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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mindblindness? |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2016, 3:44 pm
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Replies: 12
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| I'm in my fifties and worked out that I was probably aspie about 6 years ago. A couple of years ago, I spent some time with those things on line that help you read emotions and faces. Didn't really notice a huge difference but last week, something happened. I had a problem with someone I know and s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mindblindness? |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2016, 3:58 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 811
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| I'm in my fifties and worked out that I was probably aspie about 6 years ago. A couple of years ago, I spent some time with those things on line that help you read emotions and faces. Didn't really notice a huge difference but last week, something happened. I had a problem with someone I know and s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mindblindness? |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2016, 8:02 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 811
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| I'm in my fifties and worked out that I was probably aspie about 6 years ago. A couple of years ago, I spent some time with those things on line that help you read emotions and faces. Didn't really notice a huge difference but last week, something happened. I had a problem with someone I know and su... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Facebook for Aspies |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2016, 7:26 pm
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Replies: 100
Views: 12,243
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| Another issue I have is that people will post photos of their sparkling, successful lives, shiny-faced kids, details of their perfect jobs, (or so they would like others to think) but I have no idea how to dress up the fact that I live with my parents, and am on a benefit for anxiety and AS. How do... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it unfair of me to ask my gf for a prenup in this case? |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2016, 4:33 pm
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Replies: 268
Views: 11,436
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| I don't like the sound of your gf's behaviour, it raises red flags to me. Why can't she negotiate with you, instead of panic and threats? That being said, distress at the thought of a prenup does not, to me, mean anticipating divorce. You have to remember, what people don't seem to, that you can end... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: How many here are employed? |
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Posted: 24 May 2016, 1:00 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 4,087
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| I'm self-employed, I sell stuff online. I don't make minimum wage though. Which answer should I give? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The End of Social Issues |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2015, 3:44 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 622
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| This is part and parcel of being a man. I understand and agree with what you mean. These problems face everyone. What I am talking about is the people who go to these boards, like I do, trying to perfect themselves socially, who stay isolated in their rooms all day because they feel they don't fit ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Relatives that say it's not Autism and they only punish |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2015, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 674
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| I mentioned a lot of people there, not sure which ages you are interested in. I've seen this my whole life growing up in a family of very dysfunctional people that clearly are on the spectrum. No help, only punishment for being different and always the constant accusation that "they know what ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Speed |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2015, 5:30 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 477
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| Does anyone have anything to say about the speed at which we do things when we are on the spectrum? I have been feeling really down recently, my health and circumstances took a dive, and this morning I found a lot of comfort in doing things very slowly. I was alone. It made me think of my cousin, wh... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 30 May 2015, 12:09 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 15,421
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| When I say "normal" family, I mean one where they actually love their children, adopted or not. THAT, to me, is normal. The situation I grew up in after age 11 was anything but normal; I've never heard of a mother telling her child that "unconditional love is BS" unless that mot... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2015, 6:10 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 15,421
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| My adoptive mother took out an insurance policy on me and forged my signature. She named herself the beneficiary on the 50K policy, never told me about it until I was back at home after the birth of my daughter. She then turned around & asked ME to pay the premium while planning with the rest o... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2015, 6:02 pm
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Replies: 46
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| There is also a difference between "my self" and "my life". It's not always possible to have both in order, and then choice is necessary. Your mileage may vary. That first line is very profound. It accurately describes much of my first 5 + decades of life. I am trying to narrow ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2015, 3:38 pm
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Replies: 46
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| One's worth isn't based on having family associations or friends. Both can be well beyond your control and have nothing to really do with "you". I had a permanent and major break up with my family (siblings/parents). When I was younger I was always on the outs with my family and felt like... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2015, 3:26 pm
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Replies: 46
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| I should be worthwhile, full stop. But how to deal when you know you aren't? No family; friends who will talk to you, but if you find yourself homeless (as I have dozens of times in the past), are unwilling to let you move in..? Worthwhile people have support systems, worthless people have state pr... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2015, 5:51 pm
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Replies: 46
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| Although I do fantasise about it, I think I would probably hate for my life to "have a point". I should be worthwhile, full stop. There is also a difference between "my self" and "my life". It's not always possible to have both in order, and then choice is necessary. An... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2015, 4:28 pm
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Replies: 46
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| I would love to get a couple cats, honestly. I think having roommates is the closest to people I can be; I like going out and window-shopping, whatever...but I've found that going without physical touch eventually causes me actual pain. I was single for a year before this disaster of a relationship... |
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