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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 24 May 2015, 4:29 pm
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| Oh I understand that we all want to do better and there's nothing wrong with helping each other. But I think there's a difference between telling someone you can do it, I have faith in you, versus you have to do better because I said so. Especially when the person doesn't know what he's talking abou... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 20 May 2015, 6:40 am
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| Yeah I was just thinking that. If he can't handle the ways that I'm different and he's not willing to try it's not really my problem. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 3:22 pm
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dianthus wrote: I've had people try to fix me that way too, usually it turns out to be about someone from their past that they haven't worked things out with.
It's nice to know I'm not the only one. That helps it make more sense. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 3:17 pm
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| The thing is he does know it's not ok to do that. He says he's hurt his daughter in the same way. And yet he's not doing anything to overcome it. It seems like he's pushing me away because he doesn't want to hurt me. But putting a wall up like that is no way to live your life. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 10:36 am
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Replies: 26
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| Thank you, I appreciate it. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 10:32 am
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| I know how that feels. I have to take care of myself. Maybe eventually he'll get over himself but I don't want any drama. It's bad for me. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 10:24 am
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| That's a good point. He doesn't realize I used to be way worse off before I met him. I would have meltdowns and panic attacks constantly. And now I've been having panic attacks more often because of the pressure he puts on me. I told him positive reinforcement is what works for me. When he tells me ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 10:07 am
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| You might be right. I probably should at least for a while. I hope it won't be forever. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 9:58 am
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| In his defense it sounds like she was really neglectful of him and his siblings. It had been going on since he was too young to understand. Makes me sad that he never got help. I've told him he should get counselling or something. I don't think he hates me in the same way. But lately I feel like he'... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 9:46 am
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| I hope he will. He did tell me recently that his mom has some severe type of mental illness and he's always hated her so maybe that has something to do with it. Like he's afraid of being hurt by me since he was hurt by her. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 9:26 am
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| I agree. People need to be educated. I just wish I knew how to go about it. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you do when someone tries to "fix" you? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 9:00 am
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| I have a dear friend at work who I disclosed my AS to a while ago because he and some of his friends were teasing me about how quiet I am. He didn't realize there was a legitimate reason for it and I wanted him to understand. But it didn't go how I expected. I wanted him to accept my differences and... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: after you disclose |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2010, 3:41 am
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| I wasn't diagnosed with Asperger's until I was 23, I'm 26 now. I used to see it as a sort of stigma, my brother has extremely severe autism and at the time I didn't understand that there could be different levels of the condition. Over time I became more comfortable with it and helping people unders... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: can u be in your 20's or 30's and still be undiagnosed? |
| ladyundomiel |
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Posted: 21 Sep 2010, 11:03 pm
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| I was 23 when I was diagnosed, after I started therapy when my parents died. |
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