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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Anyone else feel uncomfortable asking for references? |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 4:04 am
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| Haha....me too. Fortunately I'm a nice person, so people will do it out of pity. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Am I Just Passing? |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 4:02 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,115
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| My first reaction is sub Clinical? I have been diagnosed with the symptoms, but I still am not sure if it's clinical autism or being neglected. I Definitely feel at home here and I think that's all that matters. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: scale of -10 to +10, how do you feel right now? |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 2:00 am
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| Wow...that's the depression talking. I can see it!! ! I've been abused a lot. I also have PSTD. I'm a survivor. Thank goodness- I guess. I'm sorry. I go to CODA groups, but I feel they a little dogmatic sometimes, but it's better than nothing at all. Take care. Go watch a movie, take a bath, do some... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I feel I have no personality |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 1:49 am
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Replies: 6
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| You mean you can't identify your feelings? I'm sure you have a personality. What I see from my side of the screen is maybe disassociation or over intellectualization? Worth a google. Yes, before I started working on my social skills I was very flat. My true self is a very boring person. Which I thin... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Want to forget how it was to have friends |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 1:36 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 749
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Loss is never easy. Even losing bad relationships is hard on the heart.
I agree with the advice of staying busy and positive. Easier said than done. I agree isolation will anyone up, and I hope you make some friends soon. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: UHHH SSI hell. |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 1:31 am
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Replies: 14
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| I browsed through. My mom is getting denied on disability. All I can say is my heart goes out to you. To whoever said drop the self-defeating, negative attitude. I would say that's not the appropriate way to convey that CBT is more helpful. Yes, CBT thinking styles are helpful, but I think a season ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Quitting Facebook - rant |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 1:25 am
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| I quit Facebook it seemed to be a waste of time. I still feel sad. I feel like a failure for not understanding how to network. I'm in sales and I thought it would be a good idea to learn about Facebook for sales and social activism, but it was wasting a lot of time. I have a hard time grasping how f... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Taboo to talk politics |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 5:14 pm
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| Why is it taboo to talk about politics? Why can't people discuss politics in a respectful way? Also, do you think when most people talk about politics they are persuasively arguing instead of trying to find the truth and understanding? I'm trying to find the truth;therefore, I'm listening to the oth... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Autistic people don't have empathy. |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 4:48 pm
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Replies: 31
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| It's just a myth. This is an interesting read: THEORY FINDS THAT INDIVIDUALS WITH ASPERGER’S SYNDROME DON’T LACK EMPATHY – IN FACT IF ANYTHING THEY EMPATHIZE TOO MUCH http://www.the-open-mind.com/theory-finds-that-individuals-with-aspergers-syndrome-dont-lack-empathy-in-fact-if-anything-they-empath... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Neglect or Aspie |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 4:41 pm
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| A lot of people don't see autism in females because they expect it to be the same in both boys and girls. Denial is more common when there is little that can be done with a diagnosis. Thank you for your input. I was wondering if neglect and Asperger's would present the same? Is it nature or nuture?... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: On Being Authentic |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 9:08 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,394
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| I am new here. With respect for what has gone before in discussion, I feel that authenticity is the most important aspect of life when your life is told to you in terms of instruction or a demand to "be normal". There is no normal. Normal is a myth from the linear neuronorm mind. It's a &... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: On Being Authentic |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 9:03 am
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| I also struggle with deprogramming and being my authentic self. I spend tons of energy and worry on blending. It's so automatic for me now it's hard to turn the performance off and be the real me. I was raised in a very WASP-y environment where everyone was expected to be polite, and to send cards ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Living with undiagnosed autism has taken a toll. |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 8:54 am
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| ME too! I'm 31. I wanted to ask God for help, but then thought I was a hypocrite and got in a religious debate with myself...LOL. I was feeling sucidal, but I remember a time when I was diagnosed with Asperger's and came here. My mom invalidated my diagnosis at 24- probably her own denial. I feel li... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: I Lost Interest In The Idea Of Friendship and Relationship |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 8:40 am
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| Wow!! !! ! I'm sorry he's not supportive |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: My Parents Don't Believe I Have ASD |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 8:12 am
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| My mom- a social worker- said the same thing. I think she is denial because the most she would feel like a bad mom and inadequate herself. She might be an aspie too! |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Characteristics of AS in females |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2017, 8:08 am
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| Hello, Thank you for the advice and links. The comments about PDA are very interesting. My youngest screens positively for autism both through online screening and initial assessment by a clinical psychologist, but he refuses to go for a formal diagnostic assessment. PDA is a profile that seems to ... |
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