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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Single Parenting |
| HiccupHaddock |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2022, 1:32 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 10,145
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| Dear all, I hope you don't mind me joining in. I'm not a single parent, but think I am probably an autistic Mum (undiagnosed) of an autistic child (diagnosed). I think the topic of being an autistic parent of an autistic child is a very interesting one. I really recognise some of the challenges you ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Balancing Siblings' Needs |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2022, 6:48 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,118
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| It sounds like your kids are lovely. I think it's quite normal for siblings to squabble a bit, even if they mostly get on well. This is what I've observed from other families that I know. I used to squabble with my brother a lot, but get on well now we're adults. That said, I think perhaps ASD child... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Feel embarrassed that we fail Sallyanne test |
| HiccupHaddock |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2022, 6:47 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 3,369
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| Sorry I meant 'vague and confusing'. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Feel embarrassed that we fail Sallyanne test |
| HiccupHaddock |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2022, 6:46 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 3,369
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| It sounds to me like you haven't received enough good support after diagnosis to help you understand what the diagnosis means for you and your identity and development. It makes me feel sad that your therapist has not been more kind and helpful to you. Could you find another one? I think also that t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Balancing Siblings' Needs |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2022, 6:30 am
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Replies: 6
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| My own brother and myself used to irritate each other and squabble quite a bit, and I'm not sure it was that helpful when one of our parents tried to figure out whose fault it was. Someone told me that nowadays there is a school of thought that instead of the parent doing this, that instead the pare... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Autism Show, the national event for autism in the UK |
| HiccupHaddock |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2022, 2:50 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,870
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| I'm wondering does anyone know do they allow the talks to be viewed online? Some conferences allow you to buy an online-only registration, where you don't have to turn up in person. I imagine that would be ideal for many people on the spectrum, who aren't that keen on crowded noisy places, it would ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: difficulty getting son to school on time |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2022, 1:14 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,497
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| I'm sorry I didn't reply until now. Thank you all so much for your helpful and kind replies. It makes me feel better to hear that other families also have some issues. I think I need to better manage on my own anxiety about him being late for school (and me being late for work), so that I can suppor... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: difficulty getting son to school on time |
| HiccupHaddock |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2022, 2:56 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Thank you Ettina for your comment about the demand avoidance. I'm wondering what does it feel like to be demand-avoidant, and why does it occur? I try to imagine it but am not sure if I really understand it. I heard Tony Atwood say that is related to high anxiety. I'm not sure if that means that anx... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: difficulty getting son to school on time |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2022, 2:49 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Thank you timf for your advice about the discipline. We sometimes manage to use a 'carrot' approach, e.g. persuade our son to do things with the promise of a treat like a new book (he loves reading). We also have tried to see if a 'stick' approach, e.g. say he won't get dessert if he's refusing to p... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: difficulty getting son to school on time |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2022, 2:36 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,497
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| Thank you so much for your very helpful replies! Yes, that is a great idea to focus more on our routines. We have tried to establish a routine with some times for different things (e.g. getting out of bed, eating breakfast, brushing teeth, etc.) and we help our son with all those steps. It sometimes... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Feel embarrassed that we fail Sallyanne test |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2022, 3:56 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 3,369
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I think you shouldn't worry about a silly artificial test that some psychologists dreamt up.
You seem a kind and thoughtful person, those are precious traits that are wonderful.
A kind heart is worth a million of passing some old tests. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: difficulty getting son to school on time |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2022, 3:54 am
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Replies: 13
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| By the way, the psychologist told us that our son is sometimes 'demand avoidant'. He doesn't always respond if we ask him to do things. When we're trying to get him to go to school, he sometimes runs around laughing, and won't let us put his school clothes on etc.. But if we get too serious sounding... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: difficulty getting son to school on time |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2022, 3:36 am
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Replies: 13
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| Dear all, Lately we've been having a lot of trouble getting our son, who is 7 and on the autism spectrum, to school on time. It's quite stressful as the school want him to be there on time, and give us some leeway but today we were about half an hour late, and all got quite stressed getting out the ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 18 month old daughter |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2022, 1:24 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,247
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| I wonder could this be 'sensory-seeking' behaviour? My son, who is on the spectrum, has always liked doing things like running and bouncing off a wall, pillowfights throwing soft pillows around, and bouncing on settees. Maybe you could buy some pillows with covers with different textures (e.g. velve... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Disclosing Autism to an employer? |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2022, 1:15 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,627
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| I was thinking about this a bit more, and remembered that in the UK all employees (not just parents or carers) have the right to apply for flexible working arrangements, which could be working part-time (e.g. 4 days a week), working from home part of the time, doing compressed hours (e.g. skipping l... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Disclosing Autism to an employer? |
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Posted: 18 Apr 2022, 10:47 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,627
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| I wonder are there other things you can do to make it easier at work? There is a small library at my work where I used to go a lot for quiet time alone, and also lots of meeting rooms where you can go if nobody is using them. As a last resort, there are some quiet stairwells where I could bring my l... |
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