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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2010, 3:10 pm
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| What will work is giving people a chance to get to know you beyond your label before you drop it on them so that what they've learned about you to that point challenges their preconceived notions. The approach you are suggesting and mine don't even have to be mutually exclusive. You can educate peop... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2010, 12:36 pm
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| waiting to disclose offers an equal risk of sabotage (emphasis mine) I'm still waiting for the part where you prove this statement. So far you've stated no grounds for it except that you think it's true because of your previous experiences with Aspie partners. The plural of anecdote is not "data" a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2010, 11:48 am
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| break down the stereotypes with accurate information Wow, that's so easy. Why didn't I think of doing that? =P Bad stereotypes take decades to eradicate, if they can be eradicated at all. Heck, there's still racism out there and we've been fighting that form of discrimination as a society for at le... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 8:55 pm
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| And what does that disability actually disable? You might know the answer to that question for all of the people on the spectrum that you've dealt with but you've never dealt with me. You don't know what I am and am not able to do. You think that you do because you know that I'm autistic and you hav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 5:24 pm
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| Well, you're entitled to your opinion, but ask yourself the following: who lived the experience I've described: you or me? Who's more qualified to extrapolate my own life experiences: me, or some stranger who's reading things I've written over the internet? You did and you're more qualified to know... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Autism is not something to be cured! AGREE? OR DISAGREE? |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 3:55 pm
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I'd like to point out that the answers to the poll could bias the reader towards selecting the "desired" answer.
One answer has highly negative wording while the other has more positive wording. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 3:41 pm
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| Ick, sorry about the double post. =( |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 3:39 pm
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| So you can equivocate about "white" lies and "real" lies and semantics and all the rest, but you'll be gambling with someone else's heart. In a sense, you always are, and they are always gambling with yours. There's always a risk being taken because we can't read each other's minds, NT or autistic,... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 3:38 pm
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| So you can equivocate about "white" lies and "real" lies and semantics and all the rest, but you'll be gambling with someone else's heart. In a sense, you always are, and they are always gambling with yours. There's always a risk being taken because we can't read each other's minds, NT or autistic,... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hello, I'm new. |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 1:21 pm
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Replies: 11
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Now come get to know me! [Member Blog Registry] |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 1:20 pm
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to get an Aspie Girl? |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 1:18 pm
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| I've started my own social/support group in my area. It's not particularly for the purpose of meeting women with ASDs but I'll let you know how it works for that purpose. But I think starting a group for something that is uncommon/rare enough that it doesn't already have its own group becomes a sort... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 11:59 am
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| If you have decided that lying is always wrong, no matter what the lie and what the context, we'll never agree. We'll have to agree to disagree. But I think that you're also grossly overestimating how long I would let any kind of relationship with anyone go before disclosing my disability. Months an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 11:17 am
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| I get the sense that this argument is jumping between extremes while I'm trying to demonstrate a happy medium. It's a huge jump from anything I've said to claim that HopeGrows has delusions about love. What she's saying is reasonable and all I'm really trying to demonstrate is that I don't see it as... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: What is Autism Culture? |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 10:46 am
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| While I agree with you in principle, I'm not sure that the aim of this site is strictly advocacy. That might be part of it, but it seems to be largely a community where people who have autism, those who love and support them, or even people who are just interested in knowing more about autistics can... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lying to Attract a Mate |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 12:21 am
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| Hmm....I don't understand the distinction you're making: how is initiating a relationship under false pretenses not "outright" lying? "Pretense" is making something appear to be true that isn't, whereas I would define an "outright" lie as directly claiming something to be true that isn't. Perhaps I... |
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