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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Study: men admitting to rape |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 9:10 pm
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Replies: 48
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| CDC's new rape study is out. Survey of thousands and thousands of people, statistically significant. Responses are anonymised, no one shows up at the door, no reason not to believe it's accurate. Their numbers: 19.1% of American women have been raped at one time or another during their lives; 1.7% o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating advice vs. gender equality |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 8:29 pm
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| Yes. Yes it does imply that you are going to pay. You ask for the date. You pay for the date. It doesn't have to be an expensive date. It is simply not the same social context as going with your mate to the pub. You take the RISK of carrying the whole cost of the date. If she offers to pay her shar... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: I want a baby but not Autistic baby |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 6:52 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 14,099
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| Sez you, kk, you're not the one raising the kid. I've seen what some parents go through and there are days when, as hard as my grind is, I'm deeply, deeply grateful not to be in their situation. OP: Yes, there is a greater risk for you than for the general population. Autism is not, however, rare at... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do the majority of guys with A.S. never get a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 4:52 pm
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Replies: 281
Views: 40,639
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| Jono...I understand what you're saying, but unfortunately it misses the point that exists. The OP asked whether people with AS find relationships. I'm showing that the answer seems to be yes, many do, but that there are problems in sustaining the relationships. The question is not "what is just", bu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do the majority of guys with A.S. never get a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 4:15 pm
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Replies: 281
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| jono, I don't know if you realize it, but you've managed to underscore every point the NT spouses are making. You're standing there saying "this is not a problem" or "this isn't anything about AS" or "it's the right way to be" without at all addressing the fact that they're seriously problematic be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do the majority of guys with A.S. never get a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 3:14 pm
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| jono, I don't know if you realize it, but you've managed to underscore every point the NT spouses are making. You're standing there saying "this is not a problem" or "this isn't anything about AS" or "it's the right way to be" without at all addressing the fact that they're seriously problematic beh... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 1:37 am
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Replies: 46
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sly279 wrote: so me saying that there are women that will make it up must mean I coward in a corner afraid of getting accused of rape and that I will just walk up and touch women.
sly, I said nothing of the sort. |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 11:58 pm
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Replies: 46
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| The other thing is this. If you're that worried about being falsely accused, then perhaps you'd better start working to educate people on consent, how not to rape, and how to intervene when a situation looks bad. One of the biggest problems in rape/DV education is that guys shrug and think it's not ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 11:54 pm
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| Just out of curiosity, how many times do we have to do the "in fact nearly all rape charges are substantiated, no, it's not about vengeful women just trying to f**k men over" show? I always wonder what other tinfoil-hat conspiracies the people who bring this stuff up get exercised about, and why th... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 11:49 pm
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Replies: 46
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| Just out of curiosity, how many times do we have to do the "in fact nearly all rape charges are substantiated, no, it's not about vengeful women just trying to f**k men over" show? I always wonder what other tinfoil-hat conspiracies the people who bring this stuff up get exercised about, and why the... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 9:49 pm
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Replies: 46
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| my guess is that somebody like the perp with his history of rape, should have been DNA tested to match the rape kit. If that's going to be the standard, there'll have to be provisions for actually making sure the rape kits get analyzed timely. There are cases all over the country of rape kits just ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 9:45 pm
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| my guess is that somebody like the perp with his history of rape, should have been DNA tested to match the rape kit. If that's going to be the standard, there'll have to be provisions for actually making sure the rape kits get analyzed timely. There are cases all over the country of rape kits just ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 8:55 pm
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| It's a problem at all the universities. They're all desperate for money (admittedly their idea of 'desperate' is different from most people's) and top students/faculty, so they've started spending gargantuan sums on PR and advertising. Rape, bad PR. They also have to report sexual assaults, and many... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: progress of "yes means yes" laws and policies |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 5:20 pm
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| You?ve already made it abundantly clear that, in order to be marginally safe, a man has to assume ?no? means ?no?, ?yes? means ?no?, too, and any kind of close contact with a woman means ?watch out, because, from now on, I can choose to ruin your life any time I want to by claiming you took advanta... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do the majority of guys with A.S. never get a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 5:19 pm
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Replies: 281
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| Everyone has problems. In my experience, modern society is sufficiently complex to cause information overload and social anxiety in the vast majority of NTs as well; people can be impulsive and crazy but it's healthier to keep in mind that people will just be people and we can always negotiate thro... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do the majority of guys with A.S. never get a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 5:16 pm
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Replies: 281
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| Like that woman for example: http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/My-Spouse-Or-Partner-Has-Aspergers-Syndrome/2950772 She complains about his robotic behavior, yet by reading the first part of her thread it's obvious why her marriage is destined for failure: She married him because she was desp... |
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