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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Histrionic Personality Disorder!?!?! |
| vanille |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2015, 6:54 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 2,807
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| I have a question. Since you have BPD with HPD tendencies, would you mind explaining why these people seem to pour their hearts out to others, knowing full well that we can't do anything for them? See the example reply I posted - all I asked her was why she got so emotional over trivial things. I a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Histrionic Personality Disorder!?!?! |
| vanille |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2015, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 2,807
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| I implore everyone with AS to learn the signs of HPD! These girls are absolute poison for anyone with AS and they will not let go no matter what. But remember, they only want your attention and validation... and if they see you have a good job or are doing well they will really sink their hooks in ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 'Not Sure' girl loves a probably autistic man |
| vanille |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2015, 11:11 am
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Replies: 66
Views: 2,862
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| Is this the relationship you want ? Based on his current behavior and not on what you hope, even if he agreed to be in a romantic relationship with you, would you be happy ? It seems to me that you would be the one making all the efforts and sacrifices. How long are you ready to spend convincing him... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to ask out someone who is asexual? |
| vanille |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2015, 10:36 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 2,991
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| I learned that sometimes things only sound weird because we are not used to tell the facts. Instead of asking my (aspie) boyfriend if he liked me, I bluntly asked him ''Would you like to be in a monogamous long-term romantic relationship with me ?''. So maybe you could actually ask him if he would l... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Sex and Consent |
| vanille |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2015, 9:04 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 6,578
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| My roommate is 20 years old. His social worker/psych seems to believe that because he is Aspie, he is easily manipulated and therefore unable to be competent to consent to sexual activity. He was involved sexually with someone when he was 19 years old and now the social worker is trying to convince... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: BPD+Aspergers+jealousy= I need some advice! |
| vanille |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2015, 9:59 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 6,077
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| Hey all, I am a Borderline who is in a serious relationship with an Aspie (this seems way more common than I would have thought) and I need some advice. In the close to two years that we have been dating, we have had an open relationship, but neither of us have ever actually gotten with anyone else... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would you date a girl who doesn't wear dresses? |
| vanille |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2015, 6:43 pm
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Replies: 86
Views: 6,526
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| Wear what makes you feel good. :) Let's face it! Guys won't be attracted to me if I get put on an anti depressant and gain to a size 26 or over. I've gotten to the point in my life where if I'm not some "smokin' hot blonde who is a total package" I'm screwed as far as ever being happy goes... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Neurotypical & Aspie Relationship |
| vanille |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2015, 8:24 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 2,860
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| I am a NT/BPD woman and I have been with my Aspie boyfriend for more than a year. I know how hard it is to read about AS/NT couples because it seems that there are only horror stories. You need to keep in mind that people who have normal, healthy and fulfilling relationships do not have any urge to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is adultery? |
| vanille |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 8:04 pm
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Replies: 37
Views: 2,864
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| You can be friend with a married person. For example, I come from what would be called a more ''liberal'' background and it is perfectly normal for me to hang out with people regardless of their gender or their marital status. You can, but you ask if you should. There is a difference between sharing... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How should I take this feedback given to me by an NT? |
| vanille |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2015, 12:35 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,963
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| I agree with KayteeKay, you can empower yourself by making choices that help you keep control of the situation. I will answer from my own experience since I have borderline personality disorder. There are things that I find difficult and sometimes I have intense reactions to little things, but I try... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I have a problem |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2015, 12:38 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,457
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| That is, I don't know what intellectual attraction even feels like. Is this normal if you have no experience? It's also a problem, that some of my friends have physically attractive girlfriends and I wish I was like them. If you have never experienced something, it is normal that you don't know wha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to treat your girlfriend on her period! |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2015, 12:35 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 3,034
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| Give her chocolate and wine then leave her alone for a week? Woman are not that much complicated. If you have a girlfriend, ask her what she would like. I would be insulted to receive wine since I don't drink. There is no ''magical recipe'' you can apply to every situation. You need to communicate.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 19 year old PDD MALE dating a 26 year old NT FEMALE |
| vanille |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2015, 12:31 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,688
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| There is no ''typical older NT woman'' nor there is a ''typical younger NT woman''. We are talking about human beings here. :wink: If you want to attract any other human being, you must work on your social skills. What do you have to offer to a potential partner ? What are your qualities ? What make... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Male Pubic hair? |
| vanille |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2015, 12:23 am
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Replies: 57
Views: 1,068
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| I don't care as long as my partner is happy with his body and that he is not covered with itchy bumps because it would not be pleasant for him. He prefers when I wax because he likes soft textures but he gives me freedom too. It is only hair after all |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to be an alpha male in high school. |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2015, 12:13 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,743
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| Why would you become an ''alpha male'' ? I'm not even sure this exists, high school does not work exactly like a wolf pack... Instead, you could work on your social skills and your physical appearence (minimal hygiene is always good to attract other people). Some would call my man a ''beta'', but he... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Out on my own and women, anyone can help? |
| vanille |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2015, 11:53 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 861
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| This is how I understand the situation : she makes you feel a little bit less lonely and in return she gets the things she can't pay herself. You choose if you accept this situation or not, then you choose if you want to change it. For example, you could tell (or write to) her about how this makes y... |
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