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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: There's just something about... |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 8:49 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,616
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| She's not into you. I've deeply embarassed myself by not understanding that ignoring someone is a subtle form of rejection. If someone connects with you, they make time for you even if they're busy. I spent 5 years obsessing over a boy who couldn't give two s**ts about me. Put your energies elsewher... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 8:30 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 2,879
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| I know social media is heavily biased to only show the good parts of people's lives, but when I cut out facebook I felt so detached from the world. It's the only place outside of work where social interactions happen for me so it seems better than any other options. I even tried joining aspie groups... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Liked but never accepted |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 7:44 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,006
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| This is totally me. I seem well liked. I'm not an angry aspie, I'm not having oublic meltdowns. Yet, I can't turn acquaintances into friends. It makes me so sad and I wonder what in the hell is wrong with me. At work, everyone has their group of friends. I get along well with my coworkers yet I'm th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Any side dissorders? |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 7:26 pm
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Replies: 57
Views: 3,186
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| ASD and low vision (myopia, strabismus, and nystagmus - I have tiny optic nerves and I'll just have more issues as I age). |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I try this AS group? |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 7:22 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 824
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| The organizer invited me to another get together next week and I think I'll go. It's better than nothing. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: When to tell an employer |
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Posted: 18 Apr 2014, 9:49 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,453
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| I would never disclose my AS, unless I needed accommodations, and even then not until I had already secured the position. I don't even discoose my physical disability (low vision) because I think it outs me in a negative light. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: those with ssi or ssdi |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2014, 6:09 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,453
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| I would really advise that you not go spend that lump sum. It seems like so much money but it's really not in the long run. Even if it is allowed, this is a risky investment for someone who cn't work. He may never see that much money again. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 9:54 pm
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Replies: 36
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| Yes, it's actually embarassing as some of these people are facebook friends (though we never talk). I am single, make $11/hr, live at home, usually people don't even like my statuses. I would be so ashamed to admit if anything, I seem worse off than I used to. Facebook is just a place to remind me o... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: is it possible to drop out of High School and.... |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 9:40 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,933
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| Finish high school. You can't imagine at that age how much it will limit your opportunities if you don't have that diploma. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Resources that Helped Me that I'd Like to Share |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 11:43 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 962
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| When I first read this around when I was diagnosed I thought I already know all this stuff. Now years later I have to admit a lot of stuff I don't know or I know but I suck at actually putting into practice. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Hard Time Making Friends? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 10:00 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,805
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| I had an easier time in high school, but I haven't had any friends since (that's an 8 year dry spell). I am not an aspie who is happy in complete isolation. That's why I think I love my job in special education - It is my only interaction outside of family (whom I live with). I'd be so happy to have... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I try this AS group? |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 8:53 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 824
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| I did go and the first 30 minutes I was like what the hell am I doing but then I got more comfortable and it went better. Definitely better than being home alone again. It was just nice to see others like me - really high functioning autistics who aren't obviously disabled. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Who else finds autism depressing? |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 1:44 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,058
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| I notice the media often portrays AS as positive. We're brilliant, a little quirky, but we have awesome jobs because of our interests and bla bla bla. AS is who I am, but I often am jealous of how much easier it is for others. I often feel there's an invisible barrier between me and the world and I ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: traveling with autism |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 11:36 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,780
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| We don't know your child. One autistic child will find the motion of a car ride soothing and the next might hate all the noise included in car travel. Having said that, 30 hours is a lot for even a calm NT kid at that age. |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Do you guys think this poem is creepy to give my cousin? |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 11:32 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,026
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| As someone who can be way too intense with people, you are being way too intense. I've discovered through very embarassing scenarios that most people will be intimidated by the intensity of this poem. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Age relationships and autism |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 10:54 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 952
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| To be fair, I only learned to talk to chipdren because my job duties require it. I used to be very scared of children. |
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