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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do people think of you as naive or... |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2012, 5:28 pm
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Replies: 9
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I've become used to certain people underestimating me. If they stick around long enough, they'll stand corrected.  |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Jury Duty? |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2012, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 4,304
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| After being rejected for juries over the course of many years, I was finally selected for a criminal case (rape and burglary) and was even appointed head juror. It was a rewarding experience, though a difficult one. When we were sequestered and about to reach a verdict, I found that I had the abilit... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Grieving independently |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2012, 3:50 pm
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Replies: 5
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| Your sense of apathy had nothing to do with this loss. Maybe it's best to not grapple with the so-called right things to say, and don't get her a puppy at this time. Say nothing. Just let her be as she goes through the grieving process, however long it takes. It may be something your mom may never c... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Does your naivety lead to abusive relationships? |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2012, 1:51 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 4,818
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| I've been on an extended sabbatical from relationships. Somehow I was always in danger of losing my integrity or self worth, even though I never saw myself as being a total pushover. What would wear me down were the verbal "dings," i.e. criticisms I'd eventually attract. Like, at age 17 - "You'd be ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: What's your favorite perfume/scent to wear? |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2012, 1:33 pm
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Replies: 121
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| I worked in fine fragrance for several years and now I can't imagine how I did it. Many synthetic scents are repulsive to me. (The worst is being next to someone who's wearing something that is wrong for their body chemistry.) I've seen the formulas for many perfumes and they're mostly a chemical so... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you love your inner world? |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2012, 1:53 pm
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Replies: 8
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My inner world was vibrant when I was younger. Now, it's less so. Maybe living has worn my imagination down.
Once a co-worker said, "I'll bet you have a rich inner world." He barely knew me, and that comment disturbed me at the time. What had he tuned into or seen? |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: questions about gluten free diet |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2012, 1:47 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Hi. If you have celiac or are gluten intolerant, you'll be advised to go completely gluten free. It's a daunting diet, especially at first, but worth it. I've been gluten free for six years and experienced a reduction in symptoms within the first week. I've been vigilant about diet, keeping the kitc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Tying shoelaces |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2012, 9:41 am
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Replies: 49
Views: 12,222
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| I was the last kid in kindergarten who learned to tie her own sneakers. I remember watching intently to understand the process and then one day it seemed like I mysteriously got it. The teacher seemed surprised. One possible problem is that I was always watching an adult tie my sneakers as he or she... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: If you're an attractive young woman with Aspies |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2012, 3:54 pm
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Replies: 66
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ZanneMarie wrote: I mean that I would stop it right there and walk out. I'm pretty hardcore that way. I won't waste my time on things that aren't going to work for me.
Love this. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What causes your meltdownn? |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2012, 4:00 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 2,602
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| Many of my adult meltdowns and shutdowns could have been avoided if I'd said no, set limits, left the room, left the house, walked away, broke contact, told the other person their behavior was inappropriate, etc., SOONER. A lot sooner. Like when it was happening. Ideally, the first time. I've stayed... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Toe Walking |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2012, 2:45 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 3,113
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| I first remember toe walking at around age four. It probably continued until age 9 or so, though by then it was done completely in private. Somehow I think I wanted the sensation of being taller. Toe walking was pleasurable. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: An idea about life skills |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 4:49 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Do you want to roast a whole chicken, or chicken parts? As for the eggs, my husband likes the peppers and eggs that I make him on the weekends. Would that be something you are interested in? Thanks for asking. I had the whole chicken in mind, but roasting the parts is important too. Whichever is ea... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: An idea about life skills |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 4:31 pm
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| This is an excellent idea. I left home without mastering certain skills like ironing my clothes. My mother didn't have the patience to show me, so I became pretty self-taught in cooking and certain aspects of housekeeping. Some non-food ideas: Ironing, sewing on a button, mending a tear, doing laund... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Shops that sell bras and knickers |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 4:00 pm
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Replies: 6
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| These shops don't appeal to me either. They're little shrines to frou frou. The whole ritual of shopping for lingerie is unappealing. Somehow I don't need lace and underwire to feel good about myself. I've tried to wear this stuff and it just feels wrong. It's too skimpy, fussy, scratchy, or constri... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Being called sweetie, sweetheart, baby, etc. by strangers |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2012, 6:02 pm
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Replies: 46
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| I've always liked hearing terms of endearment as long as it feels friendly and genuine. It doesn't matter what the person's age or sex is. There's a newsstand where an Indian woman calls "Hello, luv" to almost everyone who walks in. It always sounds like she means it. So I'd rather go in there than ... |
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Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: Sherlock and others |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2012, 4:58 pm
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Replies: 49
Views: 8,031
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Jory wrote: safffron wrote: When Holmes responded with the word, "Aspergers," You mean Watson?
Yes, of course, Watson. Thanks for the correction. |
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