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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Were Nice Guys Always the Pariah? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2015, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 118
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| [quote="314pe"] Do you know any books or research papers on this? I'm just curious to find out more about this. (I have access to academic databases, if that would be helpful. Thanks!) Guess I should have kept a file on this, but books include: "How the Mind Works" (Steven Pinker... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Were Nice Guys Always the Pariah? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2015, 11:30 pm
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Replies: 118
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| We found it interesting that it has really only been in the last 5-10 years that people seem to be buying into this "Alpha/beta" crap. The question asked was when did it (whatever it is) start? I see a few people have made this 5-10 year claim, but "alpha males" and "nice g... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Do you prefer iPad/tablet or computer? |
| racedad68 |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2015, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,620
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| My tablet is nice for reading ebooks and other things that format well for it, and I use it for quickies like checking the weather forecast and some news reading. But to do anything more complex, like online comparson shopping, research or anything where I need to type, the laptop wins hands down. I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Creating pictures in your mind? Visual thinking question! |
| racedad68 |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2015, 9:53 pm
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Replies: 15
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| I'd have to check "Very Strongly Agree". Anything I think of becomes a full-color, 3-D moving image in my mind. I can't really think about, recall or understand something until I form an image of it. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Getting Mixed Messages |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2015, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 9
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| "he asked if I wanted to do something again and said he had fun" isn't a mixed message from an Aspie. For some of us it amounts to a strong proclaimation of interest. Way back when, actually touching someone I liked was like getting an electric shock--a good one, but still it was nearly ov... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: You're a f**k up and your going to suffer in old age |
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Posted: 21 Feb 2015, 11:38 am
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Replies: 23
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| If you really literally mean what you've posted, you need to get help immediately. ER, hotline, whatever, but do NOT go through this on your own. What's at stake is the future of your universe. 19, 20, I remember that age. I was lucky to be in a very good place, but it was still terrible sometimes. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Female or male making the first move? |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2015, 10:57 pm
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Replies: 50
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| Absolutely not creepy. Actually "first move" doesn't quite apply here since there's history, but given that most of us aren't that good at reading (or sending) "signals" we can't let fear keep us from being honest about what we're feeling. Let him know what you're thinking. If th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I feel like my boyfriend is going to propose to me.. help.. |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2010, 11:14 pm
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Replies: 12
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| Absolutely, have that conversation right away--your friend's engagement is the perfect opportunity to bring it up. Obviously I can't know what your BF is planning, but keep in mind the things you've described don't automatically mean he's making plans. When friends of mine decided to get married, I ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Martial Arts - Teaching of Morals / Coordinatiion / Social |
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Posted: 16 Oct 2010, 4:53 pm
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Replies: 19
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| When to start depends a lot on your daughter and the school--the instructors, really, and how accommodating they are. My boys started a couple years later than most of the other kids. The older was not quite 11 and the younger (who has the formal diagnosis, IEP and almost-unaffordable special school... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Martial Arts - Teaching of Morals / Coordinatiion / Social |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2010, 6:06 pm
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Replies: 19
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| Absolutely amazing what good martial arts can do. The head instructor sized up my younger son's needs right away and seems to always know when to push harder and when to back off. My older son has also benefited greatly; he's more than a little Aspie but has always been more able to function in the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Curious About A Chick |
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Posted: 09 Oct 2010, 6:06 pm
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Replies: 26
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| Just a suggestion, but ask yourself why you want to know? What I mean is what practical benefit is there in "knowing" she is or isn't Aspie? If you're getting along great, that's wonderful, but spend a few minutes imagining the following scenarios: One, she decides to seek formal diagnosis and she's... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How and when did you(r kid) get diagnosed? |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2010, 11:54 pm
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| My younger son was always different and that lead to problems in school. By first grade he always managed to be annoying somebody. Before that he was just "a handful" and "different from the other kids". Initial guess by the school and doctor was ADHD, but he didn't respond to treatment. Changed sch... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you think there is some truth in this? |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2010, 9:23 pm
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| No, not all. But perhaps many, sort-of. We humans like our carefully-drawn classifications and lines, but nature rarely respects them, slipping all sorts of intermediate cases into the mix to trip us up--Pluto and the Platypus, for example. I've seen a lot of writings that imply or outright say that... |
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Forum: Adolescent Autism Forum Topic: Arrgh, I'm new and feeling low. Hey. |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2010, 12:45 am
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Replies: 12
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| That isn't true. You can go hide on the other side of the moon, but so long as you can reach out to others in forums like this, you're not alone. So my first advice is to remind yourself of that every day. Every hour if it helps. You didn't say, but from the forum you're posting in I'll assume you'r... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Questions about you |
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Posted: 04 May 2010, 7:01 pm
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| What is your first name? Allen Age: 48 Location: Florida, USA Hobbies and Interests: flying, astronomy/space, cars, and building things--almost anything. My screen name refers to my older son's racing number. He's really FAST, although he's not racing right now. Why are you here? My younger son (12)... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Heavy metal not just music genre? |
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Posted: 01 May 2010, 11:45 pm
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Replies: 7
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| While it's a wonderful plan to live a healthy lifestyle including a good diet, DO NOT let anybody tell you that AS will "go away" if only you'll spend your money on "treatments." There are NO chemical causes or cures for AS supported by legitimate medical research. Depending on your specific situati... |
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