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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.) |
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Posted: 09 Aug 2009, 11:59 am
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| Hi Stone! I'm sorry to hear about your divorce and the difficulty you and your wife had in communicating. There are a lot of good people who don't have access to the resources they need to put new tools in their marital toolbox to keep their marriage going strong. It wasn't too long ago that I came ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Skin-Picking Habits... |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2009, 2:22 am
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| Never tried a weighted blanket. Where do you find them? I did recently get a really soft blanket that feels really nice and that i love to pet, though. There are shops online that sell them (for quite a bit, and they also have vests, scarves, lap pads, etc) and there are a lot of places that you ca... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Skin-Picking Habits... |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2009, 1:05 am
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| Do any of you who do it think the picking could be redirected to something more socially acceptable and less harmful? Do you think you could exert control over it if you desired to as long as you did something else in its place? Do any of you who do it have more classic hand-flapping type stims as w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Help! What not to do, in a diagnostic interview |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2009, 12:26 am
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| We went to a counselor who specializes in working with adults who have Asperger's. He did not do any blatant diagnostic tests such that we had the realization that this is a test now. By talking to us several times and observing my husband, combined with his experience, he was able to dx him without... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Skin-Picking Habits... |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2009, 3:04 pm
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| My husband with AS does this a lot. I thought it was just his thing. He does the same with acne bumps on his face, but having less there he usually messes with his scalp. He'll make something bleed, let it scab, then not too much later he's picking off the scab and starting over again. The more he d... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2009, 2:05 pm
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Replies: 31
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peterd wrote: At least aspergers isn't life threatening (unless you annoy the wrong person).
Thank you both for the validation. I read it shortly after you wrote it, but have been letting everything sort of seep and settle before I responded. Neolmas, your wife and I do sound alike.  |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Don't know if I should be insulted by this... |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 5:19 pm
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| I'm with the rest. He probably thought you sounded mature. It might have been any combination of your choice of words, your choice of topics, your level of respect, the way you carried yourself (how you got in, the general way you sat, if your head was turned to him when you spoke), and any other nu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: When/Why did your parents start treating you like an adult? |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2009, 6:43 pm
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Replies: 64
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| I asked my husband with AS this question. His response was that his parents started treating him like an adult after high school because he had a lot more independence then. I said that I thought his dad largely treated him like an adult when he was a teen, basically going along with whatever my hus... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Socially acceptable obsessions |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2009, 12:19 am
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Replies: 55
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| Socially acceptable obsessions that average people will make an excuse for even when they think the obsession might be cutting into time they think you should be spending on something else: One's spouse/marriage/family if one is not seen as a doormat (but if one is passive or perceived to be henpeck... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Socially acceptable obsessions |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2009, 12:17 am
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Replies: 55
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| Socially acceptable obsessions that average people will make an excuse for even when they think the obsession might be cutting into time they think you should be spending on something else: One's spouse/marriage/family if one is not seen as a doormat (but if one is passive or perceived to be henpeck... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: AS Traits that most annoy NT's |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2009, 12:04 am
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Replies: 42
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| Here is another thing that annoys people, innocence. They get mad if you don't understand something or didn't understand what you said was wrong or offensive. They get mad at you for not getting stuff normal people would get. I started writing to say that I agreed, but upon reflecting I think I do ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: AS Traits that most annoy NT's |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2009, 11:37 pm
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| I can think of heaps, here are a few to start with: I thought that said, "I can think of herpes..." :lol: Yeah, that would do it! LOL! Seriously, the things that annoy me the most are the absentminded conversations mentioned above which usually end in my saying, "Yes doesn't make sense as an answer... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I need a life! |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2009, 10:57 pm
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Replies: 24
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| I'm NT and have been in the same boat. If you are depressive and fearful of going out of the house or of driving, you might be agoraphobic or having anxiety/phobia issues. Many, many people go through similar periods in their lives, with women more likely to experience it than men. There is help, bu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.) |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2009, 8:24 am
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Replies: 645
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release_the_bats wrote: I got engaged a few weeks ago.
CONGRATULATIONS!!
May your life together be filled with peace, joy, happiness, and every good thing you wish for yourselves.
Eliza |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2009, 6:47 pm
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| Hi Marc! My husband's in one of his random happy moods so I haven't been discussing any of this with him as I don't want to do anything to change that. I've found no consistency in when he goes into a good mood but I know very well what will throw him out of it. :) When he's in a good mood, he is vo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: NT/ Aspie THread |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2009, 4:06 pm
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Replies: 69
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| I'm sorry for adding to the off-topicness. In an effort to move us forward, I'll ask another question since the responses I received before were very helpful. My husband doesn't seem to have a setting for "conversation" in which both people equally share and together form a joint vision. For him, it... |
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