiences with people. But, it also showed me how my social naivety works in an NT dominant world: with Dx I simply perceived myself as a different model brain ( like cars have different engines and b... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm going to kill myself very soon. I cant deal with things. |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2011, 2:02 am
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Replies: 42
Views: 17,298
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| Dear Person who is thinking of suicide, True, pain, of any sorts, is bloody awful and crushing. Humans feel it through so many slivers of experience. When i was where u are, a lizard and the colours of a cloudy afternoon after a heavy rain changed my perception, and separated me from my pain. It was... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Finding and Keeping jobs - Tips and Advice |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2011, 3:12 am
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Replies: 235
Views: 390,736
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| advice here is good. Thank you. I have always been good at my work and then the people thing arrives and they get disappointed then angry cause i'm not mimicing them in whatever way they think good and normal is.............. right now i'm, in a great job for me. That is, I hardly talk to anyone and... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: New and help |
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Posted: 28 May 2010, 1:05 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 2,291
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| liloleme's comment: If the diet is not correct for growth and development than this could cause serious problems....including behavioral. too true. And, as one ages the balance of diet to one's body abilities is highlighted again for careful consideration and balance. It does work to train them earl... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Question for old fogies only |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2010, 9:37 pm
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Replies: 27
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| In Au too Metal_Man: hard work and professionalism are still valued in the medical profession. Those two traits are the kiss of death in any other field now. Gives me the pips! Have been struggling with motivation -like trying to do what I want: drive somewhere; buy some decent shoes/clothes... work... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Thoughts being locked down. |
| Bonny |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2010, 9:33 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,043
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| Yes, "thinking shutdown' - yes happens to me, but , i haven't felt it as empty space or processor malfunction. My experience has been 'wide awake, alert (on all senses and functions) with non of these functions having priority therefore, Nothing happens. Had one this morning....it took me a long tim... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: 'came out' as Aspie, now being treated poorly? |
| Bonny |
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Posted: 10 Mar 2010, 9:53 pm
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Replies: 18
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| MannyAck, Your situation now and experiences that led to this, I too have experienced -even before I found out I have an AS design code. (My preferred way of speaking about the Asperger /Autism spectrum). Other posts here are right in total: it 's a combination of co workers/ managers/ boss who * 'c... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: I got a job. |
| Bonny |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2010, 1:47 am
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Replies: 7
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| I too had been out of work for ~6 months. Hugely worrying state. Took on volunteer work and study. Learning something new eased my anxieties. Finally got a position at end of January. Not a career job, but a good job for hours and ability to work ALONE...oh such a precious way to be.! ! I am so happ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Arrogance of the Human Race |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2010, 12:45 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,628
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| Acceptance, tolerance, wellbeing generated by the prevalence of such attitudes and consequent behaviours .........that is everybodies birthright and one to be openly claimed. Always it seems some humans will find a way to discriminate against another. Funny that this be so... where is the progressiv... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why are we loud? |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2010, 1:47 am
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Replies: 47
Views: 5,725
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| I too get louder when talking about something I like ,but yes , do same when stressed and am trying to make my point. Idon't realise I'm loud at that moment. Then I see person's face and pick up cues. generally, haven't ever been able to alter this trait as each 'scene' that generates the loudness i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do people comment on your hearing? |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2010, 12:50 am
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Replies: 19
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| Yes, my hearing is really good: I can take in very low volumes- when i was teaching K-6 children were always saying OMG..she heard that! My son has perfect pitch and when he sings certain notes I have to be careful to cover my ears as it hurts! Somehow ,I've thought it was connected to ESP but that ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: highly educated? and Aspergers? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2010, 11:06 pm
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Replies: 145
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| Bright at school all the way through, but not at all social...seen as nerd from kindergarten; seen as 'unusual but nice ; from infancy. One teacher at H/school in class told me he thought I was a fraud,ie, not smart at all- I was 15! I told him to "G/F"in class and didn't talk to him for rest of the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Loss of motivation in life |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2010, 8:03 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 5,546
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| Millie wrote: Since my dx, the one really good thing is the "shoulds" have, eased off somewhat. I am giving myself fuller permission to be me and to find some peace in myself. It's good. At least now I know what I am and who I am. My feelings post Dx too. All the years before, knew i couldn't be 'me... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Loss of motivation in life |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2010, 6:57 pm
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Replies: 39
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| I"ve been experiencing the same as Timeisdead and Willard (for fity + years). I'm truly tired of the 'working around obstacles' that I've ALWAYS had to utilise to enjoy attending to what I wanted to do. I've lost the anger in my belly that propelled the game of "I'll do it...I'll find a way around t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you immune to loneliness? |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2009, 7:01 pm
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Replies: 44
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| Lonermutant wrote, I feel like my iq drops to 40 when I'm around people. This applies to me too. But, i think its because nothing about an NT interaction aligns with what makes me happy?... Mind you i like closeness and 'being' with others, but i don't ever feel ( nor think) that I need them. Althou... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I have Aspergers.....my son doesn't.....please help! |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2009, 10:04 pm
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Replies: 2
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| Hi Michhsta, I have the same concerns about my relationship with my son who is also NT and I an older mum + Dx Aspie at 56. My view is that I have always honestly wanted my children. Therefore, I have love and all the elements of determination to provide for them materially, emotionally, psychically... |
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