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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Going out? |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2011, 2:56 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,828
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| I used to do it in hopes of meeting women, but was rejected every time :( I really hate doing it, and so I don't go anymore. I think you're looking in the wrong place for starters. Bars and clubs are generally where many NT people go for one night stands and Friend with Benefits type of flings.I'm ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How annoyed do you get at all the 'social norms' out there? |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2011, 2:43 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 7,937
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| Fairly regular for me. Call me lazy,unmotivated,etc whatever but the ones that irk me the most are the general suspects "You gotta get a good college education to be successful in life" "You're gonna have to work hard at the 9-5 grind for a while if you want to be wealthy someday" You gotta dress th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone know any Speech Techniques I could try. |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2011, 2:28 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,159
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| I'm an aspie that stutters over my words a lot. Even if I'm having a good social moment the sudden falling apart of my speech or drawing a complete blank can ruin any confidence I might have gotten.I can tell I get weird stares when this happens and that just makes it worse.Talking to new people is ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Understanding girls who just want to be friends. |
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Posted: 25 Sep 2011, 8:31 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 4,666
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| I cant see the link, but in my experience if I just wanted to be friends with a guy that ment I did not feel any physical attraction for him, but I liked to hang out with him. Notice I ended up married to a guy "I just wanted to be friends" with. Does this mean you eventually felt attraction for hi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Obsessed about a relationship |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 11:28 pm
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Replies: 12
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| Do people on the spectrum have trouble with becoming obsessed with a relationship? I am dating a girl sort of and I have trouble thinking of anything else other than about her/the relationship. Any strategies for not making it the focal point of your thoughts? =/ Yep...either 'too obsessed' or 'too... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm attracted to guys who probably wouldn't like me back...? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 5:33 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 7,544
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| but pursued by guys who i have no attraction to, no matter how much I try to fancy them. I mean the guys I fancy would usually be the good-looking, confident, smart ones who are also nice too, but they wouldn't be the type of guys who would text a lot of girls hoping to get one of them to shift the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: That's it! I'm taking a stand! |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 5:14 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 3,278
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| What is the red swingline about? Thanks for making me feel better. Glad to know I'm not the only who didn't get the reference, lol. Nothing to be ashamed of - it just means you probably have a life... :wink: Google is your friend people. I had no idea as well but after googleing red stappler I foun... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: socialising and getting scared |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 4:37 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,250
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| If there was someone you could roleplay this kind of situation with, someone you trust, that could help a lot. True...plus if you can OP Visualization everyday might help you too.It can help better train your brain to accept the reality you want.Maybe imagine yourself dancing/talking with guys and ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I break up with my girlfriend because I suck. |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 3:01 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 7,209
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| maybe if you stopped whining and started acting like a man youd feel like you are good enough for her. It's hard to go back to school without a car in your mid 20s....sort of. How do I act like a man? I feel I am too mentally weak. Exactly....If your mind is imprisoned it doesn't matter what shape ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie Affection |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 2:51 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,975
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smudge wrote: Everybody including me says that it doesn't work. Why doesn't it get sorted? I mean, can Alex get anyone else to fix it if he's too busy?
Hahaha cool avatar OP...Sutherland from the Lost Boys right? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Has the question 'why would someone like me' ever prevented |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 2:46 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 6,299
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| you having or looking for a relationship? Sure have,and it's really a sad situation that so many of us are prisoners in our own minds like that. Because I'm sure that at one time or other for each of us there has been an interested party of the opposite sex that thought... 'They're so hot/cute/funn... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: socialising and getting scared |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 2:39 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,250
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| If there was someone you could roleplay this kind of situation with, someone you trust, that could help a lot. True...plus if you can OP Visualization everyday might help you too.It can help better train your brain to accept the reality you want.Maybe imagine yourself dancing/talking with guys and ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Another reason why I choose to keep a smaller social circle |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 2:31 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,237
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| I'm sure we all know the common feeling of being nervous or feeling mentally drained if we stay in a social situation for too long. But besides that deal,I have another issue with being a social butterfly. Every time I do temporarily open up and have to force myself to communicate for long periods,I... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Who here has never been in a relationship? |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2011, 10:21 pm
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Replies: 146
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| nothing here. not as much as made small talk with women. i think ive given up. Don't give up at 20. You've got plenty of time to turn things around, unlike me and some of the older guys here. You're not too old either.These days people sometimes find their soul mates in their 30's,40's,or even 50's... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Say no to pick up as*holes |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2011, 11:46 am
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Replies: 264
Views: 20,747
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| Am I doing it because I want to get as many lays from random women as possible,and to heck with their feelings?Nope..actually the idea of forever having mindless promiscuous sex with multiple women who don't truly love me is an enormous turnoff.Sadly yes..this is the main plan the PUA guru's go for... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Say no to pick up as*holes |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2011, 9:02 am
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Replies: 264
Views: 20,747
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| There is no need for capitalization for these guys. No matter how they sugar coat it or have their chosen word heroes that word things carefully, underneath it all, what they are basically saying is that they are entitled to controlling you and manipulating you. Women, look out for the warning sign... |
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