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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Ever had someone fake loving you? |
| MountainLaurel |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2013, 5:18 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,681
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| No, this never happened to me, but I see it happen. In the case of men; some of them are attracted to women who they think need to be rescued. They are very attracted to women they perceive as needing rescue at first and for some time. But the problem is that; what these men are really in love with,... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Projects with people vs "hanging out" |
| MountainLaurel |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2013, 4:48 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 701
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Quote: It seems like NTs think of bonding as sitting around doing nothing but chatting,
I think you're wrong in this assumption. NTs, like anyone, bond most easily working together or during a mutual activity. That's why so many couples met at work, school, church, the gym etc. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Serious Problem |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2013, 7:36 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,898
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| I would like to know if it would be acceptable to try and sway her one last time or if that is wrong and I should just shut up about it? It's probably wrong to do that. You want to act on your feelings. Apparently she has expressed her feelings about getting closer to you. In approaching her yet ag... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What's next?!? |
| MountainLaurel |
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Posted: 30 May 2013, 11:05 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 978
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| I'm at a loss at what to do next...... It would help to know what 'being his girlfriend' means to this man, who you have been getting to know for just a month. Does it mean that he is asking whether you are willing to date him exclusively? Does it mean something about level of sexual activity? Does... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Dealing with my brothers suicide |
| MountainLaurel |
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Posted: 29 May 2013, 12:53 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 765
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| Expat; I send my heartfelt condolence on your great loss. Never posted in a forum before, but I just need to type this out I am stunned that a non-native English speaking person writes in this language with such fluidity and clarity. I am taken by the love and insight you have for your brother. The ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asking Advice: This One is a Doozy |
| MountainLaurel |
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Posted: 29 May 2013, 10:39 am
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Replies: 37
Views: 2,858
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| Do you think that once this event is over, I should tell my boss I saw this message and then tell her I have AS, and that is why I have these problems, just so she’ll understand that it’s not a question of incompetence? I think that would be OK if it's what you want to do. Folks in the workplace se... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "I really like you"...... |
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Posted: 28 May 2013, 1:19 pm
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Replies: 27
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| Thanks, Mike, for the clarification. That is a bad habit, but the nasty habit is dating and getting intimate with a new flame when one is not yet over the 'ex'. I consider it to be unethical, but clearly, I am in the minority. Look, if you really love the person who has left you; it's worth sitting ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "I really like you"...... |
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Posted: 27 May 2013, 4:04 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,284
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| AspieMike wrote: One thing I have found out in the past is when I was serious and wanted to commit to a women for a relationship, they rejected me when I knew full well they had strong enough feelings for me. What?! ! I don't understand this. Are you saying that you wanted to commit, but never told... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "I really like you"...... |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 10:13 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,284
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| I've always believed it's a bad idea to ask whether a man loves me, no matter how curious I might feel. That's for 2 reasons; - Because I don't think that trying to push/pull love works. - He might feel compelled to lie in order to placate me. I like to leave it to the man to profess on his own. If ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can people with aspergers manipulative others? |
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Posted: 25 May 2013, 11:09 pm
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Replies: 78
Views: 13,008
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| LeagueGirl; oops; I can see why you have taken my comment as directed to you. It wasn't. I was using your honestly insightful comment to illustrate my belief that even the least sophisticated among us can and will manipulate. (You are certainly not unsophisticated; on the contrary, in my opinion.) T... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Growth can be ridiculously painful. |
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Posted: 25 May 2013, 10:39 pm
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Replies: 5
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| No, not whiny. Your post is beautifully enlightened. I agree, growth can be ridiculously painful. I, also had to learn interpersonal boundaries in therapy. It was a fairly slow fearful process and my family is not as blatant as yours. I endorse your progress and wish you success. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: is this theory-of-mind related? |
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Posted: 25 May 2013, 10:29 pm
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Replies: 9
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| Thank you for replying and giving your own experience. The story about MountainLaurel and Bob's baby mistake is not my own experience. It's a story that I constructed to parallel yours. I constructed the story to be as close to yours as I could manage, in order to illustrate that typical TOM can so... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can people with aspergers manipulative others? |
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Posted: 25 May 2013, 9:46 pm
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Replies: 78
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| Don't try and control my emotions and anxiety and just let it happen hoping I will get my way so I can be calm and not be all stressed out and upset or have to deal with the distress. Aspergers kids do this a lot. And, yes it is a manipulation. With kids it's a manipulation made by a less sophistic... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How to encourage people to ask questions? |
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Posted: 25 May 2013, 4:31 pm
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Replies: 18
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| MathGirl wrote: I can also often "diagnose" a person based on my psychological knowledge, but I'd still often be curious if my guess is correct and would think that conveying information about my judgement might potentially be beneficial to boost the other person's self-awareness. I just wish there... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How to encourage people to ask questions? |
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Posted: 25 May 2013, 1:31 pm
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Replies: 18
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| I want to break past this weird thing that people have and to encourage people to not ask shallow questions about me that only elicit labels and assumptions Labels have gotten a very bad connotation which I find to be counterproductive. I find that labels, once applied, can be very useful in the pr... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Husband won't forgive son's rage damage without apology |
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Posted: 24 May 2013, 9:12 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,976
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Quote: Gnomey...the drywall repair is something that a contractor needs to do
I fixed a hole 20" across. It took about 3 weeks, at about 20 minutes per day. |
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