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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meeting other Aspies IRL - Experiences? |
| random23 |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2018, 7:54 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 258
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| In a few weeks, I will probably join a group of other people on the spectrum (there are some planned activities and it will be for a day). On the one hand, I'm quite excited because I've never actually met any other Aspie IRL so far. On the other hand, I'm afraid that I might not feel any more "... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Diagnosing" celebrities and historical figures |
| random23 |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2018, 7:17 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 265
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| I'm not a fan of "diagnosing" celebrities and historical figures either. I made a thread about this a few weeks ago, so I'll just copy-paste my opinion: I don't know how you feel about this, but in the past I've gotten pretty annoyed by several people who keep claiming that famous people l... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: When do you think it is the best age to find out? |
| random23 |
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Posted: 31 May 2018, 9:20 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 841
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| I'd say the earlier you find out the better. I was diagnosed when I was five or six years old. It took me another ten years or so to fully understood what this was all about, though. Even so, without a diagnosis you probably won't be able to get the same kind of help you would get with a diagnosis i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ASD and Music Taste |
| random23 |
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Posted: 30 May 2018, 2:59 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 1,658
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| The music I listen to is mainly pop music, but occasionally I listen to other genres as well. A nice sounding melody is a very important part of music for me (that's probably why I like the piano so much). Besides, I highly doubt that there's any meaningful correlation between ASD and a specific mus... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I have a difficult time speaking |
| random23 |
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Posted: 30 May 2018, 12:48 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 299
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| Talking is extremely difficult for me. I blush when I have to say simple things. You can learn to become better at talking by practicing. If I were you, I'd try to get out of my comfort zone every now and then and make an attempt at talking even when you don't feel like it. Don't push yourself too ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does my friend have Aspergers/Autism? |
| random23 |
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Posted: 30 May 2018, 12:34 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 202
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| Is he having trouble with nonverbal communication (eye contact, gestures, facial expressions...)? If not, then it's probably not ASD. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you ever have days when you just can't concentrate? |
| random23 |
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Posted: 28 May 2018, 3:12 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 429
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| I often struggle to concentrate on things as well, but all you can really do is pretty much common sense stuff imho: Take a break, get more sleep, do something else, make a list/a diary entry/whatever to write down and organize your thoughts. Target one problem at the time, starting with the one tha... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I get charisma? |
| random23 |
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Posted: 28 May 2018, 2:57 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 350
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| Show interest in other people. Be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses and set your goals accordingly. Be optimistic. Be curious about everything. Be yourself (otherwise the way you present yourself in front of other people won't come off as authentic). Be self-confident about your beliefs. Pr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Getting over being rejected from someone you love |
| random23 |
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Posted: 16 May 2018, 1:49 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 318
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| You weren't in love with them. You were either in lust with, infatuated with them or a combination of both. You don't fall in love with someone you don't know. The feelings can be incredibly intense, but unless you've known someone for a while and it's a mutual relationship, you cannot possibly lov... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Getting over being rejected from someone you love |
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Posted: 15 May 2018, 3:51 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 318
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| I'll try to make this as short as possible, so here are the facts: I fell in love with someone after talking to them a few times. I then asked her out, but she allegedly didn't have time at that point. After a while, I talked to her about my feelings for her and it turned out that she only liked me ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Possible to condition yourself to suppress aspie traits? |
| random23 |
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Posted: 15 May 2018, 9:09 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 1,069
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| I feel like i have subconsciously, inadvertently conditioned myself into being as normal as i possible can be. This is not good, because the real me, the genuine me is lost. I feel like an empty shell most of the time, unable to make decisions, make judgements of a situation, understand my social e... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Difficulty with long-term goal pursuit |
| random23 |
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Posted: 15 May 2018, 8:11 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 175
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| Would you care to clarify if there is a specific long-term goal you want to achieve right now? It might be easier to help if you elaborate on that... Anyhow, to achieve a long-term goal (in general) you need to be motivated to work on it every day (or at least regularly). You need to know why you wa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Unable to fake a smile |
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Posted: 13 May 2018, 3:05 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 314
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| I've always had trouble smiling when I didn't actually feel like it, so when I smile it's pretty much always a genuine one. Even when I try to fake a smile in front of a mirror it usually looks very odd or like a grimace rather than an actual smile. It can be annoying at times when someone takes a p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Famous people who are supposedly autistic? |
| random23 |
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Posted: 05 May 2018, 11:46 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 679
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| I don't know how you feel about this, but in the past I've gotten pretty annoyed by several people who keep claiming that famous people like Einstein, Mozart etc. had autism. The way I see it, you can't simply put a label on someone just like that. You need experts and a close examination for a prop... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspies with average intelligence |
| random23 |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2018, 4:16 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 5,077
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| I used to be obsessed with IQ tests at some point, but nowadays I think someone's IQ barely means anything. There are a whole lot of facets which define a person and the IQ is only one of them. Furthermore, it seems to me that you get different results based on what test you take and I also doubt th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye Contact: Don't care, Don't know, Afraid, etc. |
| random23 |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2018, 5:05 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 732
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| I find it very hard to look in someone's eyes while talking or listening because I'm unable to concentrate on both of those things simultaneously, so I usually only make eye contact for a very short period of time (maybe like a second). When I force myself to make eye contact I often forget when it'... |
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