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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Did i do the right thing for him? |
| TruthTree |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2012, 5:35 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,001
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| I love him so much. I don;t know what to say in a letter at this point to convey my understanding (he does not know he has AS, as far as I am aware). Any suggestions would be so appreciated.... Thanks... I would just simply say that you will try your best to accept him as he is. Again, keep it shor... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So lonely in love with an Aspie!! |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2012, 5:19 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,498
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| Aww girlie, wish I could give you a hug. I know it hurts, try best to be patient. Try not to think about all the things you think you need from him. Your resentment towards not getting those needs met will fester like a disease that sickens the whole relationship. Instead, every time you start to fe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Did i do the right thing for him? |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2012, 11:00 pm
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Replies: 19
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| I'm married to a suspected Aspie, just so you know where I'm coming from. Something I realized only recently (wish I had realized earlier, but then there are a million things I wish I had known earlier) is that while us NTs, (especially female NTs) think talking about the problems in the relationshi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
| TruthTree |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2012, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 2,515
Views: 795,176
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| Question for an NT: How do you instinctively know when it is your turn to speak? I sometimes feel I can contribute to the conversation but I never know when I can jump in. Then when I do, I 'info-dump' on the person. Is there some sort of unwritten rule of how many sentences you or someone speaks b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2012, 8:29 pm
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Replies: 2,515
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| Question for Aspies please. How can I tell the difference between: a) When an AS person overloaded and needs to be left alone b) When the AS person won't speak to me because he is angry with me? Also, if the AS person is angry with me should I try to leave them alone or should I try to talk to him ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do certain cultures despise Aspies? |
| TruthTree |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2012, 11:18 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 8,382
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| I'm Korean born and I can tell you for a fact that mental illness is very poorly understood there. Also it's a very hyper-social culture where everyone feels entitled to get all up in your business. There are all kinds of social protocols that must be followed or you will face severe backlash. I thi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I being unreasonable expecting him to get a job? |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2012, 11:03 pm
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Replies: 50
Views: 5,567
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| Your husband does sound Aspie to me, although the physical violence bit is shocking. Mine would never lay a hand on me, but then he's not the meltdown type and internalizes everything. Some comments on his behaviour: 1. "Silent Treatment" - It's likely that he was just overloaded and needed to get a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2012, 10:03 pm
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Replies: 2,515
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| Question for Aspies please. How can I tell the difference between: a) When an AS person overloaded and needs to be left alone b) When the AS person won't speak to me because he is angry with me? Also, if the AS person is angry with me should I try to leave them alone or should I try to talk to him ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2012, 9:58 pm
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Replies: 2,515
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| Question for NTs Do you complain that Aspie's never admit that they are wrong? My ex-wife and stepdaughter were what I would classify as alpha NTs. For example, stepD was student council president in high school. During our marriage, a common complaint from them about me was that I would "never ad... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having a sense of self when you were young |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 6:55 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,003
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| This is fascinating to me as a NT. I only felt that sort of worldliness when I tried shrooms for the first time. You describe exactly how it felt, like I couldn't filter the world and I was part of everything. THis was also when I felt like I could finally understand the 'frequency' that my AS bf op... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: showing of feelings by aspies. |
| TruthTree |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 5:43 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,336
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| I'm NT I think sometimes I do express more than I feel, but I do it because I think it will make the other person happy. For example I will exaggerate when I say things like "I love that!! !" or "That is so awesome!! !" because I think the person I'm talking to will feel good that I'm reacting so p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 5:15 pm
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| I can't speak for anyone else but for me the second one just wouldn't happen. I hope this is the case.. If you don't mind, can I ask you, what you do when you are angry with someone? Perhaps you could arrange some kind of signal system with the aspie or aspies in your life? Signs on a door perhaps ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 4:18 pm
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Replies: 2,515
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| Question for Aspies please. How can I tell the difference between: a) When an AS person overloaded and needs to be left alone b) When the AS person won't speak to me because he is angry with me? Also, if the AS person is angry with me should I try to leave them alone or should I try to talk to him a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: showing of feelings by aspies. |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 3:54 pm
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Replies: 22
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| I'm NT I think sometimes I do express more than I feel, but I do it because I think it will make the other person happy. For example I will exaggerate when I say things like "I love that!! !" or "That is so awesome!! !" because I think the person I'm talking to will feel good that I'm reacting so po... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What are your scores? I'm creating a prediction calc. |
| TruthTree |
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Posted: 29 May 2011, 8:57 am
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Replies: 84
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Age : 28
Education: University
Gender: Female
Diagnosis: NT
AQ test -14
The "Aspie"/"Neurotypical" test - 43/200 Aspie, 165/200 NT
The Systemizer / Empathizer test - EQ 41, SQ 38
MBTI: ENFJ |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 29 May 2011, 7:25 am
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Replies: 2,515
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| Several months ago, someone who has been very kind and helpful to me, caught me at a very bad moment (I was in the middle of a depressive meltdown). I was fearful I was rude to them so, with some difficulty I told them about my problems. They were very supportive and kind to me. A few weeks ago, I ... |
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