| Author |
Message |
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you mean when you say AS is part of who you are? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 11:53 pm
|
|
Replies: 45
Views: 2,845
|
| I have to believe also that if I didn't have Asperger's I would have done much better in the social world, especially in the area of dating and relationships, and the end result would be that somehow I wouldn't have ended up with my wife because I would have been unavailable when I met her, or woul... |
|
 |
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone Jewish here? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 25 Jan 2015, 4:08 pm
|
|
Replies: 13
Views: 1,175
|
| While this board is meant to unite people who either have or suspects ASD in themselves or in their loved ones, and for many of you it strongly affect the way you identify yourselves, I'm sure there are other things that affect our self-identity, perhaps more important than this. So, while I haven't... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you mean when you say AS is part of who you are? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 23 Jan 2015, 12:55 pm
|
|
Replies: 45
Views: 2,845
|
| I guess it's comforting, to know I am not alone. But that does not define me. It just explains things. That's my point. On the other hand, I'm afraid a label could screw up my chances for successful love-and-marriage life; that's why I'm not eager to obtain it. Besides, doesn't it cost a fortune ju... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you mean when you say AS is part of who you are? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 23 Jan 2015, 12:11 am
|
|
Replies: 45
Views: 2,845
|
| Thanks to all for your answers; they're very informative. Let me clarify my position, though, because apparently you misunderstood me a little. When I say that I value social acceptance as a reward for the "right" behavior, and better life that supposedly comes with that acceptance, I refe... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you mean when you say AS is part of who you are? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 21 Jan 2015, 10:52 pm
|
|
Replies: 45
Views: 2,845
|
| It has been a popular line of thinking among Aspies that it's not worthwhile changing anything in your personality because Asperger Syndrom is a significant part of what you are. I would like to know what you mean by that. Is it your beliefs? Your behavior and habits? Your childhood memories? If it'... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asperger, or not... Would it be such a big deal?... |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 05 Sep 2012, 5:37 pm
|
|
Replies: 20
Views: 2,845
|
| The decision of whether or not to pursue an official diagnosis depends on whether the cost of such a diagnosis is worth its benefits. Based on what people are saying, official diagnosis may cost from a few hundred to a few thousand dollars. So, think how important it is for you to know it exactly. L... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How come so many people here treat AS like a race/club? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 22 May 2012, 8:46 pm
|
|
Replies: 115
Views: 11,790
|
| That way I don't have to pretend like I'm a normal function person and have things fall apart when the dating/marrige partner realizes I was not being honest and cannot deal with someone that has the sort of issues I do. The decision about what to disclose and what to keep to yourself varies from p... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How come so many people here treat AS like a race/club? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 22 May 2012, 5:58 pm
|
|
Replies: 115
Views: 11,790
|
| A lot depends on what your goals in life are. If you are single and looking for a soulmate to start a family, you don't want to overemphasize your being a disorder carrier. You don't want a potential dating/marriage partner to know that Aspieness is "part of who you are". If you are already married ... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How come so many people here treat AS like a race/club? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 22 May 2012, 5:35 pm
|
|
Replies: 115
Views: 11,790
|
| Perceiving your AS as a disease is another extreme - a direct opposite to vieweing it a superior race. Accepting AS as a disease may not be much of an insult, but it carries with itself a huge package of consequences. If you concede to the notion of having a lifelong disease, the society won't see y... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: you know your an aspie when... |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 20 May 2012, 8:59 am
|
|
Replies: 16
Views: 3,385
|
Who_Am_I wrote: When you reply to a humorously-intended thread in the above manner.
Perhaps. But I'm not taking your "professional" diagnosis at face value and will continue to project myself to the society as absolutely normal. |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: you know your an aspie when... |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 19 May 2012, 11:19 pm
|
|
Replies: 16
Views: 3,385
|
| There are plenty of indicators of a possibility of having Aspergers, but among the examples you've quoted, I can only agree with #3 (about the arms). The other two are merely a matter of personality. As for something that makes you sure of having Aspergers, I would not jump to such a conclusion unde... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Which country is best for people with ASD? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 05 Apr 2012, 6:42 pm
|
|
Replies: 7
Views: 1,146
|
| There are actually two ways to look at this. To those who rely on public assistance (which I don't and have no desire to), countries such as the United States, Canada, and EU countries might be the best. However, from the social perspective (which is more of my attention), these very countries seem ... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How is your dating/relationship life? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 11:14 pm
|
|
Replies: 69
Views: 10,251
|
| I'm a man and, unfortunately, I have been experiencing dating difficulties for the past decade or so. I tend to think that these difficulties have a lot to do with the way I present myself, which, in turn, may very well be due to undiagnosed AS. Of course, I maintain the optimisic composure: even if... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Poll for the self-diagnosed |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 10:55 pm
|
|
Replies: 50
Views: 5,785
|
| I was dating a young woman (who actually happened to be two years my senior). Unfortunately, in most cases, the girls have been rejecting me. This case, however, was different: she wasn't rejecting me at all and looking forward to a relationship with me. But I didn't feel any chemistry to her whatso... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I seek a diagnosis? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 03 Apr 2012, 9:16 pm
|
|
Replies: 9
Views: 1,794
|
| I know that autism is a spectrum disorder, but I'm afraid of wasting hundreds of dollars just to be told, "Oh, turns out you don't have Aspergers." And if they tell you: "Congratulations! You're an Aspie!", would that make those hundreds of dollars any less wasted? It's all about perception. If, fo... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: If it was possible to get rid of AS, would you go for it? |
| New-Yorker |
|
Posted: 03 Apr 2012, 8:23 pm
|
|
Replies: 27
Views: 2,723
|
| It's not the Autism or the Asperger's that is the issue: its the society that we are forced to live in, and being "neurotypical" is going to do NOTHING to change how screwed up society is. You can blame it on the society all you want, but that won't change the reality. Screwed up or not, the societ... |
|
|
| Sort by: |
