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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: aside from sperm, what good are men? |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2016, 12:47 pm
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Replies: 448
Views: 16,927
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| Sorry if it came out as quit your b**ching. I did not mean it that way. What I was trying to say with the wolf/monkey analogy is that people don't have to follow the literally sheep-like notion that mating is everything in life and the male who can't find a mate might as well not exist. Not that the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: aside from sperm, what good are men? |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2016, 12:22 pm
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Replies: 448
Views: 16,927
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| In nature, while fewer male mammals may get to mate than females in promiscuous species like sheep and cattle that don't live in complex societies where the males nurture young, about half of the mammals born are still male. That's because the genetic diversity resulting from their being many more m... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Theory about communication. |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2016, 8:36 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 593
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| There are lots of autistics and NTs who have tried to understand why autistics have trouble communicating, and especially with NTs. Often sensory issues are cited, as making it difficult for the autistic person to get the right balance of information out of the social situation in order to understan... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Neurotypicals and instincts |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2016, 8:10 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,175
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| I just mean at the most basic level not really specific social protocols, for example dedictive reasoning doesn't seem to play arole or at least not much in neurotypical thinking its seems to be replaced or at least to me seem with a weird filter were all info seems to go that tests whether agroup ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 10:26 pm
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Replies: 2,515
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| Good luck getting support to further your already solid and hard-earned progress, Dante! I no longer feel like a neurotic misfit, but the memory of having been one never goes away. Instead of traumatizing me or holding me back, I think it's actually helped make my hard-earned cognitive empathy bette... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Neurotypicals and instincts |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 9:32 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,175
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| I think interest in social behavior is instinctual in most people, but the specifics of it are learned. If it were all about instinct, there wouldn't be so many behaviors considered rude or inappropriate in one culture but normal in the next, like the protocols for whom you can kiss on the cheek and... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 8:05 pm
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Replies: 2,515
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| BAP = broad autistic phenotype, which is when someone has ASD traits but not enough to qualify as a disorder. SCD = social communication disorder, which is the social symptoms of ASD without the repetitive behaviors or sensory issues. There are many legends of me as an oddball child, but none of the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 6:58 pm
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| Wow, this alexithymia discussion is quite fascinating. I just took the test and scored intermediate, 101 points. And that sounds about right, because when I was younger I used to never miss people, or never be aware of missing people. I also didn't have my first crush until I was 13, and didn't reco... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it even possible for ASD + NT relationships to work? |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 6:03 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 4,286
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| Tony Atwood, I think, once claimed that the best AS/NT pairings are those in which either the NT is a little broad-autistic-phenotype (like me - I dated an Aspie for 4 years), or the NT is extra-people-oriented and wants to try to figure the AS individual out. The most classic NTs, who are in the mi... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: I'm not understanding the whole wedding/engagement business |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 3:35 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 2,774
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| 1. An engagement ring is meant to show that a woman already belongs to (i.e., is a possession of) and is therefore off-limits. Men themselves do not wear engagement rings. Why is this acceptable? I guess some people like "tradition" because...it's fun and makes them feel like part of some... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "People just DON'T say that" |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 3:12 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 989
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| They switched to a room run by a member who is only on the board because of her boyfriend, who is an established member there. I said that the room might not last a long time because if the couple breaks up, the member would likely stop posting and chatting, thus leaving the room without an owner. ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The problem of SJWs |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2016, 12:07 pm
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Replies: 1,722
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| A system is more than just laws. Culture as a whole, the unresolved effects of previous legal discrimination (for instance, black people not having houses once they were granted civil rights because they were legally forbidden, or allowed under law to be forbidden, from getting mortgages at sensible... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am i still autistic? |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2016, 11:21 am
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Replies: 7
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| Another possibility is that you were one of these early-reading and/or late-talking kids who grow out of ASD-like traits (but were always missing a couple of classic ones if looked at closely): http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/outgrowing-autism-a-closer-look-at-children-who-read-early-... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Studies On Autism and Females |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2016, 10:04 am
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Replies: 23
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| I find the articles on women and autism fascinating, especially in the light of my younger sister insisting that I'm on the spectrum because "autism is different in women!" The thing is, though, not all social difficulty in early life is autism, and everything I read about autism in women ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The NT Has No Clothes |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2016, 6:23 am
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Replies: 268
Views: 11,788
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| I think it's because most NTs don't realize that the innovation and fact-checking that mainstream culture needs to survive often comes from neurodiverse people and quirky personalities within neurotypicality who rather suck at social niceties like optimism and charm. I find that claim a bit dubious... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The NT Has No Clothes |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2016, 8:16 pm
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Replies: 268
Views: 11,788
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| So why is what I believe to be insignificant defects (eye contact, verbalization, dexterity) seen as so abhorrent as to warrant behaviour modification and shunning (and at at it's extreme, eugenic removal?) Ignorance, blindness to cultural bias, impaired ability to distinguish between culture and i... |
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