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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Sabotage |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2021, 11:54 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,568
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| The year you spent as a teacher shows you can live your best life doing something you enjoy and take pride in. Because you have done that, you have every reason to believe you can do it again. People suck, and we always have to be on our guard against people tearing down what we have accomplished. I... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Help creating a Functional Resume |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2021, 11:35 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,342
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| Like others have said, just listing the year in your reverse-chronological work history can help hide a host of sins. A hybrid functional/chronological resume also seems like a good idea. A lot of resume processing is done automatically nowadays, using keywords. Taking a SEO approach to making the d... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Assertiveness |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2021, 11:16 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,148
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| These links look great! Thank you for making them available. Yes, clear and polite communication is an important life skill which we should all try to cultivate. My wife comes from a family where communication is often indirect and mind-reading is the rule, and it took us years to figure out how to ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Can autistic adults live independently ? |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2021, 10:54 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 692
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| It is definitely possible. It sounds like you already have a good idea of what the challenges are, which is the first step to finding solutions. You might try writing down a list of all of the things which pose obstacles to living independently, and a separate list of your assets and abilities, then... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: What do you do that drives everyone else crazy? |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2021, 11:51 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,024
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| Sometimes I forget to not participate in a group conversation. Someone will say something, and I will think about it for several seconds, and then say something in reply, and everyone will look at me funny because the conversation has already moved on to a different topic, making my answer a non seq... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I repeat questions and people don't like it sometimes. |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2021, 8:04 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 502
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| Me too. It took me years to figure out that repeating myself is a no-no (not just questions). A trick I will often use instead of repeating questions is to ask "did you hear my question?" or "do you remember my question?" If they were deliberately ignoring or dismissing my questi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Heat Sensitivity |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2021, 7:59 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 5,206
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| I fare very poorly in heat. It does not take much heat to turn my brain off, and if I can not cool down soon it makes me physically sick (vomiting, bowel evacuations) and I can not think for the rest of the day, even if I subsequently cool down. Friends say my symptoms resemble "heatstroke"... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone else experienced the autism community change? |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2021, 7:49 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 2,050
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| I have strictly avoided discussing ASD on Facebook or Twitter because it is mostly mainstream people there, and also because I do not want other people to know I am on the spectrum (though some figured it out on their own. I can pass, but not that well). Mainstream attitudes towards autism are toxic... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Stimming and Aging |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2020, 12:25 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 882
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| I'm fifty, and still stim, though the ways I stim have changed. Mostly the change is directed (seeking stimming behavior which is less noticeable to others), but in other ways it seems to drift of its own accord. Life has been more stressful of late, so I've been doing certain things more frequently... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Sensory sensitivities and overloads - do you find any pros? |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 3:59 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 478
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| I am fifty years old, and it has been my experience that the longer one copes and endures, the better one gets at coping and enduring. Today things are still hard, but now I can laugh at nuisances which would have melted me down twenty years ago. Keep working at it, and you will get stronger, and wo... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Mental Illness Scale |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 3:54 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 768
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| In my opinion, the metric that matters most is the enumeration of necessities that a mentally ill person cannot have due to their illness. If someone's illness makes them homeless, that's important. If someone's illness makes it impossible to hold down a job, that's important. If someone's illness k... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Is American society much more frightened now than before? |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 3:47 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 492
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| People have an insatiable appetite for fear and outrage. What has changed is that media and authority figures have gotten better at stoking and exploiting that appetite, and using it to substitute their own narratives for people's internal narratives. It's about control, and it works. It makes peopl... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Poll: Do you like sports as spectator, team player, etc |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 447
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| In school I competed in track (the 800m) and in cross-country racing. That was a good level of competitiveness for me. I was mostly competing with myself, but the urge to finish ahead of one or two more people helped spur me to greater effort, too. Practice was satisfactorily solitary -- I would do ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Abbreviations |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 3:31 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 406
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| Thank you for this! A few months ago I made an embarrassing error, used "BPD" to mean "bipolar disorder" and of course people thought I meant "borderline personality disorder". If I had read this list first, that error could have been avoided. I am printing it out and h... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: lurking mode disengaged |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 3:28 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 442
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: VPNs |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 3:25 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 471
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| To more narrowly answer your specific question, if your VPN provider is outside of your ISP's network, and if the VPN provider is not selling its customers' connection data to your ISP, then it should prevent your ISP from knowing what data connections you are making. |
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