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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 6:27 pm
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| OP, what I said earlier, I forgot to add that you can tell him he doesn't have to answer the Q's, you just want him to think about how he feels about them and properly look at his emotions or whatever. Sorry I haven't had any coffees today, I just thought of this and I didn't want you to go ahead a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 5:38 pm
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| If a are smart a phrase like might get you momentarily, but quite frankly it is not that confusing, Like I do sometimes get caught out, especially if I haven't got the context, but sometime it is pointed out to me other times I realise myself. Anyone with a basic grasp of language can work this out... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 5:35 pm
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| He may or he may not feel like trying to date you again in the near future due to how much you have been bonding lately. However there are two things that worry me a bit: 1)you say that he is meeting other girls and so on. Whats stopping you from meeting new guys? I know meeting someone you click w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 1:33 pm
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appletheclown wrote:
Good, just don't dwell on it.
I'll try not to. Mostly easier said than done when it comes to love. Got lots of other stuff going on. It might just fade out. You never know. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 1:16 pm
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| Ok, you have cleared up a lot of the confusion I had. I think you need to talk to some of your friends locally on this one. It seems to me you can't get over him, so you aren't telling him to stay away like you should. Is that correct? Don't let the hollow in your heart become to big for another ma... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 1:10 pm
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neilson_wheels wrote: I started to put all the puzzle pieces together when I was 37ish and working with teenagers with behavioural issues.
That's a whole lot of time not to have known. Blimey. Glad you got it worked out. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 12:34 pm
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| FlanMaster, that's one tough childhood. It's hard enough being picked on by other kids but your parents not treating you with the respect you deserve is very sad. I'm very glad to see that you have come out of it stronger and you are an amazing person for keeping on with things. Situations like that... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 11:49 am
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| I agree with the disagreement ;). I have met people who have been diagnosed ASD who seem to have no emotions whatsoever. I have repeatedly been told by Doctors, psychologists, and psychiatrists, that intellectually I am advanced, but emotionally I am lacking. However, I do feel sympathy, empathy, l... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 11:43 am
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neilson_wheels wrote: The more you say about his reactions, the more I'm edging towards the keep your distance camp.
I think I'm edging towards it too...
And then he goes and spoils it all by sending me a photo of a dog stuck in a coathanger. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 11:15 am
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| So I don't really know how he feels about me pointing that out other than that the idea makes him tired and irritable . I think this is a manifestation of his frustration and confusion. I can definitely identify with feeling like this when I was the age of this guy, before I had a better understand... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 9:55 am
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| If he wants to run for the hills you can't control that, which is why if you say anything, you should not pander too him to much. Don't give him too much of a reaction, that you are still clinging onto the possibility of a relationship. This gives him a lot of power over you. Instead act like someo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 9:47 am
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| You on the other hand have a large buffer (like most NTs) and so the same situation does not cause an overflow of emotion(s) I don't quite agree Emotional processing may be different between individuals, however research hasn't confirmed exactly what the differnce is. It is certainly not the case, ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 9:43 am
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| As to the whole going silent thing, he may (or may not) be able to handle the emotions that go with you saying that you miss him etc. etc. to use a computer analogy: He has a small buffer allocated to feelings; when you tell him things, it fills this buffer up completely and then some, causing a bu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2013, 7:15 pm
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| Stop asking and start telling. You are the one with a more stable understanding of relationships. Tell him kindly but bluntly in a manner that invites him to continue with you, with a commitment. Be prepared for him to be a child about it but be firm. Start telling. Stop letting him be irresponsibl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2013, 7:02 pm
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Having said all this everyone on here seems really rather lovely. If only I'd fallen madly in love with one of you.
Cheers for answering. You're a lovely bunch. I might stick around. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My AS ex-boyfriend, lack of spark and crazy stupid love |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2013, 7:00 pm
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| The fact that he is texting you and not honoring parts of your agreement suggest a relationship. State that clearly to him and set the rules based on that. Tell him that you assume, based on his actions, that the relationship is starting up again and here are the clear rules for that said relations... |
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