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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Need help understanding what I'm missing here |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2013, 10:41 am
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Replies: 9
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| Sounds to me he has as much of an idea what went wrong as you do, but he post-rationalised some nonsense in his head and acted upon it, severing the relationship. I never believe a word when someone is in effect deciding what both parties were doing and refusing a dialogue. Why they do this could be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: It's such a relief to know it's Autism and not Bipolar etc. |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2013, 9:34 am
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Replies: 3
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| Glad to read all that, nice to see a positive story. I too recently got my diagnosis at 31, and it is nice to know that it isn't as you say "a chemical inbalance" its just me. Like you I also knew it was Aspergers in advance of the medical establishment, and like you I thought my Dad would never und... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2013, 11:33 am
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Replies: 359
Views: 36,259
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| When are y'all going to understand that's the ONLY thing I dislike about my body?! I'm not going to find something else wrong, because to me there is nothing else cosmetically wrong. When are you going to understand that the only reason you don't like this about your body is because you have a wild... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: when do women become too odd for men? |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 1:11 pm
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Replies: 75
Views: 10,308
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Never! For me its when they're too normal its a problem  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what would happen if every guy was shy |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 2,590
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| The status quo of men having to do the work is a cultural thing. It is just circumstance that this is the world we live in right now. It hasn't always been thus everywhere, and it won't always be thus in the future. When feminism finally filters through to all corners of society and the globe things... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 12:54 pm
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Replies: 359
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| Years ago I was with a gf at her college and a group of her friends. Out of nowhere she saw a guy I didn't know and said "Wow, David's (or whoever's) brother is really fit!" and all of her friends were aghast and said "But your boyfriend is right here!" I replied with "I don't care, its true, he is"... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I have never been rejected by the opposite sex |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 12:05 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,982
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| In my experience the trick to never being rejected is to never make it obvious that you are only after one thing. Which is easier to do if you aren't only after one thing. Except in a few instances, girls rarely like having to make a decision about you there and then, so don't force one or the defau... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating for me ends in failure |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 11:42 am
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Replies: 22
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| I am totally not assertive though I can hardly even imagine being such. Why I seek a Mistress or Master is because I need "positive reinforcement" as my therapist said, someone who loves me in some form but not so much as a mate and who can give me direction and guidance in day to day life as I can... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: UK madam to open first brothel for people with autism |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 8:02 am
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Replies: 80
Views: 1,532
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| You may have a fondness for Denmark, but your ancestors sure didn't, when Danish Vikings came to rob, murder, and rape! -Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer He's in Lancashire, which means he is in the Danelaw part of England, which may mean he's descended from the Danish vikings and not the Anglo... |
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Forum: WrongPlanet.net discussion Topic: Most forums have a button that takes you to the newest post |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 7:50 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,620
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Forum: WrongPlanet.net discussion Topic: Most forums have a button that takes you to the newest post |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 6:34 am
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Replies: 6
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| Most forums have a button that takes you to the newest post in the thread since you last visited the thread. Very useful, how do I do that here? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Easier to connect to opposite gender? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 5:47 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,634
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| I went to a boys only school so from 11-16 my friends were obviously mostly male. When I went to college I eventually made friends with a girl and became really close. we hung out loads for about 3 years. Then I made friends with another of her friends and we became basically plutonic boyfriend and ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: if there was a cure......would you take it? |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2013, 1:27 pm
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Replies: 84
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you make up reactions when you don't feel anything? |
| elfabyanos |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2013, 1:05 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,928
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| This is an interesting topic because I think that most NTs are faking their responses, but they do it by making an assumption of what the other person is feeling. in other words, their reaction is instinctively social and not really about giving their honest opinion. I agree with this, and further ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you make up reactions when you don't feel anything? |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2013, 12:51 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,928
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| I used to do this when I was much younger. I got a little older and stopped bothering. For me, every moment spent pretending is a moment not spent learning the world. Its a choice between giving up and acting, or not losing hope that somehow I'll end up working out the world enough to not screw up. ... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Can't handle my thoughts & afraid of being a mythomaniac |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2013, 12:37 pm
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Replies: 11
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| But what if I'm such a good pathological liar that I've managed to trick myself (and the professionals) and I'm now delusional and don't know what's true anymore? I'm serious, I worry about these things. A lot. Assuming for a moment that you have tricked yourself, you have only tricked your conscio... |
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