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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Growing up autistic = trauma? |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2017, 1:31 pm
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| Do I sound like an average run of the mill 14 year old autistic boy. I doubt it. I've met them b4. They don't sound or act like me. Most "average run of the mill" people think they are special. This could have very well been written by an "average run of the mill 14 year old autistic... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Growing up autistic = trauma? |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2017, 8:39 am
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Replies: 20
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| I'm wondering if growing up autistic - especially not knowing you are - can cause trauma? Of course, everyone's experiences are different, but I think we all know that growing up autistic can be hard. For some people more than others. Not knowing why you're experiencing the world more intensely tha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Growing up autistic = trauma? |
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Posted: 14 Sep 2017, 4:26 pm
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Replies: 20
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| I'm wondering if growing up autistic - especially not knowing you are - can cause trauma? Of course, everyone's experiences are different, but I think we all know that growing up autistic can be hard. For some people more than others. Not knowing why you're experiencing the world more intensely than... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do others not FEEL eye contact? |
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Posted: 14 Sep 2017, 10:50 am
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Replies: 26
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| I do fake eye contact but only for a few seconds or so, then look down. Up and down, all the time during a conversation. And no, I don't "feel" the eye contact, I just do it because I know it's an expected part of communication and it establishes a connection. If not for me, then hopefully... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How soon do you tell a potential date you have AS? |
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Posted: 09 Sep 2017, 2:07 pm
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Replies: 10
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| I've wondered a lot about this thing too, and I've come to believe that it's a completely individual thing. There are no rules for when you should or shouldn't tell. It's all about what you're comfortable with. However, I'd think about how much AS affects your communication and the way you behave. T... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being too nice? |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2017, 7:52 pm
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Replies: 25
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| Is there such a thing as being too nice? Of course being nice isn't a bad thing but take me, for example. I'm afraid that I'm too much of it and I wonder if it has anything to do with ASD. I'll just lay this out in point-format cause I'm not entirely sure how to express myself right now: 1) I can't... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being too nice? |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2017, 8:31 pm
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Replies: 25
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| I can relate lazyflower , I don't have a Dx but that's sounds like me. :roll: I'm overly polite verbally and the rude b'stard of alan in relation to body language. Interesting point with the body language. Maybe it's because I'm autistic but I don't really notice body language in myself or other pe... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being too nice? |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2017, 7:31 pm
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Replies: 25
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| Myself in one post. That's all. :D I am a real people-pleaser! I wouldn't say I'm "too nice", but I think the things you describe can be good. It causes me trouble as well when I can't say "No!" and things like that, but I would rather be too nice than evil and uncaring. Glad to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being too nice? |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2017, 7:19 pm
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Replies: 25
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| Is there such a thing as being too nice? Of course being nice isn't a bad thing but take me, for example. I'm afraid that I'm too much of it and I wonder if it has anything to do with ASD. I'll just lay this out in point-format cause I'm not entirely sure how to express myself right now: 1) I can't ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Extroverted Autists |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2017, 6:55 pm
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Replies: 26
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| I've known a good bunch of people on the spectrum and sure, most of them are rather introverted, but there are extroverted types too. The ones I've encountered have been very talkative and kind of loud. You definitely notice their presence. Not always in a bad sense, though some can have problems wi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you know if you love someone? |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2017, 11:29 am
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Replies: 7
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| I think the downfall here is how we talk about love in the English language. The Greeks have much more expressive words. I think that familial or philial love is more like your chest tightens when you think about them and you feel a warm fuzzy feeling. Especially when you think of something they di... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Do you like yourself? |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2017, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 35
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| I have chronic low self-esteem but there are definitely times where I like myself more than others. Right at this moment, I actually like myself and feel kind of proud of myself. Tomorrow, it might be a different story though and self-loathing all day isn't uncommon for me. It shifts a lot. It very ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you know if you love someone? |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2017, 4:34 pm
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| This may seem like a stupid question. The thing is though, I'm not talking about romantic love here. In fact, I think romantic love is easier for me to understand, because you have that physical attraction as well. Platonic love however, the opposite of romantic, is much more confusing to me - as in... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Getting friend jealous |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2017, 9:50 am
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Replies: 18
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| Actually it's a good sign that they praise people in front if you. They're probably praising you to other people. It's like the opposite of a gossipy friend. If a friend gossips to you about others they sure will be gossiping about you. That's probably a good way of thinking! Thanks for your input ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My dilemma |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2017, 2:57 pm
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Replies: 3
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| Social relationships, especially friendships, are stressful for me. Having to figure out how to be social and communicate well enough, drains me of energy every day. So does worrying about every move I make and overanalyze every move someone else makes. I also have an inferiority complex which doesn... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Getting friend jealous |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2017, 2:48 pm
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Replies: 18
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| I relate a lot to the issue of not being able to tell where you stand in a friendship. Besides that, knowing what someone else thinks of me is almost impossible which results in me questioning that a lot. Doesn't matter if they're a close friend, I always question if they actually like me or not, a... |
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