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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2014, 10:43 am
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Please believe me that I have been seeking outside resources, social workers, long before I came to the forum and will continue to do so, and am taking this very seriously.
Thanks for all the advice and well wishes |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2014, 10:19 am
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| First of all, I appreciate all of the input and even criticism, this is why I came to this forum and I am trying to be open minded and consider everyone's feelings involved. And as said, this is an incredibly difficult situation that I'm trying to sort out, and I'm not sure I've adequately conveyed ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 11:36 pm
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| I have been trying to focus on the practical elements of these posts b/c I think I probably handle those things better. Discussions of empathy and connections to certain current events tend to be sore points on here for the obvious reasons. I am trying to lay off of them except for the following: E... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 4:25 pm
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| Think about the contrast between your goal here: I would like to put him in a situation where he can be independent of us, both now and the future. Are we going to abandon him? Nope, he'll always be family, but we can't be responsible for him his entire life and asking me to take care of three in-l... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 3:29 pm
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| With the undiagnosed Asperger's my brother in law is incapable of having any empathy for his mother and is actively making her situation worse. I feel like I need to comment on this. People with Asperger's are not incapable of empathy. (For what it is worth, I am diagnosed with Asperger's and work ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 2:28 pm
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| To be fair, I do like him and have empathy for him, but in the immediate future he can't be in a situation where his mother and him can aggravate each other (I can't have her going to the ER any more), and also, the financial situation isn't going to be he can be taken care of financially the rest o... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 11:26 am
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| I don't think it is fair to not give your brother in law the full story. It isn't a threat, it is the reality he will have to adjust to. Sit him down and be matter of fact about it. Tell me that you want him to understand, agree to, and be a part of the changes that are coming. Tell him that you al... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 11:14 am
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| To be more specific about my Brother in law's condition, although he has not been diagnosed, a number of professionals I have discussed his situation with seem to believe that Asperger's is a likely diagnosis, with some other mental problems from being undiagnosed for so long being likely. When I sa... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 11:00 am
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| Is there a way that you guys could swing this financially without selling the home, right now? If he were there on his own could -you- sign him up for services and would he comply if someone else set it up? Could he live there on his own safely? Here is why I say this: From his perspective: If he h... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 10:50 am
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| What does your father-in-law have to say about all of this? Has he been able to communicate the seriousness of this situation to his son? My father in law is turning 80 this year, and although mentally sharp has been in a physical decline for awhile. (Part of the reason we're making the move is bec... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 46 year old Bro in Law likely has Asperger's, now urgent |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2014, 10:26 am
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| Hi! After doing a lot of research online I discovered this forum. While I am still taking everything in and exploring the site, I have a situation I am a bit desperate with so I am looking for advice immediately. I have long suspected my now 46 year old brother in law of having Asperger's. He exhibi... |
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