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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "I can't make faces for you any more" |
| Ember_Of |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2015, 1:37 am
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Replies: 6
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| "I can't make faces for you any more" Has anyone ever said that in their head, when someone is talking to them, who just doesn't get it when you say you're 'tired' (especially if they don't know you might be on the spectrum) - and you really wish they'd stop trying to engage you, because y... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling in love for real, and then it's gone? |
| Ember_Of |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2014, 7:05 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 928
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| I think starvingartist makes a good point. For me, I choose to think of love as an action rather than a feeling. It's a choice whether to love someone or not, or sometimes whether to MAKE yourself love someone or not. The attraction to a person or an infatuation with a person is bound to fade. I've... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling in love for real, and then it's gone? |
| Ember_Of |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2014, 6:15 am
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| i think (at least part of) the problem is that most people can't tell the difference between fascination/infatuation and actual love (which to me means knowing a person as well as you can know someone who isn't you, and accepting all that you know, good and bad--in my estimation that is what proper... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling in love for real, and then it's gone? |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2014, 6:11 am
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| I can understand initial infatuation, then those feelings fade as the relationship continues. Say I like guy X, but over time my experiences of him cause my negative feelings to start reaching/matching the level of what positive feelings I had. But I'm trying to preserve the relationship, keep thin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling in love for real, and then it's gone? |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2014, 3:08 am
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Replies: 13
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| I don't understand how deep feelings of love and bonding could disappear overnight for no reason, but I think the realization that they are not there anymore could maybe happen overnight for the person who stops having them....even if the feelings didn't actually change overnight. :O I don't know w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is the difference between romantic, aromantic love? |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2014, 1:51 am
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Replies: 12
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cathylynn wrote: can't take sexual attraction out of the picture, as it's the whole difference.
Not true. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling in love for real, and then it's gone? |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2014, 1:47 am
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| For all those on the spectrum, Have you had the experience of feeling truly, madly, deeply, forever in love with someone, and saying you wanted to commit to them...and then just having your feelings for that person go away? What happens, to make that happen? Or what is the progression of events or f... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Terrified of Phone Calls |
| Ember_Of |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2014, 12:32 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,151
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| Auditory processing stuff kinda sucks (I have that too; and yes, the plugging 1 ear thing is often essential), but it's easier to get around (in a technical way) than just the sheer, unexplainable dread and anxiety that certain aspects of receiving or making calls evokes. I'm even worse about knocks... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Terrified of Phone Calls |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2014, 12:08 am
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Replies: 18
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BetwixtBetween wrote: Without fail, they leave a voicemail, which means I have to get up the guts to go through all my messages just to erase theirs. It would be so much easier to erase a political text message or sales text message, but those people never text.
This too! |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Terrified of Phone Calls |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2014, 12:05 am
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Replies: 18
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| I don't mind making calls, but I absolutely HATE getting unexpected calls. I never answer unknown numbers and often neglect to answer at all hoping that the person will send a text instead. Yes. Me. This. :D I will actually *jump* if the phone rings and I'm not expecting it. In fact, this happens m... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: No rhyme, no reason (lasting breakup grief)...I'm hurting |
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Posted: 03 May 2014, 8:53 pm
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Replies: 8
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Thank you, B19. <3
I'll try. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: No rhyme, no reason (lasting breakup grief)...I'm hurting |
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Posted: 03 May 2014, 5:20 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Similar situation for me. It's been... around four years. I've failed to find anyone/anything to replace the feelings of completeness and content I once had from my relationship. It doesn't get better. Humbly advise, attempt to find a new love, or it'll get worse. Good luck I'm so sorry, Brotherbea... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: No rhyme, no reason (lasting breakup grief)...I'm hurting |
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Posted: 03 May 2014, 5:18 pm
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| Sorry you are feeling bad. The best way I found to get past something that hurts like that was to find someone new. You can't just make that happen but you can steer yourself out of the crowded harbor of memories and pointed toward the open sea again . Thank you. And wow...that's really poetic. :) ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: No rhyme, no reason (lasting breakup grief)...I'm hurting |
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Posted: 03 May 2014, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 8
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| cberg , thank you so much for your compassionate and insightful reply. That actually really did my heart a lot of good. Couple of comments & questions: I think that when I seek as much space and autonomy as she has, it often culminates in these 'shutdowns', during which I pressure myself to eit... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Nobody Contacts Me |
| Ember_Of |
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Posted: 03 May 2014, 4:39 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I'm sorry this is happening. It's sad and is a tough situation. :( I think I can only echo what the others here are saying: Consider that these aren't very good friends any more if they're doing all these slights and shuns, and start inviting new people to hang out and do things with you. That whole... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: totally confused about her-help needed |
| Ember_Of |
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Posted: 03 May 2014, 2:29 am
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Replies: 3
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| Sounds pretty clear to me that she is hint-dropping at you, big time. :D I think she really likes you, and is just waiting for you to kind of 'make a move' back. I feel pretty darn sure about this, however...JUST in case she isn't aware of herself, I'd try to figure out if she likes girls. You can e... |
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