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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Broke up with girlfriend, I feel terrible |
| jfberge |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2009, 9:35 am
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Replies: 6
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| My first girlfriend was probably a borderline. The relationship was a constant roller coaster and I think it has made it even harder for to trust anyone 100% in a relationship. Maybe something related to that is at play here too. As unfair as it is, we all tend to view our current partner in terms ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Anyone else just have no passion for life? |
| jfberge |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2009, 11:04 pm
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Replies: 20
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Sounds like you're depressed. It's easy to lose focus when you do the same thing every day. It narrows your view.
What has made you happy in the past? What aren't you doing that you should be? Sometimes it helps to visit old friends to reaquaint yourself with the person you used to be. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Broke up with girlfriend, I feel terrible |
| jfberge |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2009, 10:56 pm
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Replies: 6
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| There were several reasons and issues but I believe the root cause was that I did not find her physically attractive enough. She may have sensed this too, but tried to convince herself otherwise. I believe this had an effect on our sex life. While we did have sex several times a week, and on almost... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspies and Borderliners: why the attraction at all? |
| jfberge |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2009, 3:56 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 6,292
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| Because aspies are safe and relatively calm. And naive. Borderliners flail about on the surface of a sea of doubt, alarm, and emptiness. They can't cope alone, as they don't have their own enduring ideals and values. They need someone else to give their life definition and meaning, and they constant... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What are your most hated sensations |
| jfberge |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2009, 3:30 pm
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Replies: 582
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| I can't STAND it if I am washing my hands or dishes and I reach up and water drips down my arm up into my sleeve/armpit So true. Gets all itchy and won't dry because your sleeve soaks it up. Even worse is when I brush my teeth and the toothpaste+water+saliva mix slides down the brush handle onto my... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What are your most hated sensations |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2009, 2:59 pm
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Replies: 582
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| -Opening the cap on my shampoo bottle when my fingers are soaked -Being full -dense, formless vegetation -noisy crowds -bright lights -being fat (love handles against my beltline) -using sunscreen or any greasy lotion -mushy foods -being drunk -not knowing why things are as they are -brushing my bac... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Perceptions of wealth and quality of life over time |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2009, 6:40 pm
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Replies: 17
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| So true. Even now, imagine what one can get today compared to just 30 years ago. The average car is more fuel efficient, safer, and has more features than the average car of the 60s. You can buy a computer more powerful than any government could afford 15 years ago. Standards have been rising relent... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Power! |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2009, 3:18 pm
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Replies: 6
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| One of my more recent observations has been the futility of gaining and using power. I'm not talking about money or weapons, but about social rank. People will buy the right clothes, adopt the right attitude, and denigrate others to achieve it. But what is it? What does it actually get them? My theo... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How Have You Changed? |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2009, 2:51 pm
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Replies: 19
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| i used to be very impassioned to join conversations where i did not agree with someone. now i could not give a damn. let them all mull over their fantasies while i go home and do interesting things by myself. This was a turning point for me. I used to love to debate with people over almost anything... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Obsessive love |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2009, 1:27 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,271
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bunny-in-the-moon wrote: But, such is life 
Yeah. When you get too focused on one thing, it's easy to forget the world is still the same. Being able to shrug off failure is invaluable. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Obsessive love |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2009, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Thanks for the input, everyone. Glad to see I'm not alone. Given that I can't really control this, I think I'll simply have to conceal it as best I can. I've spoken out to her a couple of times about it, and yeah, it does nothing but dig you into a hole quick-like. I get it, too. I've had a girlfrie... |
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Forum: WrongPlanet.net discussion Topic: Those "extremely high load" messages.. |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2009, 3:52 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Yeah, I don't get this either. I'm a programmer, so I'm pretty familiar with capacity. It doesn't take much to power a (moderately large) forum site. A single server at a colo facility would do the trick easily. I just built and housed a server for a new site recently. The server was ~$3000 and the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Obsessive love |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2009, 1:06 pm
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| Does anyone else get plagued with anxiety about their partner? I never used to have this problem, but my current gf is tripping all my alarms. A couple of times it's been almost unbearable. I can't make it stop, either. At work, at home, in the car, in my dreams. It's draining and embarrassing. Whil... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I just don't get it... |
| jfberge |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2009, 6:56 pm
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Replies: 11
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| In general, people pay attention to other people only when doing so satisfies them in some way. Maybe the person is attractive to them or has control over something they want. Maybe that person is always flattering and deferential. Maybe they're afraid of that person. Whatever the reason, the person... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Are you a watcher? |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2008, 5:13 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Sometimes when I talk about the things I enjoy or the things I have done, I feel almost as though I am exaggerating. It's not that I'm stretching the truth about what I do, but rather that I'm leaving out what I actually spend the most time on. I feel the same way in this regard. For me, it stems f... |
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Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: Venture Bros. |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2008, 4:08 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 3,239
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| Mecha-Shiva almost made me pee my pants with laughter. It's so obnoxiously silly, especially considering how long they do it, and the Monarch's irritated dismissal. I really wish I knew someone I could do that with. How fun would it be to break out in that? Mecha shiva! Mecha shiva! Mecha shiva! ... |
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