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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Pros and cons of "three dates" |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2024, 9:16 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 1,797
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| Three dates would be WAY too early for me, but everyone is different. I suspect it would take less time for some people if they were friends with the person before they started dating than if it’s someone they just met. I don’t think I could know for sure if the person was decent or not after just ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Pros and cons of "three dates" |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2024, 8:57 am
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Replies: 26
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It should happen when both people are comfortable - not on an arbitrary timeline.
If both people are ready on date 7 or 8, that's fine. If both people are ready on date 1, that's also fine. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What to do if you're not getting matches online? |
| Minervx_2 |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2024, 4:32 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 4,085
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| What to do if you're not getting matches online? Use better pictures. Remove bad pics (i.e. blurry, sunglasses, uneven lighting, too much lighting, not enough lighting, group photos with too many peoples, bathroom selfies, car selfies, pics of you at your desk). Use a phone with a good camera or a ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What am I doing "wrong" to explain why I'm single? |
| Minervx_2 |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2023, 4:46 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 18,457
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Clubs probably aren't where most people meet their partners.
Many people meet through:
Mutual friends and social circle.
Work or college.
Dating apps.
Events (i.e. meetup, eventbrite) |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What am I doing "wrong" to explain why I'm single? |
| Minervx_2 |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2023, 9:34 am
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Replies: 17
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| But I think being some James Bond-like playboy, seducing a lot of women in night clubs is not a reachable goal for most autistic males. I don't think it's a worthwhile goal for nuerotypical men or any men in general. The belief that if you look good and find the cheat-code to being charismatic, peo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Confidence is disposable these days |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2023, 10:11 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 39,852
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| Also, you shouldn't be confident just because it's a trait women like. You should be confident for your own benefit. You're doing it for your own health and happiness. Not just to impress someone. Be confident regardless of whether you're single or not. Be confident regardless of who it does or does... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Confidence is disposable these days |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2023, 8:51 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 39,852
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| That depends on the type of shoes and the type of marathon terrain one is running on. There are a large number of shoes designed for specific types of terrain. Not all marathons will be run on tarmac, so it varies, and runners may find they need to adapt their shoe choice for the course they are on... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Confidence is disposable these days |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2023, 7:59 am
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Replies: 33
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| You frame this question in a black or white way. That confidence is either all you need, or that it's disposible. Having a healthy confidence is an advantage. But it's not the only factor I'll put it like this. Is having a good pair of running shoes all that you need to win a marathon? No. But is it... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Ludicrous reasons given for turning down a date |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2023, 8:03 am
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Replies: 1
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| I've been turned down by several people for reasons like that. Complaining about it doesn't help; you can't control what they do; you can only control what you do. If this situation happens where they cancel for some reason, I would text them "All good, no worries. Let me know when you're up to... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Coworker hardly does any work |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2023, 7:56 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 18,619
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This is not really your business. It's the job of management and HR to assess how well he's doing at his job. You bringing him down isn't going to bring you up.
Focus on yourself. Focus on being better at your job. Focus on updating your resume and applying to better jobs. |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Getting a six pack! |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2023, 7:55 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 3,514
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| Yes, it mainly comes down to having a low bodyfat percentage (i.e. <15% for men). Which means having a calorie deficit (aka eating less calories). It also depends how you distribute your fat. If you carry less fat on your mid-section, you may see abs at 16%, whereas people who carry more of their fa... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why finding love is hard for Autistic people |
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Posted: 06 Dec 2023, 5:44 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 38,292
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| The frank reality is that a man who cannot get dates in real life due to personal qualities isn't going to get dates online. True. Though there are other reasons why people are single aside from just having bad personal qualities. There are lots of good people out there who just have a hard time ma... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Don't wait too long to ask someone out |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2023, 5:14 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 14,123
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| I'm working on it. Trying to keep my conversations more focused. It's a nightmare though, constantly opening. I've had a couple of dates but there just wasn't any chemistry. At least it's better you find out there's no chemistry sooner rather than later. I kinda have difficulty not knowing what to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Don't wait too long to ask someone out |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2023, 5:05 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I don't know why women who don't reply are on dating sites as it is totally pointless! I know that was a long time ago and this is in hindsight, but: * Use the most popular dating sites/apps; niche ones have smaller populations * Your location is a factor. If you're in a small town in a remote area... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why finding love is hard for Autistic people |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2023, 9:27 am
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Replies: 60
Views: 38,292
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| I do get a fair bit of matches, and a few dates. I have a date tomorrow actually. But I often take breaks since I find messaging all of those people overwhelming. I've taken a break for the past few months. That being said I'm far from perfect. And I still have a lot of work to do on my pictures and... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Don't wait too long to ask someone out |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2023, 9:22 am
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Replies: 5
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| This point mainly applies on dating apps. There is a balance. You don't want to ask someone out too soon (i.e. in the first few messages). They want to get to know a little bit about you and find something they have in common with you first. But a lot of guys (especially ones with less confidence an... |
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