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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: "Outgrowing" Aspegers |
| Cicero |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 8:11 am
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Replies: 67
Views: 16,332
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| At 51, I am functional and fit in better than I used to, but the inner struggle is the same. Still say inappropriate things at times, still need to be alone to recharge. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What did you want to be as a kid |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 8:03 am
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Replies: 434
Views: 35,066
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| I wanted to live in the middle earth from lord of the rings in grade school. Later I wanted to be a rock star. Also thought it would be fun to be a jet fighter pilot. Also wanted to be a scientist like my dad, but I didn't do well enough in high school. Ended up as a computer programmer. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: after you disclose |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 8:55 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,590
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| I self diagnosed and was going to tell my boss in the context of how to work with me. Then I wondered if this would be an example of inappropriate social behavior, and I decided I will keep that to myself. What I will say, when the need arises, are things like "This conflict has come up, and I don't... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why Are You So Negative? |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 8:48 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 6,356
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I like to think that's one of the things I'm really good at.  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Sexual life with AS |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 8:47 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 5,478
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| I feel I always had a normal sex drive for a man, from what I see around me. On the relationship side I was all bound up with fear and it took a long time for me to get that all into perspective--it think at one time it was an unhealthy obsession. I think I am on the light end of the spectrum, AS wi... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Why do people hate Autistics?? |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 8:13 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 9,859
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| I think its human instinct to shun those who are different--from the cave dwelling days when survival was a constant struggle. We also have compassion and we emphasize that as well. My theory explains to me why kids are more cruel--they haven't been socialised to get past their instincts to compassi... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: IF I have AS, will my Kid have it? |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 8:07 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 6,370
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| I think my dad is asp, and one of my sons as well. Both high functioning. Make of that what you will. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Sharing a forum with your ex- nicely? |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 8:06 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 3,383
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| Since I protect my anonymity, my ex could be here pouring her heart out and I could be offering comfort without knowing it. Having said that, she has very different issues than I do and I imagine there are other forums she enjoys. We had to work together and raise the kids for 10 years. That was pai... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Have you guys ever felt irationaly lonely? |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 7:19 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,300
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| I always feel at a disadvantage because I have trouble knowing if people like me or want to be with me or not. As an adult, people are more polite so its not like kids who are painfully honest, and its hard to tell. I can tell you that I probably underestimate my likeability or my friends attachment... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Alcohol and Substance Abuse Counselling Thread |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 7:08 pm
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Replies: 741
Views: 179,956
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| Hello, it's me, back with a new problem. I'm afraid of becoming an alcoholic. My father drinks a great deal and drives drunk with me in the car. He went all the way through AA once, but he regressed when he split with my mom three years ago. He is a true alcoholic who drinks steadily and heavily wh... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Alcohol and Substance Abuse Counselling Thread |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 6:59 pm
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Replies: 741
Views: 179,956
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| I agree. From the very first time I had a beer when I was about 14 I craved more. My loss of control was more gradual. But the desire was there from the beginning. They say if you clearly remember your first drunk, you may be an alcoholic. I remember mine like it was yesterday, and it was 35 years ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Alcohol and Substance Abuse Counselling Thread |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 6:57 pm
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Replies: 741
Views: 179,956
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| Lots of people with mental illness, or whetever you want to call it, self medicate with alcohol. I have been sober and in AA over 20 years. I recall a gal who was in her early 20s getting a 10 year pin. I asked her how the hell young she was when she sobered up--in a friendly way, and she laughed. S... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: lonliness and getting older |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 6:50 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 6,227
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| Great this is what I have to look forward to and I've already had a tough time as it is with being accepted.. :cry: I didn't intend my post to instill despair. I still struggle at times, but its not the hell on earth I had as a child. I am financially successful and have a loving wife and adult chi... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Apple forbids use of its software 4 nuclear weaponry. Joke?! |
| Cicero |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 6:46 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 5,813
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| From the excerpt I saw, its just the standard waiver that the software is not reliable and they don't want to be held liable. |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Cicero is now in the building. |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 6:42 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Greetings. Even though I'm newer than yourself, I would just want to say I think it is great that you have made yourself a successful life. I am worried for children who are diagnosed with Asperger's (or autism) today, as they might be marked for life for behaviours that characterised them as small... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: lonliness and getting older |
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Posted: 10 Oct 2010, 4:36 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 6,227
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| At age 51, I find the idea of getting old is very disturbing. On the other hand, I have learned how to handle myself at work better and behave in a way that causes less conflict. I think someone has to be pretty intuitive to see I am asp, but I still struggle with it on the inside. Though since I wo... |
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