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Forum: The Haven Topic: They think they know me. |
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Posted: 06 May 2013, 5:30 am
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| ASDsmom, I'm sorry if my previous post made me sound rude or annoying etc. My point is that life is difficult. Not only because I'm feeling loads of negative things but also because all my issues cause other problems. I've failed about 50% of this year at college, I find it hard to take care of myse... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: They think they know me. |
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Posted: 05 May 2013, 1:01 am
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| What happens exactly that makes you feel that way? I'm just trying to figure out why I've never felt good and why my life is such a chaotic mess but people just tell me I imagine things. That I might be faking or that I might have read too much about things (ASD for example) and that I, because of ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: They think they know me. |
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Posted: 04 May 2013, 1:03 pm
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| I'm really trying to figure things out and I'm doing my utmost to stay sane/to not give up. I'm trying to find answers but some people (not talking about any of you) just make me want to never speak to another human being about personal things ever again. They make me want to crawl back into my "she... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Facing fears tonight & I'm scared. Any advice? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2013, 11:20 am
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| CRAP! I completely forgot you're supposed to bring birthday gifts to a birthday party! First social faux pas of the night. Really freaking out now! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Facing fears tonight & I'm scared. Any advice? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2013, 11:05 am
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| Sorry you're so nervous, vortex. People whom you meet do not know you are nervous inside and won't be judging you harshly like you might think. Instead, just project a nice image and you're already ahead. You don't need to talk to people much at all, instead, be a good listener! People love someone... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Facing fears tonight & I'm scared. Any advice? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2013, 10:48 am
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| I don't really know what you expect of the people who respond to this post, by the title you imply that you are definitely going but by the text you imply you are not. I think you ought to go, personally. You'll learn nothing by avoidance! I of all people understand how hard this is for you, it's h... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Facing fears tonight & I'm scared. Any advice? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2013, 10:44 am
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| Give your dorm-mates an analogy, ask them would they advocate a diabetic downed a pile of cake, would they advocate a recovering alcoholic had a whisky, would they advocate a paraplegic goes for a jog? Tell them, not all conditions or disabilities are obvious, and although it may appear boring to t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Facing fears tonight & I'm scared. Any advice? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2013, 10:22 am
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| I live in a dorm (I have my own room and my own bathroom but share the kitchen with several other students) and tonight there's a huge birthday party for a girl who lives here. There will be at least 40 people here (to me that's a huge party). I'm very anxious to say the least. What you should know ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do NTs do these things as well? |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2013, 9:10 am
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| Perhaps you have both OCD and AS. The spectrum is not black and white but a continuus. And OCD is not exactly inside the spectrum, but it's a possible commorbity. Yeah, I've heard it's pretty common to have both OCD and AS. I don't know about NTs having an issue with lack of routine. I don't know i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do NTs do these things as well? |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2013, 12:14 am
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| That seems to me more OCD than AS. I have a need for routines (that comes from my OCD) that fights against my AS, that is chaotic and pattern-searching, something that makes everything quite complicated. But the routine stuff is more about OCD. NTs don't have any need for routines. They use them be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do NTs do these things as well? |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2013, 11:46 pm
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| I've been thinking a bit about routines, plans and structure and I'm wondering if NTs feel the same need for them. I wonder if they like routines, plans and structure as much as I do. I still don't know if I'm NT or not (though psychologists have told me it's very likely I've got AS) but I don't kno... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you do this when around other people? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2013, 11:41 pm
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| Just a follow-up question; what if the people are discussing a special interest of your? Do you ever fall out then? My thought is that we generally find normal chit-chat irrelevant and boring, so we think about what we find interesting instead. If they were discussing a special interest of mine I'd... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you do this when around other people? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2013, 1:31 pm
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| Whatever works for ya, but being mindful and present should kinda be the goal. But what if I don't want to be present? Of course I want to sometimes but I sort of like getting stuck in my own head (except for when I get really anxious and I feel trapped in my mind). Is that weird? Yes, i have this ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you do this when around other people? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2013, 12:56 am
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| Yesterday my boyfriend and I were having dinner with two of his friends. I wasn't excited about it. I had met them briefly before but I was anxious nonetheless. It was rather awkward at times and as usual I was quite withdrawn. This really isn't news to me but during the dinner I realised how preocc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why can't I do the "simplest" things? |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2013, 10:05 am
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Replies: 5
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| I can relate to some extent. I can imagine myself standing in the room with my hands full of stuff, looking around and saying, "I don't know where to put..." Do you find that you get flustered easily? Is that what you mean when you describe feeling overwhelmed? Yeah, that might be what I mean. It's... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why can't I do the "simplest" things? |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2013, 1:57 am
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| Yesterday was a long and tiring day for me. I was at university from 8am to 5pm and I had a "silent episode" during my biology class (which means I got so anxious about the group discussion that I refused/couldn't talk). When I was done at uni I met up with an acquaintance of mine and together we we... |
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