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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 10:04 am
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| Thanks for being open about your situation skribble, it's always nice to know that we're not alone when it comes to struggling with issues. I know there are a lot of people on this site from other countries and I have a question for those who do not live in the U.S. : Are there any cultures in the w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism/Asperger's and Health Insurance |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 9:41 am
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| My therapists usually used a diagnosis code in the past other than Asperger's since I'm pretty sure Asperger's does not have it's own code diagnosis code yet. Insurance companies usually don't challenge coverage for sessions related to autism, OCD, depression, etc. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 8:40 am
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| Chronos, I know the type you're talking about, I have several friends who are like that. There called the smug a**hole type. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 1:15 am
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| I have been on many dates within the past year and they led nowhere. My goal was always to build a relationship with a girl but that will not happen. What I can do is build my body to a point where there is no question about my attractive qualities. Memories are a very powerful thing and if I can ju... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 12:36 am
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| I had one girlfriend high school, lasted less than a month and the girlfriend in college was like 2 to 3 weeks. I think a major issue is that I hang out with friends who are absolutely fixated on sex and this makes it impossible for me to not have these thoughts. I think my prime focus is going to b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2012, 11:32 pm
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| I honestly don't remember, it was four years ago. Attending a college that had more females than males helped I guess. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2012, 10:36 pm
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| I've had a lot of female friends in the past. They all fed me the "well you'll find the right person someday and it will be special" line. Different women also have different expectations of men (just as men do with women) so it is hard for anyone to give generalized advice. I have told girls in the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2012, 9:17 pm
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| hyper, I do have friend's who fornicate on a very frequent basis and have tried to teach me a thing or two. The problem is, as an aspie, I am terrible at hiding my true emotions and feelings. I am sick of trying to find a girlfriend through playing these psychological mind games and pretending to be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2012, 10:42 am
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| I know I'm being a bit dramatic about all this but I literally have no one else to talk to about this. Even my therapist stated that he used to be a "ladies man" and can't understand why I suffer from my condition. It would be so easy to say that I am an a virgin because I am an aspie but that is ob... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2012, 8:43 am
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| I think I am just going to punish myself and disconnect from everyone else in my life. Nothing is ever going to change and the people on my life will never stop expecting me to be happy and live a normal life. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 10:47 pm
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| I lost about 50 pounds and quit smoking. I read some books about dating and tried to identify aspects of myself that turn women away. My problem as an aspie is that I absolutely CANNOT pick up on non verbal cues so when the chance is there, I never know. I can't even be around my friends anymore. Al... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 8:24 pm
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| Sweetleaf, I completely agree with you about how fixating on the negative aspects of life only makes life more miserable in general. However, even if I choose to think "I'm not going to fixate on being a virgin, I'm going to think about something positive", my friends, society, the media, even the r... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 7:54 pm
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| I don't know what you mean by "different types" unless you're referring to different orifices that can be used for sex. I just want to get rid of this shame so I can move on with my life, if that is even possible at this point. I considered hookers but I am not a street savvy person nor could I even... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living as an adult male virgin, unable to cope |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 7:33 pm
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| I am a 24 year old male virgin going on 25. I have reached a point in my life where I am finally realizing that I will never have a wife, children, or any kind of family in general. I know that I am going to resent myself for wasting my youth as I get older and that this shame is only going to get w... |
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