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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT wife still struggling.... |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2013, 8:15 pm
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Replies: 22
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| Communication can be so difficult -_- hugs! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT wife still struggling.... |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2013, 11:43 am
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| IK3 has some GREAT advice about not confronting and just being nice in a basic way. However, being female and NT I do know the difficulty in that. The difficulty.. not finding fault just stating what I see to be fact.. Aspies tend to be all about how things are for themselves and not that I think it... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT wife still struggling.... |
| LoriB |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2013, 9:06 am
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| I don't know if what I will say will be helpful or not. I was in a 4 year relationship with and Aspie. We have a child together. The last 6 months of the relationship things fell apart seemingly suddenly and the sweet quiet kind man I had been with flat went away. His creative outlet is Photography ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 14 May 2013, 5:14 am
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| Thank you so much. I can't get him out before the weekend. His apartment won't be ready before then. I know I could make him leave right now and sleep where ever he can find a place. It is so hard to sit here knowing the end is looming.. knowing he made the choices he did, but I just can't be that w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: FWB relationships - your opinion? |
| LoriB |
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Posted: 13 May 2013, 9:50 pm
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| I don't think it is wrong if both parties are comfortable with it. Personally.. sex is not good for me if there is not something deeper. I am NT.. and I know that for most NTs sex is just about reaching an orgasm. But I can do that solo. I always get attached to someone I have sex with. It is... For... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 13 May 2013, 9:42 pm
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| Thank you so much. I was hurt and angry and a whole lot of other things. At the moment I am done with him short term. I do feel I could take him back down the road... and that makes me angry. I am too smart for that... But 4 years of a really good relationship and a shared child has my judgement a l... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My Aspie repeats herself several times |
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Posted: 13 May 2013, 9:34 pm
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| I am so happy for you. And she is truly stunning! I was looking for a post of mine to update on and I saw your name and had to check in and see how it was all going. As others said. It is definitely a compliment. My ex -_- use to repeat I love you.. maybe 6 or 7 Times in a span of 20 minutes. It was... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 13 May 2013, 9:23 pm
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| Well. I guess this is my final update. Despite increasing evidence that would lead most to think cheating... I did not look at his cell phone or his computers. I trusted that this was just an AS thing and was willing to let him do what he needed to do. That is until I got a text meant for his makeup... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2013, 11:11 am
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| #needing answers not support makes sense in our situation. #he has always gotten quiet when "thinking" and I was fine with it. This time was different I think maybe because it went on so very long... and he started lashing out in anger in situations that would not normally make him angry.. and he is... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2013, 9:15 am
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Replies: 64
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| I love this site because it gives me insight to a different way of processing. After your last post something sort of clicked.. who knows if it is right or wrong but it makes sense to me when nothing else really has. As it is an AS tendency to focus soley on one thing at a time and "obsess" I realiz... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2013, 7:18 am
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| He will be 45 in September. His job doesn't seem to be suffering.. he works from home.. although to say he hates it is an understatement. His photography is not suffering and is really taking off. Each photo is more amazing than the last I just feel in my gut that something big will happen for him. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2013, 5:13 am
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| You are right. I do make a lot of assumptions. My entire life I have been incredibly intuitive. I simply pick up on small subtleties that most people don't. I am good at it... Except now. For the first time ever I have absolutely no clue. I do believe when he said he wanted this and wanted it to wor... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 7:37 pm
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| No. I haven't asked him much of anything. I really didn't want to add more dress to him. When he first mentioned this weekend and staying out of town I just out everything else on hold. I thought a full weekend following his passion no distractions no responsibilities no contact from me.... I just t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 7:35 pm
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| No. I haven't asked him much of anything. I really didn't want to add more dress to him. When he first mentioned this weekend and staying out of town I just out everything else on hold. I thought a full weekend following his passion no distractions no responsibilities no contact from me.... I just t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 4:59 pm
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| :( I am so sorry. No one should have to feel that for so long. I do have a lit of friends and spent the weekend spending time with different people. I thought about creating a profile on a dating site... But at the moment it feels wrong... And my heart isn't in it any way. When someone tells you tha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Burnout- how best to be supportive? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 4:32 pm
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| Seriously I read that and for the first time... except the bed thing. I actually cried. ... It is difficult to get an opinion that is accurate and it is hard to live it and know for sure. But honestly... Recently I have just felt he was being nice until he could gather up enough to move. I have felt... |
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