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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 1001 people I wouldn't date |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2006, 11:09 am
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Replies: 65
Views: 8,347
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| 947: Silvio Berlusconi (dodgy) 946: Osama Bin Laden (he's never around) 945: Saddam Hussein (a bit busy lately) 944: Danny De Vito (I don't go for small guys) 943: Mick Jagger (stringy!) 942: a sumo wrestler (for the opposite reason) 941: Sven Goren Erickson (not trustworthy) 940: the Pope 939: the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Anxiety & Head Games |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2006, 9:02 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,397
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| I know how you feel, I have no idea how to play these mind games either and getting a date cancelled or being ignored is so hurtful. These games are usually power games. In my experience there's little you can do to avoid these other than avoid dating people altogether. Just act as you normally woul... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What do I say to him to get him to respond? |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2006, 8:29 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 1,402
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Hurrah! I'm going to have to review my low opinion of small talk - it does work! I asked him if he was angry & he replied that he wasn't, just had lots to do.  So much for all those other deep and meaningful messages designed to drag out an answer out of him... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Bad timing?? |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2006, 8:22 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,381
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| Groovy Druid did an excellent posting under another header where, if I recall correctly, he said that it put him though two years of pain and anguish to find out he had AS. If you can't be certain that it'll help him knowing, best to leave things as they are. Sounds like he's got enough stress at th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Arrrrgh!! I can't fall back in love w/my husband |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2006, 2:32 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 22,541
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| Hi Carol Of course only you can know what ultimately is good or bad for you, but there seem two telling things in your posting which ring alarm bells. ....periods of emotional abuse and physical abuse(pushing and shoving during heated arguements). I guess I should mention we have 3 children, ages 3 ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS dating article |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2006, 1:45 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,915
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| It's been hard for me to get her to understand that I can have very satisfying sexual contact without having the one thing NTs seem to give a lot of priority to. Sorry to pry sin_nombre, but this is really intriguing me. Do you mean 'going the whole way' (I'm trying to avoid the censor) when you re... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS dating article |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2006, 9:58 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,915
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| Jetson, your posting could easily have been written by my SO who looks puzzles when I tell him that I've missed him like crazy and never initiates anything (not now that he's got my attention anyway). Thanks for being so honest. |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Anybody Here Over 30? |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2006, 11:06 am
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Replies: 118
Views: 14,327
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| I'm 44 and counting. NT though (supposedly) |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What would your dream partner be like? |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2006, 8:55 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 3,586
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| Someone who makes an effort to meet up for a start! People don't come to you, you have to go to them. Surley if you know they are perfect you would have met them already? Sorry, was just reflecting on my own current predicament, ie a guy who says he wants to meet up 'soon' but then is constantly 'v... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What would your dream partner be like? |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2006, 8:26 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 3,586
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Someone who makes an effort to meet up for a start! (but that's my own personal gripe)
Otherwise, someone who's quirky, his own person and proud of it. An honest, down-to-earth guy, who is considerate and loving (without being icky), who'll go the extra mile for you. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would you date an NT? |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2006, 8:20 am
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Replies: 122
Views: 12,877
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| Hurrah for the 50% of males who have voted yes. It doesn't matter if someone is Aspie or NT as long as it 'feels right' to be together and you both make an effort to understand and support each other. Lots of NT/NT relationships are complete disasters - and they're supposed to be fully equipped to c... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Smalltalk is boring |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2006, 8:12 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 6,044
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| I hate small-talk, yet in England it's quite difficult to get much beyond it. People go on and on about the weather and they expect you to remember all about them and their families and pets etc and enquire after them at length. It drives me crazy! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: DAMNIT! |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2006, 7:23 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,637
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Yep, no means no.
There's someone out there for you who's far better suited and she'll say yes. It's just a matter of time.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Biggest turnoff to NT's = Innocense? |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2006, 7:19 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 5,231
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| I agree with Spanky, innocence and a 'childlike' quality are very attractive, particularly as it comes with a childlike enthusiasm that is so rare in people. What I find unattractive is a 'seen it, been there' attitude and generally a desire to meld into a crowd. Most guys I come across (all NT) are... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Screaming into a black hole... |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2006, 8:24 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,513
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| Cool t-shirt, I want one! The treaty of Brest-Litovsk. There isn't one, except via my twisted sense of humour. I felt a pressing need to go for a complete mis-communication. Wonderful, I wish everyone had a sense of humour like that! I feel sometimes like putting a caveat before I say or write anyth... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Am I the only Nt here? |
| comeonandseeme |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2006, 1:36 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,572
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| Hi, I'm NT (I think) with AS tendencies and an AS BF (if he hasn't given up on me). |
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