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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: not sure if i have asperger's or not... |
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Posted: 13 Jun 2010, 9:33 pm
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| The reasons i think i may not have aspergers is that i think i feel empathy to some extent - ie if someone is upset =- i recongnise that and also feel their sadness. Hello, Just a quick point, since I've seen empathy misunderstood by AS folks in the exact same way previously - empathy isn't just be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: an NT who has questions about AS guys |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2010, 12:53 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,218
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Thanks for the responses so far. I appreciate it.
My ex just learned he has AS. I'm wondering if he'll have an "aha" moment or so when he looks back at his relationships. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: an NT who has questions about AS guys |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2010, 9:35 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Hello everyone - I'm an NT who was in a relationship with an AS guy who didn't know he was AS until after we broke up. I was wondering - do you guys ever feel regret after a relationship ends and you revisit your own contributions to its conflicts and failings? (And by the way, I'm not saying that t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ever felt that the NT world is just a game of let's pretend? |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2010, 8:21 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 5,864
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| Yeah, an existential crisis that makes you ultra-aware of your own mortality and raises your awareness. This will make you go nuts for a while and then you will realize how few things matter in this world and become hungry for this type of energy. Once the hunger manifests itself, you will have no ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Please advise !possible aspie guy told me not to contact him |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2010, 1:28 pm
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Replies: 95
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| ...long awesome post by HopeGrows My AS ex had a complete inability to lie. He could only speak the truth. But the reality is that he didn't know when he was lying to himself AND he was unable to fully comprehend the context of a situation. Thus he was, de facto, constantly lying and telling mistru... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: When NT's say "I love you" |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2010, 11:51 pm
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Replies: 22
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| When you say "I love you" what do you mean? I don't say "I love you" unless I genuinely care for the other person as something other than just a friend and would actually notice & care if the person left my life... doesn't happen to often. For me its the difference between wanting their company... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Covering up your AS |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2010, 3:34 pm
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Replies: 33
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| How is it that you're so sure that it's impossible to hide the fact that you have Asperger's Syndrome? You're 15. I seriously doubt that you've spent years working toward improving yourself and learning new habits to replace the ones you already have. Yeah, it's not impossible to hide it. I didn't ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ever felt that the NT world is just a game of let's pretend? |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2010, 3:30 pm
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| It's a little hard to explain, but sometimes I feel that "normal" people care about stuff that I don't care anything about, so my initial thought is that the things they care about are somehow less real, like a charade or something. Does something similar every occur to anyone else? Yes, but it goe... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: When NT's say "I love you" |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2010, 2:53 pm
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Replies: 22
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| I feel really uncomfortable when my friends say "I love you" to me because I know it's expected for me to say it back and it doesn't feel right to say it all the time. "I love you" should be a special saying, only when you really mean it, not so commonplace like people use it now. And because of th... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: When NT's say "I love you" |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2010, 1:26 pm
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Replies: 22
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| When my NT college friends say they love me, I get confused. I typically think of saying "I love you" as something very powerful with a meaning that goes beyond friendship. But my friends sometimes say they love me when I say random things or post random things on my facebook like wanting to lock s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2010, 12:31 am
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| It's hard for me to tell, for instance, if someone who is in distress would rather be comforted or left alone. same here, and i err on the side of distance because i can prefer that, and it's preferable to making someone more uncomfortable; but I suspect now, after years of failing to getting to kn... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I Gave A Girl The “Syndrome" |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2010, 8:19 am
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Replies: 62
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| I guess this explains why lots of Aspeis have problems finding partners. NTs are afraid of getting that syndrome from us :x Unfortunately, most NTs don't ever learn about this condition, even after they've become afflicted, so it's definitely not a factor in contributing to why NTs wouldn't want to... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question about AS guys and their need for space. |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2010, 5:07 pm
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Replies: 22
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Quote: It's not like the relationship is getting better--this is the honeymoon phase. It gets worse from here on out.
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What the hell is wrong with me - Complete loss of confidence |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2010, 5:05 pm
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Replies: 17
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| You'll have better luck of coming across as sane and healthy and someone who she would be interested in spending time with if you don't put her on a pedestal. Some women wnat guys who put them on a pedestal, but then those women come with a lot of emotional baggage. I'd suggest you rein in your expe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do you talk to a person of the opposite sex. Really? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2010, 4:39 pm
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Replies: 15
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| As a pretty attractive NT woman, my advice is to just try and say hello and ask her about herself or whatever she's doing. Be casual and genuine. Really attractive women get hit on ALL the time. One more guy coming up to you is sort of expected (not to sound arrogant, but it's true). So, it's much l... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What the hell is wrong with me - Complete loss of confidence |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2010, 4:29 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,665
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As a woman, I agree.
Ask her out, casually.
"Hey want to get coffee or go for ice cream?"
"There's this awesome movie opening up, want to go check it out with me?" |
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