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 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.)

Posted: 09 Aug 2009, 11:59 am 

Replies: 632
Views: 183,122


Hi Stone! I'm sorry to hear about your divorce and the difficulty you and your wife had in communicating. There are a lot of good people who don't have access to the resources they need to put new tools in their marital toolbox to keep their marriage going strong. It wasn't too long ago that I came ...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Skin-Picking Habits...

Posted: 08 Aug 2009, 2:22 am 

Replies: 23
Views: 3,375


Never tried a weighted blanket. Where do you find them? I did recently get a really soft blanket that feels really nice and that i love to pet, though. There are shops online that sell them (for quite a bit, and they also have vests, scarves, lap pads, etc) and there are a lot of places that you ca...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Skin-Picking Habits...

Posted: 08 Aug 2009, 1:05 am 

Replies: 23
Views: 3,375


Do any of you who do it think the picking could be redirected to something more socially acceptable and less harmful? Do you think you could exert control over it if you desired to as long as you did something else in its place? Do any of you who do it have more classic hand-flapping type stims as w...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Help! What not to do, in a diagnostic interview

Posted: 08 Aug 2009, 12:26 am 

Replies: 47
Views: 4,267


We went to a counselor who specializes in working with adults who have Asperger's. He did not do any blatant diagnostic tests such that we had the realization that this is a test now. By talking to us several times and observing my husband, combined with his experience, he was able to dx him without...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Skin-Picking Habits...

Posted: 07 Aug 2009, 3:04 pm 

Replies: 23
Views: 3,375


My husband with AS does this a lot. I thought it was just his thing. He does the same with acne bumps on his face, but having less there he usually messes with his scalp. He'll make something bleed, let it scab, then not too much later he's picking off the scab and starting over again. The more he d...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i

Posted: 06 Aug 2009, 2:05 pm 

Replies: 31
Views: 6,548


peterd wrote:
At least aspergers isn't life threatening (unless you annoy the wrong person).

:lol:

Thank you both for the validation. I read it shortly after you wrote it, but have been letting everything sort of seep and settle before I responded. Neolmas, your wife and I do sound alike. :)

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: Don't know if I should be insulted by this...

Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 5:19 pm 

Replies: 21
Views: 3,811


I'm with the rest. He probably thought you sounded mature. It might have been any combination of your choice of words, your choice of topics, your level of respect, the way you carried yourself (how you got in, the general way you sat, if your head was turned to him when you spoke), and any other nu...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: When/Why did your parents start treating you like an adult?

Posted: 04 Aug 2009, 6:43 pm 

Replies: 64
Views: 25,420


I asked my husband with AS this question. His response was that his parents started treating him like an adult after high school because he had a lot more independence then. I said that I thought his dad largely treated him like an adult when he was a teen, basically going along with whatever my hus...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Socially acceptable obsessions

Posted: 03 Aug 2009, 12:19 am 

Replies: 55
Views: 5,192


Socially acceptable obsessions that average people will make an excuse for even when they think the obsession might be cutting into time they think you should be spending on something else: One's spouse/marriage/family if one is not seen as a doormat (but if one is passive or perceived to be henpeck...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Socially acceptable obsessions

Posted: 03 Aug 2009, 12:17 am 

Replies: 55
Views: 5,192


Socially acceptable obsessions that average people will make an excuse for even when they think the obsession might be cutting into time they think you should be spending on something else: One's spouse/marriage/family if one is not seen as a doormat (but if one is passive or perceived to be henpeck...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: AS Traits that most annoy NT's

Posted: 03 Aug 2009, 12:04 am 

Replies: 42
Views: 3,280


Here is another thing that annoys people, innocence. They get mad if you don't understand something or didn't understand what you said was wrong or offensive. They get mad at you for not getting stuff normal people would get. I started writing to say that I agreed, but upon reflecting I think I do ...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: AS Traits that most annoy NT's

Posted: 02 Aug 2009, 11:37 pm 

Replies: 42
Views: 3,280


I can think of heaps, here are a few to start with: I thought that said, "I can think of herpes..." :lol: Yeah, that would do it! LOL! Seriously, the things that annoy me the most are the absentminded conversations mentioned above which usually end in my saying, "Yes doesn't make sense as an answer...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: I need a life!

Posted: 02 Aug 2009, 10:57 pm 

Replies: 24
Views: 3,298


I'm NT and have been in the same boat. If you are depressive and fearful of going out of the house or of driving, you might be agoraphobic or having anxiety/phobia issues. Many, many people go through similar periods in their lives, with women more likely to experience it than men. There is help, bu...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.)

Posted: 02 Aug 2009, 8:24 am 

Replies: 632
Views: 183,122


release_the_bats wrote:
I got engaged a few weeks ago.

CONGRATULATIONS!!

May your life together be filled with peace, joy, happiness, and every good thing you wish for yourselves.

Eliza

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i

Posted: 26 Jul 2009, 6:47 pm 

Replies: 31
Views: 6,548


Hi Marc! My husband's in one of his random happy moods so I haven't been discussing any of this with him as I don't want to do anything to change that. I've found no consistency in when he goes into a good mood but I know very well what will throw him out of it. :) When he's in a good mood, he is vo...
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