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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How Do I Get My Aspie Partner to Communicate? |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2015, 4:06 pm
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Replies: 14
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| Thank you to all for the enlightening responses. He is not very self-aware. Some people can feel the "prodrone" symptoms of a cold sore a day or two before the blister shows up, he is clueless until it's noticeable from space. Just an example... he's not especially aware of his body or his... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How Do I Get My Aspie Partner to Communicate? |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2015, 7:45 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 266
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| I am having a lot of difficulty lately (well, always I suppose) in finding effective ways to increase "output" communication from my aspie boyfriend (of 2.5+ years). I am very expressive verbally, and I am by nature a "problem solver." I feel as though I have a good handle on our... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Aspie bf doesn't always meet my needs - HELP |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 31 May 2014, 10:06 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 141
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| I'm feeling very crappy and lonely nowabouts (lately, especially now)... my on again off again aspie bf is going through a lot and I can't really expect him to focus on me right now (he's got a lot going on with his family life). We broke up and he moved out and a few months later here we are. (I th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Looking for an aspie girlfriend... |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 7:11 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,222
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| What kinds of things can you not get into that they do? These NT girls you go on dates with, I mean. Is it things that are totally against they way you are? Are they things you can compromise on? Have you ever really fallen for one of these girls but had the NT-AS get in the way? I'm a NT female and... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Horny and pissed is not a good combination |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 7:00 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 118
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| PS - Thanks for a the virtual hugs and kind words. I know I'm just B*tching, and I'm sorry about the vent-session. I wish you were all here having coffee or a drink with me. And I have sat him down and talked to him about this. He gets incredibly ashamed and self-destructive, and then incredibly def... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Horny and pissed is not a good combination |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 6:39 pm
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Replies: 9
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| Have any of you ever read the book by David Finch called The Journal of Best Practices? It's sortof a memoir, sortof a get-through-a-relationship-and-be-a-better-partner-with-aspergers guide. It was flippin' hilarious, so much so that I couldn't control my "I've been there!" laughter. As a neurotypi... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Horny and pissed is not a good combination |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 10:03 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 118
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| I understand this could probably go in the haven, but undoubtedly I will at some point say something offensive to someone or too sexual for the general WP community, so I'm posting it here. I am so frustrated I could scream. Frustrated in about every way - emotionally, mentally, sexually. I am thisc... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Porn |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2014, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 118
Views: 1,482
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| I would say it is interfering with his life if he claims he's an addict and if he CAN'T go one day without it. Isn't that kindof the nature of addiction, when you can't stop even if you want to? LadyWoofWoof, you're flippin' hilarious and I adore you. SoulCakeDuck, I AM a very sexual person. The sit... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Porn |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2014, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 118
Views: 1,482
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Porn |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2014, 1:06 pm
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Replies: 118
Views: 1,482
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Porn |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2014, 10:54 am
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Replies: 118
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| Alvorek: i admit im addicted to porn and I need help. Iv'e been addicted for 4 in a half months and I can't stop. I can't even go a day without looking at porn. What do I do? Alvorek, are you in a relationship? In my opinion, porn addiction is detrimental either way, but especially so if you are in ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Advice on obsession while married |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2014, 10:22 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 3,476
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| To the OP: As a neurotypical, let me decode some of the language here. I'm guessing that when you're husband said "deal with this on your own" or something of that sort, what he meant, in neurotypical speak, is "YOU had better make the decision to stay away from this guy and protect your marriage, I... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 4'10'' women with 6'2''men |
| ShadesOfBlue |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 9:53 am
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Replies: 72
Views: 23,745
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| Wow, I'm sorry that posted so many times! This site is giving me problems this morning. I tried to delete the extra posts and it own;t let me do that, either. My apologies! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 4'10'' women with 6'2''men |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 9:50 am
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Replies: 72
Views: 23,745
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| Men who are overly self-conscious about their height is somewhat comparable to women being overly self-conscious about their breast size. Perhaps a lot or even most women prefer a man taller than herself, even quite tall, and a lot or even most men prefer their mate to have average or above average ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 4'10'' women with 6'2''men |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 9:50 am
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Replies: 72
Views: 23,745
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| Men who are overly self-conscious about their height is somewhat comparable to women being overly self-conscious about their breast size. Perhaps a lot or even most women prefer a man taller than herself, even quite tall, and a lot or even most men prefer their mate to have average or above average ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 4'10'' women with 6'2''men |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 9:49 am
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Replies: 72
Views: 23,745
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| Men who are overly self-conscious about their height is somewhat comparable to women being overly self-conscious about their breast size. Perhaps a lot or even most women prefer a man taller than herself, even quite tall, and a lot or even most men prefer their mate to have average or above average ... |
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