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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do you think about popularity |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 11:24 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 688
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| I'm NT, but I've always been a nerd. There was an important point at the beginning of college for me where I was traveling and found myself hanging around with a lot of people who I would have considered "popular" in high school. They seemed to accept me and like me. Then I realized I was ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do People Think You're Arguing With Them? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2015, 1:37 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,050
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| I think most NTs don't really ask for advice when they ask for advice. They already know what their options are, advice usually just winds up telling them what they already know. Good advice is usually answering the question of "how do I do X?", rather than "what should I do?" Fo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Custome Suppoort Diary Entry one: Was I Rude? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2015, 8:49 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 586
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| It seems fairly direct. Sure is informal, but it isn't rude to use it in most contexts - and there seems casually friendly to me. I'm guessing they may have left for any number of reasons. "Go" makes it more of a command there...I suppose you could soften it by saying "let's go for...... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do people tell you your too quiet? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2015, 12:38 am
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Replies: 53
Views: 5,276
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| When I was a child I don't remember being told I was quiet. I think I was probably more outspoken then. I became quiet with age. sometimes at parties a close friend with tell me I'm Being awkward or will ask me why I'm not talking to anyone. It goes beyond being merely socially anxious and has more... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I learn communication skills? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2015, 12:26 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 1,565
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| They do not think I have depression. I sleep and eat normally and have no physical symptoms of it. There has been no mention of social phobia either so I don't have that. The reason I threw out depression as a possibility is because you describe yourself in very broad and very negative terms. This ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friends are ignoring me, am i overreacting? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2015, 12:06 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,133
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| You said something about "we already went over this before..." but didn't discuss that prior incident. I'm guessing something happened a while ago where they decided not to be your friends (perhaps you did something to bother or embarass them? school-age kids can be very sensitive to embar... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I learn communication skills? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2015, 12:41 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 1,565
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| It sounds to me like you're very self-critical...which seems reasonable if your parents are putting you down a lot. If everyone around you is telling you you're terrible, it makes sense that you might start to think that about yourself. I can imagine someone in that position might be very anxious in... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How to deal with Peer Pressure in a positive way? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2015, 12:29 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 562
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| I don't think there's an easy solution to this - it's difficult for NT teens/kids as well. The good news is that people tend to grow out of peer pressuring others by their late 20s (or maybe I just stopped hanging out with those kinds of people?). As you get the freedom to choose your own social gro... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The Autism Elephant in the Room |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2015, 12:10 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 877
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| There is a sizable genetic component to autism...so people with ASD are much more likely to have kids with ASD. You could also imagine that people with some ASD traits but perhaps not diagnosable might still carry some of the genes of ASD. You could also imagine people with ASD being well suited to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Meeting people at libraries? |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2015, 10:10 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,174
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| I'd recommend meetup.org if you're looking for friends or a dating site if you're looking for romantic partners. You may meet someone cool at a library or bookstore if you see them reading a book that you like. I'd think that 95%+ of the time you'll just get flat-out rejected simply because most peo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I think I am a bad friend |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2015, 10:25 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 991
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| Well I know I can be annoying. I think I have too much sense of humour. I have had people asking if I have ADHD. I never know what to say to that because I believe that I have got true ADHD but so many people say it doesn't exist. By saying I have too much sense of humour, I don't mean I laugh at i... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: THINGS NT'S DO THAT JUST DON'T MAKE SENSE! |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2015, 3:12 pm
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Replies: 128
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| some drunk guy yesterday seemed to want to walk with me rather than take mcdonalds home for his gf and her mates. I think he walked about twenty minutes in the wrong direction and we barely spoke the whole time so it's not like it was for the banter. honestly makes no sense to me at all. He was tel... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I think I am a bad friend |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2015, 12:55 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 991
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| Reading the OP, I feel like I'm missing some important information. If this is really a pattern for you, I imagine that there may be some things that you do that others may not like and you may not have noticed (which is why it's not in your post), or it could be something off about your perception ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Becoming too attached to people |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2015, 12:37 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 4,217
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| I get that the preference is to focus on one or two people. I do think it's advantageous to try to have a wider social support group, even if it takes some effort and doesn't feel ideal. If you have a bad argument with a close friend, or if someone you love moves away or dies, it's really important ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do NTs jump back to boring topics? |
| EmileMulder |
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Posted: 09 Aug 2015, 10:24 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,457
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| Hard to know for sure, but I read that as a bit distracted. Maybe he was distracted because he was nervous, or bored. During dating, some people talk about things they don't really understand to impress others with how interesting and well rounded they are. When you push too deep on the topic, they ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do NTs jump back to boring topics? |
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Posted: 09 Aug 2015, 9:30 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,457
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| I'm curious about the timeline of this. If it's been a while since the last time you spoke, this could just be serving as a proxy for "hello, what's up?" If you've been monopolizing the conversation, it may be a way to shift to something of more mutual interest. How you're feeling could be... |
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