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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Saw her for the first time in 10 years! |
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Posted: 28 Jan 2014, 10:57 pm
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| I must admit I'm very jealous of those couples who do seem to grow side-by-side together over time, becoming even more pair-bonded over the years, whose mutual attraction and affection is still evident after decades. I so want to know what it's like to know another human being, inside and out, and ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2014, 3:44 pm
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| [Rather than "wonder" if someone is flirting my advice would be that if you are interested in a girl ask her out. Women appreciate a confident guy who is not afraid to approach her. If she is interested then she will let you know via her response. But, how to read her response correctly? I have had... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Biggest relationship challenge? |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2014, 1:53 pm
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| Agreed. OP, it sounds like your partners were unwilling to work with you to help improve the relationship. So don't start thinking that everything is wrong with you. Thanks for saying that. These relationships happened years ago and I have never been able to figure them out. I appreciate your objec... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Biggest relationship challenge? |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2014, 1:44 pm
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| That actually makes sense. The woman sees my mind or cognition in a way that makes her think that it will cause future problems. Man, if only she had said that, I'd have been cool with it!! :roll: :lol: "I've just seen a side of you that makes me doubt that we can work as a couple. You have failed t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Biggest relationship challenge? |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2014, 1:10 pm
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| Anticipating and responding to other people's emotions is the hardest thing. Needing alone time on my own terms is another one, but the former is I think bigger. I get the impression that NTs can foresee when issues might arise and then act a certain way to prevent them. I can't....For me it is usua... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: explain how autism feels in your own words |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2014, 10:56 am
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Replies: 46
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| The key is that I have to think about it, instead of it coming naturally. I have to devote brainpower towards interpreting feelings in others, where NT's don't, and because I have to think about it, that means it's more likely I'll make a mistake and say the wrong thing, or send the wrong signals. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Before Asperger's |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 12:52 pm
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| "you're weird, you're a loser, you'll never amount to anything and you'll be in jail as an adult.". My parents even frequently made those statements. I wonder why parents and authority figures used to do that. My theory is that they did it thinking that it would shame the person into behaving diffe... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever felt that your honesty scared others? |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 12:02 pm
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Replies: 23
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| This is where I wonder if I have an ASD or not. My first reaction would be to wonder if all parties involved where ok. I may or may not want details depending on how bad things were. I don't need images of dismembered limbs in my head. I can be prone to nightmares. Sensitive. Perhaps too sensitive ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever felt that your honesty scared others? |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 11:49 am
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| Hello, NT here with a question regarding this topic: On this forum, I read a lot about telling the (emphasis here:) brutal truth .... - why does it have to be brutal? This implies that you fully realize that it will hurt and willingly phrase it so meaning that you are brutal by choice. I can see wh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: explain how autism feels in your own words |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 11:08 am
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| As a child, I felt lost and alone in a fog of confusion. I didn't 'speak the language' that everyone else was speaking, and everything I did was wrong, apparently. To me, I was happiest when alone, doing my own thing, Ditto for me on that. Almost to the letter. I went for years observing how fluidl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever felt that your honesty scared others? |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 12:27 am
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| I think people find it threatening. They get angry. They can't dismiss what you say if it's true. Everyone just has a stunned silence. I keep forgetting about how there is politics power play going on. When I was young I used to think that having a 1:1 relationship with facts was the morally right ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: explain how autism feels in your own words |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2014, 11:43 pm
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| For me, it feels like the person I really am is not reflected in what comes across on the outside. I actually feel like a cool guy on the inside, but when I see myself from the outside (like when someone takes a video or whatever), man do I ever appear stiff and geeky... It's like, "s*&t, I feel... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever felt that your honesty scared others? |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2014, 10:16 pm
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| I can think of two reasons why people might be afraid of truth tellers: -Power systems, including social hierarchies often require lies and fascade to maintain themselves. -People are afraid that you will expose their plots and rackets. These concerns are not entirely illegitimate. To get anywhere ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever felt that your honesty scared others? |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2014, 8:47 pm
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| You know how it is - we Aspies tend to tell it like we see it. We don't typically have that political filter that tells us when something - even though it may be glaringly true - is simply not to be said in public. Have you ever felt that others feared you precisely because you spoke your mind? I do... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Before Asperger's |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2014, 7:58 pm
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Replies: 50
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| In my earlier comment, I had mentioned having been called poorly coordinated. Even while in grade school and knowing that I didn't have a gift for that major bonding team activity - group sports - I remember standing on the sidelines, watching people running after a football, tackling each other, an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Before Asperger's |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2014, 2:36 pm
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| He shouted "LOOK ME IN THE EYE WHEN I'M TALKING TO YOU!" and he whacked me round the head with a great big thick text book. That is horrible behavior by a teacher, showing a lack of self control and maturity on his part. Just awful. Sounds like an old school (pun intended) type teacher with an auth... |
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