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Forum: The Haven Topic: Wish I were dead |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2011, 3:48 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,705
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| Are you planning hormones/surgery? Because while they can't change everything and certain things will always be more masculine about you, evven hormones alone can do a lot. And it's often the parts of you that you'd least expect which are the parts that can be the difference between looking male or... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and prejudice |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2011, 1:06 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 6,094
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| IPrivelege is hard to grasp as a concept, because you do have to grasp the concept as a whole, but most NT don't think about it, because they are well...priveleged. Privelege usually appears when one is confronted with the fact they don't have it. . There are many,many privilege groups. For every p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and prejudice |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2011, 12:00 pm
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Replies: 45
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| I understand what you are saying about privelege. I get that. But understanding which ways you have such privelege is very important, but also understanding the ways that you do not have privelege is. It is often very complicated. For example, I have privelege of education, but I also am queer, have... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Struggling with being a daughter |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2011, 11:36 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,287
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| Love without acceptance is not love at all. For those parents who do not display such love, they deserve no love in return. |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Feel like a 12 year old with respect to gay relationships |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2011, 10:43 am
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Replies: 5
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| That sounds weird, I know, so let me try to explain. I only recently came to the conclusion and accepted that I am gay. I realized that although I'd had crushes on girls previously, that had not happened for a long time and in any case I wasn't sexually attracted to them at all. On the other hand, ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Struggling with being a daughter |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2011, 9:38 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,287
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| It doesn't sound 'heartless'. It sounds unnecessarily cruel and ungrateful to the people who wasted a lot of time and effort on you. By all means, live by that philosophy if you like, but I wouldn't go around encouraging others to act the same way. It is not unnecessarily cruel and ungrateful. It i... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Modern marriage in America |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 4:22 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Though I am shuddering at the thought of suburban housewives, talk about my nightmare. For any woman with a Doctorate this is not really a viable option. So staying at home is not an option, you don't spend 7 to 10 years in college to stay at home. Definitely not true. One of the moms here is a law... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Chicago Startup Exclusively Hires People With Asperger's |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 3:16 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 2,849
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| This has been posted before. Like I said, if there is anybody here which is a programmer I am doing a startup as well in the DC area. But I think programmers in general are in very high demand right now. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Told off by my aunt |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 3:02 pm
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Replies: 9
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| Today I went onto Facebook to find a message from my aunt, it went along the lines of; 'You're mam is back from hospital, she's okay but a little sore. She's disappointed that you haven't been in touch. You know you've only got one mam, you should show you care about her more' - my aunt never talks... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Struggling with being a daughter |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 2:46 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,287
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| I realize that there is more to this relationship than I am able to write and than this recent conversation. I know my mother's ultimate intent is not to make me upset, but she has doggedly and single-mindedly pursued turning me back to religion for the last twenty years. The conversation only ends... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: 100 Incomprehensible NT expectations |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 2:28 pm
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Replies: 27
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| 33. Expectations to socialize with people just because they are family, especially when they would never be somebody you would talk to in real life. 34. Expectations to go to social events when they hold no importance. With regards to the OP and others. I don't talk to my family because of some of t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Gave up, and I feel fine! |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 1:34 pm
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Replies: 57
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| You have a job. You have a house. You have a car (4x4?) And most importantly, you have 2 wonderful kids and I have the impression that you're taking good care of them. Seriously, you don't need a woman. You've achieved important things that many wouldn't here. Actually, I have: A business (self-emp... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Struggling with being a daughter |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 10:02 am
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Replies: 26
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| She sounds stressful, but I don't think you should cut ties, not at this stage; she's old. My mum says hurtful stuff too. Recently, and completely out of the blue, she said she tried her best and hoped I forgave her for anything she did wrong... I was kind of gobsmacked because before that, I had h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Modern marriage in America |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2011, 9:37 am
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Replies: 8
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| The couple would discuss it, and weigh different factors like how much money each would make in those respective jobs, whether they'd like to live in one city more than another, etc. That said, tenure-track professorships are extremely rare. If the wife wants to be a professor, they will have to mo... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Adult Aspergers and handling the anger problems! |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2011, 1:49 pm
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Replies: 47
Views: 19,884
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| Starygrrl: my neck is cracking from all the nodding i made while reading the billion of words you wrote , and i absolutely agree with each of them. One tiny thing to add: the other option while being pressured to do something, (other than cutting one's family out of one's life) would be to clam up ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Adult Aspergers and handling the anger problems! |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2011, 12:19 pm
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Replies: 47
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| I hate to be honest about this. But the truth of the matter for me is that breaking away from my family and thier expectations was the best thing I did when I was in my twenties. I no longer speak to them. The anger issues, which are probably caused by meltdowns, can only be addressed a few ways, ba... |
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