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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: No friends = Depression |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2014, 5:45 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,156
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| Until recently I was really sad about my isolated life. I had two best friends years ago. We were friends for years until they married. Then I was dumped, part of this (I think) was that I was still on my own and they only wanted to socialise with other couples, and (possibly) because they regarded ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Neurotypical Privilege |
| B19 |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2014, 2:18 am
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Replies: 256
Views: 16,693
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| Totally agree with you, Dantac. Also, privilege is inherently present and operating in any NT environment where the ruling assumption is that "one size fits all". Emoting intelligently in a job interview, combined with verbal sophistication? Open plan offices? Working in teams with high degrees of p... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Desperate to get out of my room, help! |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2014, 1:49 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,338
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| I have had this problem and finally discovered that the only way to manage it was to stay connected to the immediate present. By that I mean: stop the process of remembering issues you have had in meetings or encounters in the past as you prepare to attend the current one. I realised I had to stop t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How to avoid bitterness |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2014, 5:16 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 7,912
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| When I read the opening comments on this thread, Stuck Within, it seemed to me that your predominant feelings were disappointment, sadness, regret, pain and despair. Is bitterness the result of feeling those things? I feel them too, everyday, but perceive my state predominantly as one of despair, an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: when did you "wake up"? |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2014, 11:30 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 2,565
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| Although I woke up to my life being different at an early age, there were so many differences that confusion reigned for decades. I misattributed my perception of difference to the aftereffects of my awful infancy and childhood. I was abandoned, adopted, abused (all this was covered up and denied). ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: When a personality type maxes out your nervous system |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2014, 12:53 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 3,437
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| For me the most intolerable are the motormouth puritans, who talk endlessly about trivia, and female motormouths with icepick voices are the most offensive. I have a cousin like this. Half an hour of her relentless verbal noise and I feel the will to live draining from me. Although her noisy voice i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is extremely early memory associated with Autism? |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2014, 11:48 pm
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Replies: 119
Views: 16,227
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| Circumstances made it easier for me to establish that my early memories were real. My parents abandoned me to state care when I was about 8 months old. I was sent to foster homes and an orphanage and then taken by adopters when I was one. They pretended that I had been born to them, and never spoke ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do NTs hate so much about us? |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2013, 9:53 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 18,600
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| This is a great thread. Moondust, I agree with you. One issue is that we aren't considered to be of much use by ambitious networking NTs, who routinely cultivate friendships and choose their friends for the purposes of career advancement. Someone (an NT I think, earlier in this thread) said that NTs... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Sounds of some people's voices cause you mental anguish? |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2013, 9:00 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 22,216
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| For me it's a particular sharp, strident adult female voice - it's like nails on a blackboard to my mind - Ellen DeGeneres has that kind of voice and even worse, she's a loud mouth shouter. Sometimes that sharp strident tone I'm thinking of seems to be the voice of bullies who pick on people they se... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ideally, what supports would you need to be successful? |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2013, 7:37 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,452
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| Validation, acceptance, respect. Aspies have given the world an enormous amount in science, art, literature, music, technology, paradigm shifts, etc; Aspie creative and intellectual gifts have been given to the NT world for its benefit. Their gift to us? Trying to relegate us to "less than" status w... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Two worst words in the english language? |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2013, 9:09 pm
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Replies: 124
Views: 2,153
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Overprotective of pets |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2013, 7:01 pm
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Replies: 59
Views: 10,378
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| [While I wouldn't go so far as to say NTs don't love their pets, I have noticed that most of them are more likely to say "well it's just a dog/cat/bird" etc, whereas we tend to recognise them as living beings practically equal to us.[/quote] That is so true. They have an equal right to be on the pla... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Overprotective of pets |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 5:31 am
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Replies: 59
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| I have an orange cat (his name is Mr Orange) and he is 14 now. He's my best friend for sure. When I go to bed, he gives me 5 minutes to settle in then he snuggles up in the crook of my arm to be cuddled to sleep and he purrs me to sleep. He always knows if something really bad is going on and at tho... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Favorite Music Genres |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2013, 5:03 am
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Replies: 38
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| Thanks for the tip, I like Keith Jarrett a lot. Forgot to include the wonderful Bill Evans on my previous post. His music soothes me and his melodic styles are just lovely. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: When life doesn't come out like you hoped... |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2013, 7:54 am
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Replies: 50
Views: 25,012
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| My biggest failure is that I haven't achieved peace, or contentment within myself. There have been external successes, my education, I'm financially ok, I've achieved one remarkable thing in terms of leading a political social reform, but my relationship with myself remains a painful failure. Person... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why don't we all just kill ourselves? |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2013, 7:19 am
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Replies: 62
Views: 8,897
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| Because of love. As long as just one person or even one creature loves me, whom I love back, I'll stick it out. I have a son and grandchildren and a cat who really do love me. And there are others that geninely care, which is another form of love. But if that vanished from my life too, I think I'd b... |
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