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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you heard of "the spiky profile"? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2024, 4:05 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I have to admit that I'd only heard of this term late last year, and I consider myself pretty knowledgeable about all things ASD! But it makes perfect sense; basically conveying the notion that autism isn't a linear spectrum, but more like a "colour wheel" spectrum, with spikes denoting ar... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you heard of "tone policing"? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2024, 10:31 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 3,432
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| I admit that I'd not heard about "tone policing" until catching it in a couple of articles recently. Basically, it's a rather rude and patronizing tactic that people in the "majority" (an amorphous term) use against someone whom they regard as not deserving of the same courtesies... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The autism social rule book. |
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Posted: 19 Feb 2024, 8:17 pm
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Replies: 860
Views: 265,523
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| Yes, the autistic brain simply isn't wired for conformity. While others may have thought that I was "the mentally ill one" for so long, if you examine it objectively, it's like NTs have collective schizophrenia. Seeing insults or defiance or whatever that simply isn't there. Reading into s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did you use to think you were the only one?? |
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Posted: 13 Feb 2024, 9:23 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 741
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| More of a question for Gen-Xers like myself, or early Millennials, or Boomers... Before you knew of your ASD diagnosis, or even knew what it was, did you think that you were the only one?? I can tell you that I certainly felt this way, during my childhood in the '80s and youth in the '90s, before be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ways to torment an NT (funny) |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2024, 11:41 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 6,706
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| oh oh I got one... After you "come out" to someone as being on the autistic spectrum, b/c they get frustrated or angry or weirded out in some way that your behaviour is unnatural, let's say they respond curtly with "I don't care about your condition!!" (And yes, I've gotten this ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Special interest in unwritten rules (of etiquette)? |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2024, 9:00 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 3,796
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| Have you adopted a "special interest" in rules of social etiquette? Like to study it and what the origins of it were, examples, etc.? Thinking of the quote by the late Asperger activist Marc Segar, "Autistic people have to learn scientifically what neuro-typical people know intuitivel... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is the "mirror neuron hypothesis" valid? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2024, 7:47 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,520
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| I've been wondering recently about the validity of the mirror neuron hypothesis... some of you will have heard of it and know that it is one of the theories behind why autism manifests as it does, i.e. a failure to integrate nonverbal signals into a cohesive whole and thus infer that person's state ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you heard of "malicious compliance"? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2024, 10:29 am
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Replies: 55
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| IMO, the shelf/box example is somewhere between passive aggression, and the more tactical-strategic MC. Because, you are looking at the bigger picture (of the shelf structure and other boxes), not just focusing on the micro level detail. I think a more knee-jerk example of passive-aggression (which ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have people said "you don't apply yourself"? |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2024, 10:48 am
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Replies: 13
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| I think another large part of the issue is confirmation bias. NTs will cherry-pick one or two examples of how your behaviours or responses conformed perfectly to NT expectations, and say "Well I've seen you do such-and-such, so I know you can do it like everyone else... you're just not applying... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you heard of "malicious compliance"? |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2023, 10:20 am
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Replies: 55
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| ...and how it relates to misconceptions of ASD/HFA? I first read about malicious compliance earlier this year, basically meaning what it says... you're asked by some authority figure to do something and you do it to the letter, resulting in failure, that you knew was likely to occur. It tends to occ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have people said "you don't apply yourself"? |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2023, 10:11 am
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Replies: 13
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| This is one of the ignorant comments that I absolutely detest: "You don't apply yourself", or "Your problem is you don't apply yourself." :twisted: My first instinct is to retort with "How did you conclude that??" I think a lot of them use confirmation bias, e.g. "... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ways to torment an NT (funny) |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2023, 8:58 pm
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Replies: 52
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| Yes, tell them the precise truth unvarnished and answer every question they ask in great detail. That's usually enough to short circuit NT brains. Or do exactly what they tell you to the precise detail and when they complain say "Well you said..." That's a good idea, I often do that by de... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ways to torment an NT (funny) |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2023, 2:11 pm
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Replies: 52
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| I've got one more... If you ever feel like disclosing your challenges/condition to an NT, in the form of "I have a tendency to unintentionally interpret things literally; I'm not very good with reading between the lines." and if they give you a pat response of "no problem", then ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!" |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2023, 8:27 pm
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Replies: 22
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| As a a young law firm associate, I once had a partner at a major New York law firm (not my own) call me the stupidest lawyer she had ever met. This after ten minutes of me trying to explain to her how a letter of credit works. I suspect she thought that I thought that she didn’t know what she was d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!" |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2023, 6:06 am
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Replies: 22
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| Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!" Most of my relatives, many of my co-workers and subordinates, and a few bureaucrats. The really sad part is that none of them apologized when I turned out to be correct. Yeah, could've been that you were more rational and not as emotionally... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!" |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2023, 7:16 pm
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Replies: 22
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| Nicest retort I would get in college, and was in a lesson with my clarinet professor (who was also the band director) was “you knucklehead!” You don’t even want to know the language used by my father and my brothers. At least people in the church don’t have an issue with my autism, considering ther... |
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