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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I wish I was 20 again |
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Posted: 21 Sep 2020, 3:46 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 11,150
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| I've noticed that the older I get, the faster the years seem to go by, and everyone I've talked to about this seems to agree with that observation. My theory about this is that, as we age, the same lengths of time end up being a smaller percentage of our overall life, so they end up not seeming as ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What if a rumour gets around at work? |
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Posted: 21 Sep 2020, 3:42 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 4,188
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| This is exactly the kind of thing that I would worry about myself. This kind of anxiety made my school years hell, as I was constantly worried about what kind of rumours people were spreading about me. I guess the key is to try to distract oneself with other activities and not think too much about i... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Close female friendships (not romantic) end in explosion |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2020, 8:23 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,463
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| I have similar experiences with female friends. Just two recently that ended (of which one was semi-romantic). I think in my case what happens is that I seem attractive to them (romantically or not) because I seem stable, maybe even come off as funny and happy-go-lucky. When it continues, I want my ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: does anyone else with a.s. feel that life has been a waste? |
| GunsAndRoses |
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Posted: 28 Oct 2019, 4:29 am
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Replies: 85
Views: 9,930
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| What bothers me the most is knowing that if I were NT, I would have all the 'ingredients' to be wildly successful in my professional life. Yes, very much this. I had a belief that if I just got good grades and worked (somewhat) hard everything would be Ok. I underestimated gravely how much of a par... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: gut instinct vs AS logic, in relationships |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2015, 3:36 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 978
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| Can relate to this somewhat, in my own marriage. My gut instinct has told me a long time that something isn't right. I don't tend to follow my gut at all though, instead try to think things through in every possible angle. I read up on every possible bit of information, but not really going forward.... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Were you a gifted child? How are you seen as adult? |
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Posted: 08 Oct 2014, 3:16 am
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Replies: 203
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| I think there is another interesting thing. I was a gifted kid (in certain ways, especially with language, comunication) and a lot of things was easier to me. When you are a kid, everyone thinks that this is great. However, this is not the most important thing among teenagers - now you need to be a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: The Aspie - Borderline Couple |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2014, 6:23 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 15,052
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| Yes, I'm undiagnosed AS and I suspect my wife is borderline, at least lots of her traits are similar to what I've read about. The biggest issue I would say is that she views the world in a very negative way most of the time. Actions and words of others are interpreted in the worst possible way. It's... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is there any point at 41 getting a diagnosis? |
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Posted: 05 May 2014, 3:39 am
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Replies: 57
Views: 2,914
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| I think it's hard to find out the cause and effect (AS/depression) without sorting it out with a professional. I've just started CBT myself, to hopefully get closer to working out the best way to deal with my issues. I'd probably benefit from an AS evaluation, just the tests themselves would probabl... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hello, I'm new too. As well. Too. |
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Posted: 05 May 2014, 3:34 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 431
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| Welcome! I'm also 41, undiagnosed. Married with kids, but have no close friends and struggle with work. Small talk is not one of my strengths either! |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I struggle with motivation |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2014, 6:18 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 5,450
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| This is an interesting topic. I typically do not struggle with motivation, when I am pursuing concrete goals (such as graduating from high school, graduating from college, etc.). However, I have a heck of a time setting goals. And, when I have no goals, I feel like I drift aimlessly. So, it was eas... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: i cant follow vague instructions |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2014, 2:52 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 2,527
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| Same here. Working in software, you're often dependant on other coders for info on how to get into their work. Some people presume that you know as much as they do about their code already, and don't have the patience for my questions. I hate that. I'm dependant on a very clearly stated roadmap to f... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trauma after trying desperately to fit in with NTs? |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2014, 2:45 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 5,269
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| I've always felt very different from others, so it would not be a surprise to me if I indeed get diagnosed as AS. The problem for me would be to handle others' reactions to it. It was one thing when I was living by myself, but now there is extended family, parents at the childrens' school, work coll... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Shutting Down at Work |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2014, 2:42 am
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Replies: 4
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| I work as a software developer for a mid-size company and I can relate to your situation. The system I am working on has been developed for 10+ years and is very complex. The tasks I am given requires a lot of knowledge about different areas of the system, and are hard to solve without involving oth... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: A Hypothetical Question |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2014, 4:01 am
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Replies: 13
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| I would not quit it, at least not right away. I'd hate to be stuck at home without people around me at least some part of the week. And I'm not social enough to count on myself for finding something else so quickly, volunteering or not. Sure, that money woud make me feel a lot more secure, but it wo... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Do others suffer mental burn out after a day of work? |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2014, 3:53 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,952
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| I'm also confined to an office. It does not fit my work pattern very well, as I work in spurts - and can be highly creative when doing so. But the remainder of the 8 hours in the office I'm pretty bored. Spend a lot of time daydreaming and surfing around, gives me a guilty conscience. I also nurture... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: My fantasy is coming true |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2014, 3:28 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,255
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| I remember your previous post on this, because it resonated with my own situation. I might very well be in your situation some time from now. Every relationship is unique, AS or not. I agree that a part time job can be a good idea. I feel a lot better mentally when spending time around others instea... |
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