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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Disclosing your disability |
| luvntiedye |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2019, 3:29 pm
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Replies: 12
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| I would have to agree about not disclosing. I did a few years ago when I found out I had autism, but at the time I had a boss who was an awesome person and therefore wasn't fazed by it. She simply said she knew what kind of person I was and I was a great librarian, so she didn't see why it should be... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: It's hard to interpret what people mean. |
| luvntiedye |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2015, 2:54 pm
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Replies: 23
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| Paranoia. Wow, do I understand that one! My daughter is the worst for that! I could be, but I'm middle-aged now and too tired for all that unnecessary stress. I prefer to just remain without a clue. I have no idea what people mean a lot of the time, but I just leave it hang there. Whatever. Don't ge... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Preaching Christianity |
| luvntiedye |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2015, 2:46 pm
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Replies: 20
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| Understand something about Christians: we mean the best. Some have no clue that they are overstepping-- I wish they would see it! I have Asperger's and I can see when someone isn't open! Please try to be merciful to this lady. She most likely is alarmed by the idea that you are on a path away from e... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Anyone with Alexithymia? |
| luvntiedye |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2015, 2:29 pm
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Replies: 37
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| This is something I've never heard of. I know that my daughter and I (both Aspies) often have delayed response to emotional stimuli, and sometimes when we do react it's in a very odd way. This in itself can be confusing. We don't always recognize exactly what we are feeling. I have come to accept th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Explain to me age limits in a relationship |
| luvntiedye |
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Posted: 16 May 2012, 9:26 am
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Replies: 48
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| Beyond legal constraints, I think you really need to consider maturity factors. I had a relationship with an 18-year-old when I was 34. Yes, I know, huge age difference-- I am so embarrassed about it now! It was no good, because he still thought like a child, and I'd already experienced a lot of lif... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Getting diagnosed in the US |
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Posted: 15 May 2012, 3:59 pm
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Replies: 108
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| Please don't take offense at what I said. I didn't mean you specifically. I just meant that at least it's not completely disabling for all of us. I realize there are an awful lot of people on the spectrum that really aren't functional enough for the work force. I know a few of those people, and I do... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Getting diagnosed in the US |
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Posted: 15 May 2012, 9:34 am
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Replies: 108
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| Something to take into consideration is that we are all differing shades, if you will, of Autistic. Asperger's isn't a disabling thing 100% of the time, as is my case. I am a high-functioning individual who holds down a good job, but of course, I found my niche, and most of my coworkers don't mind m... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being yourself |
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Posted: 15 May 2012, 8:50 am
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Replies: 13
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| I'd rather be myself and suffer (be a tough cookie), than be one from the cutter. Wink Cleverly stated, and I agree. I very much believe not only in God, but that He is with me all the time. My impression of His personality is that He despises the idea of everyone trying to be the same. As an Aspie... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: New Words for an Autism Dictionary |
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Posted: 14 May 2012, 9:37 am
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Replies: 36
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| Wow, isn't that stupid, that anyone would be so weird about autism. There are sooooo many of us on the spectrum-- we're like, everywhere! But yes I know what you mean. My son is High-Functioning Autistic and hates the very mention of Autism or Asperger's. He gets quite belligerent. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adults: stimming in general |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2010, 4:44 am
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Replies: 125
Views: 59,211
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| So Invincible, do you have a social anxiety disorder? If so, perhaps that should be addressed. I don't think I'd be too worried about whether or not you stim. Also wondering about the jumping up and down-- it's related to stress? My son has a "side-dish" of Tourette's Syndrome (not uncommon in Autis... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adults: stimming in general |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2010, 2:40 pm
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Replies: 125
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| In answer to Invincible's question about hand-wringing and jumping up and down: That would be considered a stim if you do it without realizing you're doing it, to soothe an inner feeling of anxiety. Really, almost anything can become stimming behavior if it soothes you. It's weird how we Auties can ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adults: stimming in general |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2010, 5:23 am
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Replies: 125
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| Now that I think about it more, I've always counted colors in things and word syllables, too, as well as arranging words in my head to make them "balanced". |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adults: stimming in general |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2010, 5:16 am
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Replies: 125
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| In public, I think I mostly look "normal", except when I'm concentrating at work-- I grimace and contort my face some, I think. Since I'm a librarian at a busy library, I'm usually doing many things at once and not very aware, so who knows how I look, but thankfully people are accepting of my odd an... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Should an Aspie adult have children? |
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Posted: 24 Jun 2010, 4:30 am
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Replies: 198
Views: 54,140
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| I too have some pretty good social skills these days. However, this does not make me NT; I still am stuck with a lot of Aspie junk, including some very strange reactions to stress which really impacts my family :cry: . It seems that it makes my kids even more stressed than they already are, being Au... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Should an Aspie adult have children? |
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Posted: 10 May 2010, 6:07 am
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Replies: 198
Views: 54,140
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| Not cold, Jazz, just smart. To your point I add the fact that it is absolutely thankless much of the time. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Should an Aspie adult have children? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2010, 4:52 am
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Replies: 198
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| I, like Catlady, rely heavily on my husband for help, even though he's the kids' stepdad. He's not exactly typical, but I don't think he's autistic like the kids and me. Problem there is that he has no social ability either, because he's very shy and avoidant of such things for the most part. I gues... |
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