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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: is body language enough to make people hate you? |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2015, 5:49 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 2,967
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| After many long years, I discovered something. Being angry is no fun. So, I developed coping mechanisms to hide it from the world. One technique is to be sincere. Give people an honest compliment. Finding something that makes me smile and then using it. Change happens only when I have to courage to ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Trying to be friends with people... should I even bother? |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2015, 9:41 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,403
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| Relationships are hard work. The give and take part confuses me to no end. Then, there are all the boundaries and the support rules. In general, being in social situations makes me uncomfortable. So, I try to be pleasant and keep people at arms length. It gets lonely |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: Terrorists are on the rampage in Paris |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2015, 6:31 am
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Replies: 249
Views: 8,055
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| Early reports are saying the terrorists were homegrown, much like the 7/7 attack in London. The saddest part is that these attacks happen frequently all over the world. There needs to be some way to defuse the hate. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: is body language enough to make people hate you? |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2015, 5:59 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 2,967
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| I've always wondered how important putting a smile on your face is. No matter how hard I try. I could never put a fake smile on my face. Anybody who looks at me will tell me that it looks fake. Besides, trying to do it just feel dirty and wrong. If I'm gonna put a real smile on my face. I need to b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My Theory on Facial Expression and Staring |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 3:43 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 1,284
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| THAT FIRST CLIP IS HOLY-FVCKING-MOLEY AWESOME 8O 8O 8O 8O :!: :!: :!: :!: TMS PERMANENTLY ALTERED HIS BRAIN 8O 8O 8O 8O I NEVER KNEW THAT WAS POSSIBLE 8O 8O 8O WOWOW 8O Thank you soooo much :D :D :D :D :nerdy: :nerdy: :nerdy: There's more info about it here: http://jerobison.blogspot.com/p/use-of-t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Genuinely Fascinated By People |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 7:56 am
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Replies: 39
Views: 1,731
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| People are fascinating. I took up street photography to observe and interact. It was immensely helpful. I learned how to approach people, make eye contact, put them at ease and get some great photographs. Sitting in a busy park watching people go bye is one of my all time favorite distractions. And ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My girlfriend told me I am greedy and selfish, am I? |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 7:39 am
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Replies: 163
Views: 12,609
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First, you should congratulate yourself on having a two plus year relationship. My question is, what are you willing to do to keep it going?
There is some type of miscommunication happening and you need to figure out what she trying to say. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Autism Self-Diagnosis Is Not Special Snowflake Syndrome" |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 6:27 am
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Replies: 128
Views: 6,249
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| After a certian age, what is the benefit of getting an official label, validation? There is no cure. All I can do is have the courage to face issues head on. CBT, mindfulness and other coping strategies are helpful. Reading similar stories makes me feel better about myself. I spent most of my life o... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The biggest threat to any democracy..... |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2015, 11:32 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,236
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| Benjamin Franklin said, In a democracy the people get what majority deserve. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My Theory on Facial Expression and Staring |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2015, 11:14 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 1,284
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| You are correct. Controlling your face is a big deal. My expressions have gotten in trouble from time to time. I let my guard down and the real face appears. I wear a mask in public. A face that is appropriate for the situation. The one that works the best is happy beagle face. I practice it frequen... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: any tips for overcoming severe avoidance and anxiety? |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2015, 8:25 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,198
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| I wish there was a simple answer. Life is difficult and it takes courage to face our issues. In public, I try to wear a mask that is more acceptable to the people around me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Social awkwardness, anxiety, or avoidance |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2015, 8:18 am
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Replies: 37
Views: 4,880
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| Social anxiety leads me to social avoidance. My coping mechanisms tend to fail when I am in social situations. I have missed out on so many social situation over my life. The fear and dread just take over and I try to disappear. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies and Social Awkwardness v. Social Anxiety |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2015, 8:12 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 9,301
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| Both, I have tried all types of coping techniques when I am out in public. But in the end, I come home exhausted, confused and frustrated. |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Maybe Java is for Neurotypicals |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2015, 7:56 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 3,264
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| I like Java. It is a simple object oriented language. I have worked in FORTRAN, various assemblers, Basic, C, C++, ADA and a whole bunch of scripting languages. Java allows me to write straight forward reusable code. Building large systems may be a different story. For that, C/C++ is my go to langua... |
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Forum: Games and Video Games Topic: Do you gamble? |
| goatfish57 |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2015, 7:45 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 2,027
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| From time to time. Buying a lottery ticket when the expectation is not too negative and having a day dream can be fun. I modeled various trading and betting strategies over the years. The simple answer is let the professional risk their money, all other should just have fun. |
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