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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Self-advocacy a total fail? |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2021, 8:36 pm
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Replies: 7
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| In principle, I think we absolutely should. But sometimes I wish someone who "gets" how to communicate would take it upon themselves to 1) listen to me and 2) speak up on my behalf / take my defense when I am not able to get through to others. Because I get tired of doing it myself, all th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Positive social interactions and then... nothing? |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2021, 8:28 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 6,188
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| I heard a term called "situational tolerance" and it basically explains most of my friendships in life. Friends i made at work and school always gradually lose interest after the situation that puts us together is over. I hadn't heard of that before, that's exactly what happens to me as w... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Self-advocacy a total fail? |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2021, 6:21 pm
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| My therapist is trying to help me to better advocate for my own needs. I try really hard not to ask for things often and not to talk about my difficulties unless they will affect the timeline on which I can get something done. But when I try to articulate what I need from others (and also what I can... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I seem to always end up having no one to talk to... |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2021, 6:04 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I also feel this. Somehow it is always on me to keep in touch with "friends." Except for family members no one ever calls or texts me without me initiating the conversation, and somehow I'm the one still reaching out when it gradually becomes clear the other person has lost interest. It's ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I know I have to sleep but I don't want the dreams. |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2021, 12:11 am
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Replies: 5
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| I meant to also ask, do you find yourself actually avoiding sleep or just wishing you could? I sometimes keep doing things just to put off sleep when my dreams are bad. A colleague of mine has a fear of sleep, it is an actual disorder like a phobia that she described. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I know I have to sleep but I don't want the dreams. |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2021, 12:06 am
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| very sorry to hear it. I have been having lots of really bad dreams, one after another, all night long. This after years of having no dreams at all that I could remember. I don’t know what has precipitated it except that I am in graduate school and have so many things on my mind that I struggle to s... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Grad School ideas still... |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2021, 11:39 pm
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| This sounds so exciting!! ! I hope you get it. My former supervisor is an evolutionary biologist with a focus on ornithology, who studied at Cornell. His major professor was responsible for preventing the extinction of the peregrine falcon. I am at grad school now, and really miss working in the lab... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Friends are outgrowing me. |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2014, 4:58 pm
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Replies: 19
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| I am sorry to hear this, and also sorry to admit that it is probably a familiar experience to a number of us here. Friends began to really outdistance me in social / emotional maturity in middle school, and the gap continued to widen for quite a while. One thing that I have observed in my adulthood ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Honesty vs lies |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2014, 10:45 am
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Replies: 24
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| I find myself lying about a lot of stupid things. The reason being that in the past, my honest answers to certain topics led to ridicule or abuse. I found as a child that if I said something opposite to what I really thought / felt, people might still make fun of what I said, but it fails to hurt or... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: trouble thinking of things to say |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2014, 7:30 pm
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Replies: 10
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| I have a set of things I comment on which I learned from hearing my mother on the phone when I was a child. I memorized a lot of generic conversation starters just from hearing her side of the conversation. Sometimes she would put the phone on speaker when she was cooking and would talk to people, s... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: God does nor exist nor do gods exist! |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2014, 5:55 pm
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Replies: 225
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| I think God exists as a philosophical concept. This concept is essential to some people's survival. This is why I don't argue existence/nonexistence too vociferously. Ditto the above. Technically you cannot argue that God / gods do not exist, since at the very least they exist as cultural construct... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: this post about fragmented perception is beautiful |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2014, 5:33 pm
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| Yes, that is a very accurate and eloquent description of fragmented perception. Thank you for sharing it! Glad to have your perspective, too. I think one thing I would add is that I often get very anxious when I am taking in all these details and I realize something has changed in my environment, bu... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Horrible news in horribly written CNBC article |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2014, 2:21 pm
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"Perfect genetic experiment"--weren't the Nazis into that sort of thing too?  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does anyone else do this?? |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2014, 2:13 pm
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| I have a few variants of this; the funny thing is, that until you mentioned it, I never thought much about it being unusual before. Whenever I arrive at home or work, I have to spend some time walking around, getting my bearings. If someone interrupts me before I have had a chance to do so, I feel v... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Traveling |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2014, 10:09 am
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Replies: 5
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| I enjoy exploring interesting places, but I have a lot of anxiety preparing for trips and in the airport. I am usually okay once I have something stable to focus on. I hate airports, there are too many things happening. I prefer to ride trains. It is good to travel with someone who can give you some... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Write your 3 positives about being on the spectrum |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2014, 9:38 am
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Replies: 90
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| 1) I observe things other people overlook. Especially really small details. My colleagues who are scientists ask me to look at their research material, and writers I know ask me to proof their work. I was walking a property line with someone the other day, and although they had been to the location ... |
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