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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: can a 5' 6 guy still be attractive? |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2014, 7:45 pm
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| And the 'social consensus', especially the womensphere's social consensus says that the woman should date a man taller than herself, this is mainly why many women feel awkward when they date a shorter man in public, this was even expressed by some women here on this board as well. So see, you have ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: can a 5' 6 guy still be attractive? |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2014, 7:35 pm
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| Personally, I have always rejected this social hierarchy stuff. It takes way too much thought, effort and skill (i.e. manipulation, deceit, etc.). It’s so much simpler to just be yourself. And, much more genuine. I believe we actually agree, but are coming to the same conclusion differently. IMO th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: can a 5' 6 guy still be attractive? |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 10:08 pm
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| NT's judge social attractiveness and status based on a 'social consensus'. If other people treat you like your attractive, then new people will fall into the same behaviours. Just like if others dismiss you, it becomes easier for new people to do the same. So the key is to break that cycle with nonv... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Hubby is aspie, he drives me crazy. HELP!! |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 9:59 pm
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Replies: 133
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| You are most welcome :) The eBook is just an PDF file which means you should easily be able to open it on your PC. Also if you prefer physical copies you could just print out the pages that you are most interested in - I recommend clicking on 'Module 7' in the contents page, which will take you to t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: can a 5' 6 guy still be attractive? |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 9:43 pm
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It is absolutely true CynicalWaffle!
Science!  |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Hubby is aspie, he drives me crazy. HELP!! |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 9:42 pm
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| Hi xyz, This doesn't really directly answer your post, but I run a blog that helps Aspie Men to better interact with NT's (including NT partner's). I recently wrote a post that discusses how Aspie Men communicate affection in different ways to what NT women often expect or notice. I also have an eBo... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Expressing love |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 9:31 pm
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Replies: 23
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does this count as a date? |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 9:22 pm
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| Whether she sees it as a date or not right now, the fact she said yes means she is comfortable with you and that you have a great opportunity to show her that you are 'interested' in her and see if she responds! Some useful things to look out for on your 'coffee date' to see if she is flirting with ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is there something wrong with me? |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 9:10 pm
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| I agree with Layla. There is nothing at all wrong with anything that you described, it may simply just not be everyones 'cup of tea'. The best place to start if you want to make friends or form other relationships is find groups or events in your area that are to do with your interests. This will gi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: why do I get ignored in group discusssions |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 8:55 pm
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| This could really be because one of two reasons a) As someone else mentioned above, factors beyond your control mean that other people in the conversation are pre-occupied and not really receptive to what you have to say b) You are communicating in a way that makes you seem to have 'low social statu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: can a 5' 6 guy still be attractive? |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 8:41 pm
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| Scientifically and (evolutionarily) speaking, women aren't actually primarily attracted to a man's physical appearance. They are generally much more concerned with a mans 'social status' and the socially attractive personality traits he displays. So you can be an average or shorter man, and as long ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can I initiate a date? |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2014, 4:15 pm
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| In most situations it is really quite hard to know whether a woman is taken without finding out through conversation. The way to stop her getting mad is by approaching her simply with a compliment and saying that you wanted to talk to her 'I really like your hair, it just made me want to say hello',... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can I initiate a date? |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2014, 3:25 am
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| Some of the best places to approach and meet women are where they normally wouldn't expect to be approached by men (i.e. shopping mall, book store, library etc.). It sounds silly but you can just walk up to them and say something like 'I just thought you looked beautiful, so I wanted to say hello' a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Physical chemistry/attraction |
| RyanLewty |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2014, 2:53 am
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| The smiley faces on here look slightly creepy don't they :/ haha |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Physical chemistry/attraction |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2014, 2:52 am
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| Hey Stargazer :) When you find that on your dates you aren't developing sexual chemistry and you think you come off as a friend, its because your not polarizing your dates. What I mean by this is that women are generally reactive to the moves a man makes. So if you don't make some sort of move she w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Loneliness |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2014, 2:37 am
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| Hey SmallCat (and everyone else!) Full disclosure, I am not Asperger's but I am a life coaching and I specialize in helping people with ASD. I couldn't help noticing that your thread reminded me of how quite a lot of my Aspie clients feel, so I thought i'd drop in my two cents. It really seems to me... |
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